If there was only one instruction you could leave to others, on your death , what would it be ?

[whatsnewpussycat777]

Such a deep question for a Friday night 😃

Let work know I won't be in tomorrow.

Don't tell them

Dispose of my body as cheaply and with as little fuss as possible.

For DH, I loved you so much and you were literally the man I have ever met but it’s ok to move on and find happiness with someone else. Just make sure the kids know they were the best things I ever did and they were so very loved. And they made me laugh every day.

@OohKittens

Everyone is to sing remember you're a womble at my funeral.

My mum surprised us all in the hospice by wearing pj's saying this on the day she died. She must have bought them for the occasion which we all thought was very sweet of her.

Keep the box but never, ever open it.

I don't have a special box so they'd all be left wondering which box they were supposed to keep & what could be in it... I'd like to leave a little mystery behind me!

To look after and love my babies as much as I do.

To make sure you kiss them and tell them you love them everyday and remember to sing to them every night.

@TheFairyGarden

To my daughter. You are not welcome at my funeral. Stay away!

To my other 4 children. I have made a will. My house and assets are to be shared between the 4 of you. Spend it wisely and enjoy the rest of your lives. Until we meet again remember always that you have done me and yourselves proud. I love you now, always and forever. Thank you so much for being my children. You made my life complete 😘

Love your boys don't you? Mine would be, don't you dare tell my female birth parent that I'm dead, no one told her when I had a stroke or when I had internal bleeding so don't give the bitch the satisfaction of knowing that I'm dead. Also there's no money for her. I spent it all. And she was a fucking shit female parent.

Look after my cats, do a closed casket funeral (I'm in the US...) and scatter my ashes in Cornwall.

Oh and to my DH, don't forget I have life good insurance.

*good life insurance, jeeze I wish Mumsnet had an edit function!

My Antonia Forest books are to be kept for DGD. Some of the others are very valuable; check the list.

I have a husband, no children and extended family live in another country - this is the stuff of nightmares for me.
I hope I will have friends who will see me off and I will tell them

• Life is short and very precious. Make the most of every day.
• Money, above what is needed to supply food shelter and warmth , does not happiness make ( although I have never pursued money so have not had a chance to test this out)
• love the people in your life
• life is always better with a dog.

Absolutely no funeral/memorial service, cheapest possible cremation. The people who need to know have already been told.

No funeral, direct cremation as cheap as possible, don't waste any money on me. Don't forget to put on my death announcement loving partner of late dp.

Bin anything of mine you don't want to keep for its own sake. I will be past caring, and binning something I treasured in life is not the same as binning me.

Moisturise well! From an early age 🤣 Don't leave it until the wrinkles show...it's too late then 🤷‍♀️

No wake after my burial. No way im paying people to eat, drink and be merry.

When my mum died we went to the wake, i was so fucking hurt by people gorging on food and laughing like it was a Saturday night party.

And I walked out. So disrespectful.

@Letsallscreamatthesistene

I want to be buried so I become a tree. I dont know if thats possible in the UK though.

You can purchase a bio urn which has tree seeds and your ashes inside it.

Interesting replies!

My funeral song is The Welly Song!!

If this is what I have to do to make you realise that the toilet roll doesn't change itself then so be it. Now cut me into cubes and put me out for the birds.

@peachgreen my mum passed away in October and one of the last coherent things that she said to me was. I love you ladybird so much and I don’t want to leave you on your own. I don’t know what’s worse you knowing that you’re leaving your daughter, or your daughter losing you. I know it tortured my mum during her last few weeks.

@Ladybird69 I'm so sorry about your mum. My husband died in October too. It's been a very long few months. Being here for my daughter is all that's kept me going.

@Ladybird69 That is beautiful and heartbreaking at the same time.
My main thought would be for my DC I'm not sure which wise words I'd use to give them strength when they needed it in their future.