I am so very sad ... Would you consider walking with me and other women and girls at 6pm tonight - just out of your own front door, or in your local park?

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Tonight there was to have been a vigil on Clapham Common cancelled by the police.... Heartbreaking on so many levels.

All the planned vigils have been cancelled.

But we are all allowed to walk - in our households or with one friend socially distanced.

Would you tonight consider walking with a candle?

Perhaps encourage others to walk too?

Even tell them where you might be going?

And courage calls to courage everywhere... Janice Turner's tweet summed it up perfectly - pasted below

I suspect many women will head to Clapham anyway this evening. Will be interesting to see if the Met dares arrest or fine them, given one of their own officers has been charged with Sarah Everard’s murder. What would the Suffragettes do?

Seriously would any other vulnerable group protesting a grotesque death allegedly by a police officer be told be kind, contain your anger, post hashtags online. But ladies: stay home, be nice.

Fuck lighting a candle, quite honestly.

I am sad that the vigils have been cancelled. I could not go as sole carer of 4 young dc who would not be able to go and act appropriately, and also cannot walk at 6 as that's bedtime, but I will light a candle in my porch.

I won't be taking a candle because it's so fucking windy here, but I will be heading to the local park with friends for a socially distanced walk at 6pm.

Tbh it all seems like virtue signalling to me. Much like clap for carers etc.

It's not virtue signalling to light a candle for a tragically departed soul ffs.

really? how many other women have died since Sarah Everard went missing? Killed at the hands of their partners for instance.

I think lots of us are feeling ridiculously sad about Sarah that some people just have an overwhelming compulsion to express their emotions with a vigil.

Ironically I think there will be more women on the streets walking to and from the vigil possibly also alone and I'd hate for any male predators to take advantage of that.

I will stay safe at home with my thoughts

I'm not walking for just Sarah .... I am walking for all women... I was so glad to see the Femicide campaign launched in the Observer last weekend

I think have international women’s day this week stirs up feelings and this on top of it means people are feeling emotional and wanting change.

@HeartsAndClubs

Tbh it all seems like virtue signalling to me. Much like clap for carers etc.

Agreed. The nonsense & sentimental hand-wringing about a walk is ridiculous.

The grief & heartbreak over Sarah & other deaths is meaningful & understandable. There are many important conversations to be had. Socially distanced walks with candles aren't for me, at all.

I’ll be there in spirit, light a candle at home. If it weren’t for DC and living in a not so great area I’d go for a walk around our park

@TheDrsDocMartens change, yes. But I think so many of us now just feel done with it all. There’s only so many conversations you can have, but the people who should be listening aren’t. A walk, a vigil doesn’t just signify heartbreak at Sarah’s death, it signifies heartbreak at all deaths like this. That we still have to walk, that we still have to hold vigils, because men still haven’t learned that violence against women is wrong. They’ve not realised we no longer live in the Stone Age where it was acceptable to bonk a woman over the head, drag us into a cave and rape us, murder us, treat us as unworthy of any kind of say over ourselves. We still have to stand up and shout that we are human, we are people, and we are fucking tired of the crimes committed against us by men.

Virtue signalling? was it virtue signalling when everyone protested for BLM? Was it virtue signalling when there was an outpouring of grief and sharing of stories for BLM? People didn't stay home, they spoke up about what is insidious in society, and they stood by the cause because it's important.

It's not the same, but it's not all too different.

I wont be doing it, I live very rurally and sadly I've had some scary experiences around here being followed by creepy men in the dark.

@Wellysock

Virtue signalling? was it virtue signalling when everyone protested for BLM? Was it virtue signalling when there was an outpouring of grief and sharing of stories for BLM? People didn't stay home, they spoke up about what is insidious in society, and they stood by the cause because it's important.

It's not the same, but it's not all too different.

Oh here we go.

Some privileged person compares it to black lives.

@HeartsAndClubs

Tbh it all seems like virtue signalling to me. Much like clap for carers etc.

So do something else that YOU find a better solution then.

Personally I won’t be out walking because I have kids to attend to but tonight’s bedtime stories will be out of their books about inspiring women.

This is the polar opposite to for clap for carers btw. Clap for carers was propaganda, driven by our corrupt and failing politicians. It was a tool to pit sections of our society against eachother under the disguise of bringing us together. It was used to stir up whataboutery and curtain twitching and to cover up other things that were going on.

The people that started clap for carers very much do not want any kind of vigil for women’s human rights.

I really object to the phrase"virtue signalling". What's wrong exacty with individuals acting in small ways that show their values and beliefs?

Oh here we go. Someone assuming they know the background of another poster.

Sod off @HeartsAndClubs
Its not sbout virtue signalling. Its about reclaiming the streets that AREN’T safe for women right now
It took one man out of many being killed for the world to take on BLM. 118 women have died in a year and no one has ever protested about it. Thats 118 daughters, sisters, aunts, mothers. Maybe this one is the tipping point.
Its also about the little things, the comments, the unwanted conversations, the touching. Its about saying enough. Not fucking virtue signalling

What about the 30 other women who have been killed so far this year, that barely made news?

Is it privileged that 2 women are murdered a week by men in the UK? Is it wrong to want to say 'enough'?

@Hidingunderthetable

Sod off *@HeartsAndClubs* Its not sbout virtue signalling. Its about reclaiming the streets that AREN’T safe for women right now It took one man out of many being killed for the world to take on BLM. 118 women have died in a year and no one has ever protested about it. Thats 118 daughters, sisters, aunts, mothers. Maybe this one is the tipping point. Its also about the little things, the comments, the unwanted conversations, the touching. Its about saying enough. Not fucking virtue signalling

This times 10, I'm sick of being told women are being hysterical again. Heartsandclubs, it's people like you who are part of the problem FFS.

Can we at least use this to say this is why women's biology matters? I can't believe this is how it goes for 50 percent of the population.

If I were in London I'd be going to Clapham.

Fuck the Met, how dare they. One of their officers murdered a woman walking home

Many different marches have happened during lockdown and somehow it's only this one where everyone's patted on the head and told to stay home. Fuck the lot of them. Were they in the high court when anti maskers took to the streets of London?

Exactly @traintrain. Angry men? Fine, knock yourselves out with your protests. Angry women? Completely unacceptable

I’ve been trying to work out if there’s anything in my area. No where near London. Maybe I’ll just go. Comes to something when a woman walking on a street is worthy of debate and discussion. I’ll be along the canal and hope to see others.