Going to miss my kids

[mumof5cn]

How are you feeling about your kids going back to school next week?

I have mixed feelings about mine going back to school next week - happy that life hopefully will slowly begin to get back to normal, but we have also enjoyed and cherished the time we have had altogether and now need to adapt back from life as we have come to know it to proper normality!

@EarringsandLipstick they are 12 and 11. Home schooling provision has been a dream and we have all sat next to each other at the table for weeks, taking it in turns to replenish the tea pot and going for a long walk at lunch. It's going to feel lonely next week.

I'm going to miss 10yo Dts like mad but also be thankful that I can have a work meeting without simultaneously teaching dts this and fronted bloody adverbials.

Gosh user what kind of job do you do? My younger 2 are 9 & 11. No live teaching for them, but plenty of in-depth work for them, which needs my support at times, especially for my younger guy. I've an older DD who manages fine but does have live classes so need to ensure she's not disturbed - another task.

I have many meetings & also live teaching (university level).

No way would my guys just work calmly all morning. I work upstairs at times- and then it's Crazy Town downstairs.

They do get their work done but God it's painful & trying to manage my own work ... it's bloody tough.

I am not doubting you but these quiet biddable children topping up the teapot...how do I get me some of these? 😂

That's lovely that you found it so rewarding and enriching. I can only guess you weren't trying to do a highly pressured demanding job at the same time.

Normally, I'm not trying to sort out why the printer isn't working, where the English book is or someone else's log in problems at the same time as trying to run a meeting with members of the board.

I will be delighted that my children will be where they belong - in school - with professionals who are trained to teach them.

I'm certainly not going to miss his constant talking to his mates out of the window.,. Can we play? Absolutely heart breaking

On Monday hellbender able to play with his friends and see his extra special teacher in real life..... I will have him for life but he'll never get that back xx

I only see mine every other week and have done for seven years since they were 3 and 6 (my controlling ex-husband got 50/50). I still miss them every day they're not with me. I'm not a "proper" mum really but what I would give to see them/speak with them every day!

Mine going back will also coincide with OH spending more time at his office. The house is going to be so quiet. We generally all work in our own little space, but it’s been nice coming together for lunch, quick chats as we pass by each other’s door. Our morning walks are lovely too.

But, I guess it’s better for her to be back at school so I’ll deal with it.

I’m not a "proper" mum really but what I would give to see them/speak with them every day!

You are a proper mum.

Please don't get me wrong, if my circumstances were different and I was working I have no doubt how hard that must be. I had my youngest daughter in February last year just before all this started, so I have been lucky to be off work x

@MintyMabel

I’m not a "proper" mum really but what I would give to see them/speak with them every day!

You are a proper mum.

You are a proper mum xx

@mumof5cn Aw thank you. I just feel it's a bit disingenuous of me to think I am when I only have to parent my boys half of the time. But thank you xx

@MintyMabel And thank you to you, too xx

[quote Bulliedandtired]@mumof5cn Aw thank you. I just feel it's a bit disingenuous of me to think I am when I only have to parent my boys half of the time. But thank you xx[/quote]
Don't do that!! Don't put yourself down or think yourself any less. You are your kids mother, you carried them for 9mths, gave birth to them - not matter what the circumstances that have since arisen, you are they're mummy. You have not abandoned them, it's just circumstances that have happened, unfortunately you can not control that but you still give them your all. Just because you have to share parental responsibilities with their father, it absolutely does not make you any less of a fantastic mother. The main thing is that your kids know they have loving parents and are happy 😊 I'm sorry, if I've spoken out of turn, as I obviously don't know the ins and outs - but you're post made me feel sad that you think of yourself in that way ☹️

@mumof5cn Aw that's so kind of you. I live with the guilt every day of letting my boys down; I wasn't strong enough to stay. Hence the horrendous insomnia over seven years (yes, it is 03.51 here in the UK!)
I now risk losing them even more simply because of my ex's fury at leaving him.
I will keep fighting with ever fibre of my being for them, even if ultimately it's at my own detriment. I hope one day will see that this love was enough x

I have a Y11 DS. School returning may save my sanity.I can't wait for Monday. The arguments over Xbox and his lack of effort have been horrendous.

Mine (7) went back to school on the 22nd Feb (Wales). On Wednesday he told his teachers he was ill at school so they sent him home for 48 hours (I.e. Monday). Turns out he lied as he wanted to go home. He's never done anything like this before. We've obviously had a chat and he's been told not to lie about being ill again, but I think so many lockdowns and time spent homeschooling has really affected him, more than I realised. Hopefully things will get back to normal soon.

We've got two boys eldest 19 (today!! 😀) and 14 and they are both back to school and college on Wednesday.

Me and Mrs PC were talking about this yesterday and I said I will miss them both when they do go back, we are both working from home. We've not had it difficult though, they have got on with their respective lectures and lessons and it hasn't been hard for us. We have got into a great routine and they pop down to grab coffee and food and we have a chat with them. They are great boys/and I'm dead proud of how they have just got on with it.

The boys on the other hand can't wait to get back and I can totally understand that, so it won't be us rushing them out the door on Wednesday, they'll be doing that themselves.

Yes, I will miss mine, it has been mostly good.

I think I will. He's pretty good company, gets on with his work and is great with the baby. I'll also miss watching his teacher do maths on the screen; it's somewhat soporific (when I'm not wrangling the baby).

DH is going to miss the baby when he goes to nursery in a few weeks. He's been at home his whole life and has spent so much more time with him than he would going to the office. He crawls over to his desk, pulls himself up and gazes at him until he's picked up! If there's people on the screen he grins at them 😄 I wonder if DH's colleagues will miss him? 😂

Me to op. I'm so excited for them going back but I've loved having them at home. Its been such a positive experience for us

@H1978

Going to miss the company but not the home schooling. It’s been pretty stressful.

Yeh this. I will really miss their lovely little faces at home, but I hated the home schooling this time and it was hugely stressful for my husband and I in terms of managing our workloads.

@Minesril. I would miss him!! I'd be hoping you'd dial in or that your DH still did some WFH.