Going to miss my kids

[mumof5cn]

How are you feeling about your kids going back to school next week?

I have mixed feelings about mine going back to school next week - happy that life hopefully will slowly begin to get back to normal, but we have also enjoyed and cherished the time we have had altogether and now need to adapt back from life as we have come to know it to proper normality!

Going to miss the company but not the home schooling. It’s been pretty stressful.

We all went back already (not in UK) and I have to say I loved having mine with me at home and we all got on well. But it was great to be back.

I've loved every minute of having them home with me. It's really made us all so much closer

I'm glad mine's going back...he's only 4 and needs more running around with other children and being loud time than he could get in a flat with two parents wfh and a baby.

Not looking forward to always needing to wash the uniform though.

I feel wonderful
The behaviour problems and stress this has brought. I have forgotten how to have fun I feel like
I cannot wait

I think it’s lovely that you had such a positive experience and you and your children will remember it for all your lives and it will be something you look back on with great delight.

Now you’ll do the next chapter.

@PuppyMonkey

I think it’s lovely that you had such a positive experience and you and your children will remember it for all your lives and it will be something you look back on with great delight.

Now you’ll do the next chapter.

Thank you. That's such a lovely positive thing to say x

@mumof5cn

I've loved every minute of having them home with me. It's really made us all so much closer

Christ.

I'm not doubting your experience but I'm amazed.

I can't wait (I'm in Ireland, phased return, 2 of mine back in one week, 1 more still at home till April).

I'm practically cracking up. I have lively, vocal children ... which can translate into hyper, loud, semi-feral children on a given day.

I'm a single parent, working f/t in a challenging role, with no support. I've seen no family members for months. I haven't seen my mum since August last.

I'm never without company these days - but am utterly lonely. I see people on screen for hours a day due to my job but actual connection ... nope.

I keep thinking of 'nice things' I should do with my kids. I bet I'll regret I didn't make more of the time, when I look back. But I just couldn't. It has been about survival. I wish it was better than that but it hasn't been.

This might sound awful but no, I won’t ‘miss’ them. Just as I don’t miss them normally when they’re at school, or when they go back after the summer holidays. I enjoy the time we spend together, just as I enjoy the time I spend pursuing my own career and hobbies. They love school so I’ll be glad they’re back doing what they love.
I’ll relish being able to do my job without constantly stressing that I’m not doing enough with them.
The time I spend with my children is made more enjoyable by us having some time apart, and their time away from me is essential for their well being and development.

@MrBullinaChinaShop

This might sound awful but no, I won’t ‘miss’ them. Just as I don’t miss them normally when they’re at school, or when they go back after the summer holidays. I enjoy the time we spend together, just as I enjoy the time I spend pursuing my own career and hobbies. They love school so I’ll be glad they’re back doing what they love. I’ll relish being able to do my job without constantly stressing that I’m not doing enough with them. The time I spend with my children is made more enjoyable by us having some time apart, and their time away from me is essential for their well being and development.

This cheered me up, thanks!

My kids are much happier in school, hence we're all happier when we see each other.

I also love work. I don't really mind working from home - it's suited some aspects of my role - but I do hate having to juggle work / kids. I resent having to step away from work to deal with them & become b snappy as the day progresses.

The idea of uninterrupted time is just wonderful!

Agree.
Working from home with a child there is awful
And it's really made me resent how she won't play with any of her toys and won't play by herself

Don't get me wrong, it's not all been plain sailing and we are less than perfect.

I'm a single mum of 5, at times it has been tough, I can't deny that. But sitting here reflecting over the past year - we have been through some awful things but we have come out the other side fighting.

I have taught myself to try and turn negatives into positives ☺️

I'm a single mum of 5,

Bloody hell OP! You're a hero. 5 🤯

I've 3 & I'm shell-shocked.

I'm looking forward to him going back, for his sake as well as mine. He needs to see his friends and learn properly, rather than me trying to home educate and work at the same time. I'm a single parent too but my work needs my attention and some meetings can be up to 8 hours, it's not fair on my son when it's like that.
He'll be worn out first day back though

I will really miss my desk mates at the kitchen table. :-(

@MrBullinaChinaShop 100% agree - much prefer quality time together - not natural to be together so much!!

Me too OP. My DC are teens so I haven’t been involved much in their remote learning as their school has been great. I will miss them both enormously next week but I will be so happy to get them back to their friends and teachers and normality.

I’ll miss them a lot - but it’s better for them to be back at school, so am focusing on that. Know what you mean, though- it has been a nice time in its own way.

It's been very tough and I only have 2. I'm glad he's going back as I'm not and never will be a teacher and he wants to go back but I think my nearly 3 year old will miss him a lot they have only just started playing together. I also haven't missed packed lunches and the morning rush of hurry up/get dressed/put your shoes on etc while trying to get the younger one ready. Won't be as much of a shock as I still have the youngest at home. Won't miss the constant chatter from the eldest though!

@user1477249785

I will really miss my desk mates at the kitchen table. :-(

Really? 😳 What ages are they?

I'm with this mum 🙌🏻

Mine went back this week as keyworker children, DH and I were expected to spend more time at work this week. I was really sad and I missed them and our routines, I've enjoyed working from home and being around more.

Homeschooling was tough, I had to catch them up on a weekend as they're just not independent enough and we were working a lot. But our weekends have been nice, fitting in school work and exercise.

If I could quit work and homeschool then I would, the kids love school though and we'd have to live on the street. So that wouldn't really work.

It was hard work but OP I agree with you, there were more positives than negatives.

I'm happy we will have, hopefully, a normal routine again. It hasn't been quality time with my kids at all. It's been stressful and hard trying to manage work and homeschooling, particularly with one child with SEN.

I don't feel I've done particularly well at any of it or been a particularly good mum either because I've been pulled in so many different directions all the time.

I want to go back to having family weekends where I enjoy being with my children and the rest of the time they are at school with proper teachers and their friends.

@Lindy2

I'm happy we will have, hopefully, a normal routine again. It hasn't been quality time with my kids at all. It's been stressful and hard trying to manage work and homeschooling, particularly with one child with SEN.

I don't feel I've done particularly well at any of it or been a particularly good mum either because I've been pulled in so many different directions all the time.

I want to go back to having family weekends where I enjoy being with my children and the rest of the time they are at school with proper teachers and their friends.

Agree No quality time I wish mine took to it well like others

It's been really tough. I'm desperate for him to be back in school.
I will miss him but I will also do a happy dance on Monday morn8ng once I've dropped him off