(LIGHTHEARTED) Bridesmaids proposals, am I so cynical that I think its an absolute waste of time and money?

[thecatmother]

Literally just what I wrote in the title. Obviously with the restrictions hopefully lifting in the near future a lot of brides to be are extremely excited. A number of my social media friends started posting the bridesmaids proposals of cards and boxes with gifts included! I'm just thinking it's an additional expense and stress to add to the already very pricey day! Or maybe I am just a cynical old grump who finds it is weird to "stage a proposal" to your friends!

I don't understand what it is - do you mean this is an elaborate way of asking someone to be your bridesmaid?

Looks like another wedding-based method of parting a fool and their money.

Having no life is excusable at the moment. Once lockdown ends, this kind of crap needs to go with it.

What is a bridesmaid proposal?

I don’t know what it is either.

Oh I’ve heard of this

You “propose” to your bridesmaid with gifts and stuff, all in the name of social media

I went “I want my dd for a bridesmaid and my niece.”

My sister then said “I’ll be your maid of honour and keep control of the kids then ”

Yes, it is. There's a whole new way to ask someone to be your bridesmaid now: a personalised box filled with trinkets and possibly a bottle of champagne or procecco and a card with the actual question, and there's a RSVP card to post back to the bride , some come with personalised balloons attached. All looks very fancy and elaborate!

oh it is a thing. BARF

I googled it and found www.hitched.co.uk/wedding-planning/organising-and-planning/bridesmaid-proposal-box

Yes, it's a waste of money, OP.

Next.

@thecatmother

Yes, it is. There's a whole new way to ask someone to be your bridesmaid now: a personalised box filled with trinkets and possibly a bottle of champagne or procecco and a card with the actual question, and there's a RSVP card to post back to the bride , some come with personalised balloons attached. All looks very fancy and elaborate!

The first problem that strikes me is that all that fuss would make it more awkward for the proposed bridesmaid to say 'no'.

So for that reason it doesn't seem a great idea.

Jesus Christ! Is there no end to the fetishisation of weddings?!

My cousin did this as she is in another country and so couldn't ask me and my daughter in person. Nothing elaborate, just a balloon for me and a teddy for my daughter. We opened them on FaceTime. Was a nice thing given the current situation. Wouldn't think of doing it in normal times.

Oh FFS just when you thought weddings couldn't get anymore ridiculous. DH and I had a wedding for 35 in 2005. At that time at thought we had reached peak madness (and I personally blame that film). But here we are 16 years later and it just gets worse.

@Ifailed

Looks like another wedding-based method of parting a fool and their money.

Ha, so true!

I just rang my sister and my best friend, and said ‘guess what, we’re getting married. Please will you be my bridesmaid?’ Pretty straightforward!

Oh dear Lord. Usually I'm all for a bit of pointless frippery, but this is just beyond daft.

How terribly vulgar.

“Please will you wear a particular dress, be in some photos and maybe organise a night out?” is not something that needs a “proposal”. The actual proposal of marriage between DH and I was significantly less twee and over the top.

What would be extra super lovely, is if the Facebook home-crafted tat sellers would get in on the act.

Propose to your bridesmade with this amazing hamper of goodies. Contains bottle of Lambrini, plastic glass with glitter stuck on, pack of flakes, car air freshner and recycled balloon. Only £200. Dog hairs included.

Never heard of this, what a load of crap 🤮 I'm getting married next year ( for the second time and I'm in my 40s) am I too old for bridesmaids/ maid of honour ?

@MarieDelaere

What would be extra super lovely, is if the Facebook home-crafted tat sellers would get in on the act.

Propose to your bridesmade with this amazing hamper of goodies. Contains bottle of Lambrini, plastic glass with glitter stuck on, pack of flakes, car air freshner and recycled balloon. Only £200. Dog hairs included.

Can I order mine with a faint fragrance of weed please? 😂

@babyyodaxmas

Oh FFS just when you thought weddings couldn't get anymore ridiculous. DH and I had a wedding for 35 in 2005. At that time at thought we had reached peak madness (and I personally blame that film). But here we are 16 years later and it just gets worse.

Peak madness??

Can you keep the stuff and say no?

It's never champagne its always prosecco - that most classy of drinks.

Im in the middle of planning my wedding and cant stand all this crap. There are boxes to propose to the groomsmen too. Then you have to buy your bridesmaids dress, jewellery, shoes, hair makeup, matching getting ready robes or pajamas which also have to be ridiculously twee. Then your mother/mother of the bride/groom gift. And one for the groom as well

People have money to burn

Oh gawd. As someone who has a wedding to plan, I am pleased I chose my bridesmaids pre-pandemic.

I'm having :

My Neice who'll be age 6/7
Oh Neice will be 20
DD 19
SDD 20
Chief Bridesmaid is my cousin who I'm very close to.

Then i buggered up, being drunk and over excited and asked my oldest friend to be Maid of honour.

Sober me: I've a Chief Bridesmaid and a Maid of Honour.... It'll be fine.

Got sidetracked. My point was, no bleeding way would I have "proposed" to them. What a farce.