Family frustrations. What would you say to yours that you really can’t in RL?

[Kroptopbelly]

I can’t even say anything on MN because I would be torn limb from limb, that’s how bad my frustrations & opinions are.

I do feel like an evil cow yes but good God.
What would you say to yours?

I urged you to sort out your parents' wills, but your reticence and head-in-the-sand-ness prevailed. And now you're in a fucking mess.

I really don't like my youngest grandson's name, but as his parents chose this name, why can't they use it, stop adding sey or ass, just use the god awful name that they chose.

Please don't be so sensitive. It makes having a two way conversation impossible. Just because we have a different opinion doesn't mean I think I am correct and you are incorrect. It's what's popped into my head and I'd love it if we could have a dialogue and see where we end up.

It’s a baby not the second coming. And it does not give you the right to act like a spoiled selfish nasty person.

You aren’t permanently ill you are fucking lazy

You know most parents would at least mention the cancer if they saw their daughter the day after her diagnosis?

1). Thanks so much for bubling up together leaving me and my kids on our own. I'll remember.

2). Leave him. He's a waste of space and has even ramped up his levels of crapness by going back to smoking weed. Please please leave him.

3). I'm not okay. I'm not so strong. I'm not doing great. You all TELLING me that doesn't make it true. This has been the shittest year of my life, and that's saying something. You might actually know how I was going if any of you made an effort to spend time with me or the kids.

4). Eldest. I love you but for the love of God leave yourself alone for 5 minutes and sort out your room.

Aaah. It feels good to get those off my chest.

To my mum - I wish you could stop drinking. I know that you are still doing it even though you pretend you have stopped & it makes me sad & cross. It would mean the world to you to be able to have your grandchildren on your own or to help your terminally ill father but I'm afraid we just can't trust you not to drink when there is no other adult around

To my MIL - the DC, DH & I love you so much & we remember the wonderful person you were before dementia took hold 💔

To my Grandad - you are not a burden. We are more than happy to do everything you need us to do. It does take up a lot of time & is a pain sometimes, but we will never not do it 💙

Do you know how refusing to look after yourself has impacted on your wife's health?

My family

DM - you have 3 children. Why are you only ever capable of being there for one child? Also, the thing that you think I don't know about? The lying thats gone on. I know. I just don't have the receipts. Yet.

Sibling 1. - Nobody else may "see you" but I do and everyone will one day you absolute horror.

Sibling 2 - I know you checked out years ago, and I respect it but not all of us can run away in the same way you did. I'd really like some help running away too.

Oh!

Dad - you are a liar, a conman and a thief. Stop laying those emotional guilt trips on DSis, you owe her tens of thousands and she owes you fuck all. Don't look at me like that either!

Mum - at least try not to be so fucking surrendered!

DHs family - just fuck off! He isn't a walking bank. He only stopped making regular contact becasue he was always met with "It's alright for you" and outstretched palms. His aunt and uncle - fuck you too! How dare you bleat that something something stopped you calling him, You found my numer quick enough when you wanted something!

His half sibs and my DSis - Hi! We do love you all really

No. Proud is not how you describe the fuck up of a daughter you have neglected to raise properly.
She has accepted the shit sandwich that she has created for herself and yes, you have handed it to her in spadefulls.

Proud no, absolutely gutted and ashamed you should be.
That goes for you mum, you fucking did this too.

You are a toxic, nasty, self involved, self important, self centred complete fucking cunt of the highest order. What goes around comes around.
Just you wait, what goes around comes around.

Mil you do not need to interrupt everything we try and tell you with a story about sil child and how much better they are in your opinion

Mum, l work to pay my mortgage and it’s important to me that my children know the value of money, so unless you have won the lottery and are going to pay my mortgage off and money to live off please shut up.

Dsis 1 ,how you are 36k in debt scares me and no l can’t give you any more money as l know l won’t get it back.

Dsis 2, stop giving me had mum your hand me down shit for my ds , l wouldn’t give the stuff to a charity shop , in fact a free you you Facebook group banned me from giving boys clothes away ever again.

Dbro l see the look on your face and l agree.

My sort of thread. Hate my nephew’s name, so chavvy. Resent that my mum sold her flat so now we have to pick up the pieces and buy a larger house with a granny flat as she’s getting too old to work and pay rent (all the money from her flat is gone too)

I’d like to think I’d ask something like...Why did you tell me another man was my father for all these years and let me be rejected by him time and time again when it turns out he never was? But truth is I’m just too hurt by it all and so will probably just never speak to her again.

