Ex-friend just told me...

[Letsallscreamatthesistene]

...that she distanced herself from me because I didnt dance enough at her wedding and didnt seem happy enough. I was happy, I just dont particularly like dancing and much prefer chatting to people at the bar etc. Its caught me totally off guard. Is this even a thing?

FYI the wedding was pre-covid. Im well over her now, but the reasoning has baffled me a bit.

Oh my God! That’s pathetic.
Ignore her and ensure that she’s always an ex-friend. Block everywhere and carry on moving on with your life.

I think this one falls firmly into one of the following categories (1) Looney tunes (2) Incredibly - even myopically - self absorbed (3) You dodged a bullet . . . possibly all three. What a vain, vapid nutcase!!!! Good for amusement value only, not for friendship.

She’s obviously still in bridezilla mode. What a twat!

Celebrate the fact that she is no longer your friend OP! 🎉

Did she get in touch especially to tell you that?

“What a relief to find out it’s not me, it’s you”

I bet she will look back at this comment and cringe herself inside out one day.

@EssentialHummus

Did she get in touch especially to tell you that?

I was wondering the same thing. If so, then she’s definitely batshit.

😂😂😂 I’ve heard it all now! you’re well rid!

@Nekoness

“What a relief to find out it’s not me, it’s you”

Yes to this.

How ridiculous.

Is she trying to be friends again? To be honest I like Nekoness response, short & sweet 😁

That's fucking hilarious!! Sorry OP as I'm sure the whole experience hasn't been great for you, but what a batshit, self absorbed, pain in the arse.

I like the suggestion upthread about glad it's you and not me. Pleeeeease send that back and let us know if she responds!

I'm curious, was she narked because lots of people didn't dance or just you?
You must have some fabulous moves for her to notice

Haha I have no moves. Im much better placed at the bar imo....!

We work in the same industry, not at the same work place. Thats how we originally met. We've never been out of touch as such, the 'friendship' just dwindled to very much colleague work chat as we need to stay in touch for work. At the end of one of those chats early this it was just an out of the blue comment from her, to which I didnt reply.

Im laughing a bit about it tbh, but im still a bit baffled.

Id say it was a normal wedding, some people dancing, some not. Thinking back to it, I think it was good. It was in winter and in a big yurt sort of thing.

Wow, I'm surprised she noticed the expression on your face on her wedding day. You sound like you enjoyed yourself so how bad could the expression on your face have been!?

I'd distance yourself from her now. How can you possibly keep a friend like that happy. How could you ever trust her not to accuse you of something else that you had no idea she considered an aggression against her.

Missing a trick here @Letsallscreamatthesistene, get on your knees and pray you both get invited to another wedding. Then channel your inner David Brent, and boogie around her, circle her & don't let her get away
Bonus points if you use exaggerated facual expressions

Who on earth needs ‘friends’ like this?

Just as well she ‘binned’ herself, to save you doing it.
Good riddance!

Unless you were comatose under the top table, she's batshit

How ridiculous! I remember someone at my wedding coming and telling me we needed to change the music because no one was dancing... I looked around and everyone was chatting and moving around to talk to people, eating and had a big grin, so said it was lovely the way it was.

I had a 'friend' who did this exact same thing to me - ghosted me for 6 months and I found out she had told everyone I'd ruined her entire £30k wedding because I'd not danced enough and had had a little cry in the toilet (privately I may add!)
I was 6 weeks pregnant and trying not to vomit!

what an awful “friend”.

Haha I bet you're glad she distanced herself, she's clearly self absorbed

😳😳 wow - probably up there with one of the weirdest things I’ve seen in MN...

Some people seem to get really offended at the idea of others not wanting to dance. Your 'friend' sounds very self absorbed.

Fuck her. The stupid entitled spoiled Princess.