Please don’t flame me for being a bad parent or preventing this, I’m not sure what else I could have done. I don’t know what to do now and I am desperate for some advice.
Ds (11) in secondary school....plays fortnite and such like like majority his age I suppose....he’s always talking to people either through his head set or through his phone, I caught the sound of a voice that seemed older a while ago, when ds went to visit his dad, dad then got in touch with me to express the same concern and said he’d seen inappropriate conversations from this persons end (talking about getting drunk, making references to being gay....I’m not hugely sure, because like a fool he deleted the conversations before screen shotting or really telling me anything in detail, he just said it was inappropriate) there was also call logs showing this person calling ds repeatedly all day every day although often the calls were not answered. Massive chats were had with ds by both himself and his dad, all apps gone through, dad went through Xbox friends etc and made sure to the best of his ability that he knew the people in real life and such like, was assured by ds he understood and wouldn’t be talking to this person again.
Well, I’ve checked his phone tonight (which I’m upset at having to do really but unless I keep an eye I don’t know what else to do) and he’s talking to this person again, he’s made reference to knowing he’s not allowed and hiding it from me and his dad, there’s also conversation about him being gay, the person he’s talking to has said they are gay as they make reference to a bf, please hear me when I say, I have no problem what so ever if ds is gay, although it has most certainly come from nowhere and I’m surprised, but that’s not the issue, I’m more concerned that he’s being coerced into saying things that will perhaps impress this person. God. I don’t know. The way the person talks to him just makes my skin crawl although it’s nothing wildly inappropriate. I’ve found the guy on tik tok, he certainly looks to be much older than ds, I’ve no idea if I’d say they were over 18 or not, but somethings telling me to be concerned and to be honest if it is something to worry about then it’s not just my ds I’m worried about, I would expect there to be more kids involved....basically, what do I do now? Would it be ridiculous to discuss with the police given I actually don’t know the age of this person or anything about them? My head is just spinning right now. I’ve tried talking to ds and he’s upset and crying and won’t talk to me. Does anybody have any advice?