Just because of your health condition doesn't mean you can treat people like little slaves! Still smoking 40 a day after a dibilitating stroke and expecting your husband and kids to rally round and pander to your every need it the epitomine of utterly selfish. I have no respect for you anymore and would be happy if I never had to see you again.

Im so mean but feels better off my chest. Would Never say this, mind you she probably would

Older sibling--you do know that the letter that you sent out to the entire family years ago , elucidating all the rules for visiting guests, means that I will never visit you now. You know, the one that told us that you would not break the day long routine of your hobby during the visit, would not provide any food, airport pickup, take a few hours to look at local sites, etc. Because, of course the huge distance covered and expense spent that it would take to visit you out in the middle of nowhere is nothing compared to your quality time with your vegetable garden.

To my mum, stop being so negative all the time. You really don't need to talk about everyone. Your sil was a bitch to you 30 years ago, you no longer see or speak to her, let it go. Stop cleaning your 30 year old dd's bedroom, kick her out so she can finally stand on her own two feet. It is not your fault she has type 1 diabetes.

To my dad, kick your useless dd out, stop paying for her, if she is going to live with you, her and the husband should be paying rent. Stop paying for his bottled water and groceries, the shit can drink tap water like the rest of us. She wants the house dad and will stay in it till you have no choice but to sign it over.

To my sister closest in age, the world doesn't owe you a living. Stop being so entitled, no it really isn't my fault ot anyone else's that you have type 1 diabetes. You have had it for 16 years, change the record and moan about something else. No I didn't have a baby to spite you, we didn't keep planning a 3rd a secret. You aren't helping mum and dad by living with them, you don't pay rent or groceries, don't thank them for making your meals and cleaning up after you, some days you won't even speak to them. I can't believe I am related to someone so feckless. Once mum and dad are no longer here I will cut all contact with you, in fact if dad goes first I will do so sooner.

I have a very close relationship to my brother and youngest sister and we can speak openly and do. I have voiced all of the above to my dad bar the bit about my sister wanting their mortgage free home.

DSis. You ruined the last few days with mum by barging into quiet moments I was having and shoving your hand in my face., so many times. While Dad is still here I'll be civil but once he passes on you won't see me again

DD. I've been your mum and dad most of your life. I wasn't expecting much on Mother's Day. A homemade card would have been lovely. But you didn't even wish me a happy Mother's Day. Nothing. I'm struggling to get past that

To my exils. Why do people consider you both so great? When I had dc you never bothered with them once sil had her dc.. When we divorced and a judge deemed your ds too violent to see our older dc you erased them from your memory..
Do you ever wonder why only 1of 4 dc see you as adults?

Future mother in law.. you won't just not be invited to our wedding, you are not going to be told when we get married. This week your son has been emailing your cousin that we now know you stole a family heirloom from. Your cousin spent 4000 pounds getting the item repaired after you returned it deliberately damaged. Writing begging letters asking her to let you keep it.. just because you like something she inhearited doesn't mean you can just take it. You are lucky your cousin wasnt me as I would have gone to the police to talk about theft and criminal damage and pushed for a conviction. Your son has never met her but wants some sane relatives and they are getting on really well. Your cousin is putting him in contact with your sister who you despise and do not speak to. He's not seen her since he was a teenager and we now know you refused to give her his contact details and you told him lots of lies about what the terrible things she did.. which are actually things you did. I have told your cousin about how our future children will need a replacement grandmother and have been told your sister would love to be a grandma especially being medically unable to have children and twice widowed. So the sister you hate is going to be a grandmother to the grandchildren you aren't allowed to see. You said to your son ' You aren't my son' so you can't really argue with the fact your grandchildren will not be your grandchildren. Also your sister and cousin have been informed you horrifically abused your children and that you had a dead cat in the fridge in formaldehyde for five years. One day your brother who has downs syndrome and who you have not bothered to visit since 2015 will pass away. You'll have the audacity rock up to the funeral of the disabled brother you refused to visit, possibly with one or two of your other children who haven't bothered to see him since they were teenagers 30 years ago. You will twig that your estranged son has a relationship with your hated sister and your cousin and you'll be informed of the above. You will meet me for the first time apart from went I saw you in the street by accident. The word Karma will be used repeatedly. You'll still believe that nothing is your fault and that you are a victim. You'll hit the roof.