At what age could your DCs shower independently?

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As in, you don't have to stand over them watching them wash or help them.

Well mine are 9 and 11 and need occasional reminding of things, bottles opening or sending back to rinse conditioner out thoroughly but they've basically been OK for a couple of years now.

At four I could just set the water temperature, though he mostly came in with me still.

7

Around 4 for both of them. I do pop in and out of the bathroom, but my 6yo really doesn’t need me to now.

Mine is 4 and can turn on the shower, wash himself, get out into his towel and turn off the shower again.
Level of washing is debatable and he can't do his hair by himself but he's generally clean enough!

Mine are 4 and 5 and have been going in the shower on their own for a year or so, but only to wash their bodies in a general fashion and mess around (they go in together). If they need a hair wash and anything else specific, I have to go and assist/do it for them, and imagine I will need to for another couple of years.

By 6 able to shower on their own, including cleaning their body, hair washing, checking water is the right temperature for them

Depends which child it is....pfb needed support until about 10... 3rd child left to get on with it as soon as they could reach.....maybe 18 months old. 🤣 Obbipusly that's tongue in cheek but has a grain of truth.

It depends on: the shower set up....is it one button on and off or do you have tricky mixer tabs where the child might burn themselves.
Can they reach the controls?
Different children are responsible enough at different ages....for one they might be OK at 4 but another might need help at 9. By the time you are letting them sleep over at friends/cubs/brownies etc you would hope they are pretty self sufficient.

7 for both the boys. DD is still not good (aged 9) and we have to remind her to wash under her arms and wash the soap out of her hair.

Mine both showered independantly from about 5. DD is 7 and I still wash her long hair but aside from that I don't need to get involved. DS is 11 and needs to wash his hair more (judging from the occasional whiff) but he loves just standing under the water... I have to remind him to get out and that water costs money!

7/8ish but with someone within listening distance to make sure there’s no accidents. Also not allowed to get in/out without someone there even if it’s just their sibling.

9 is when they did. Don't know if they could have before then as they had baths.

Hmm. So we basically use the bath at home and the shower when staying at my mum’s. DS had it reliably sussed by about 6/7, but (1) he might’ve got there sooner if it was more than v occasional and/or if it was my bathroom ie. one set up for a regular child user with the shower gel and towel pegs at a reachable height, and (2) because it’s a novelty it’s not really tested to the same level of ‘can I just send you to the bathroom and leave you to it’ because tbh for a single night, I don’t mind if he’s not 100% clean, he’ll be in a bath the next night or two.

DS went on camp for four nights at 7, so was definitely completely independent then. I don't remember at what point between 4 and 7 I stopped setting the water temperature for him though (we had separate hot and cold taps to adjust).

7 or 8, depending on the child.

My DCs are 9 and 11 and both have showered reasonably independently for 2+ years. DS (9) does sometimes get sent back with muddy knees to wash again 😂

Hmm, approaching 13 I'd say for my youngest who is 14 now. Perfectly capable of showering but would forget to wash his hair or use soap etc so needed marching back in and guidance

He does however have ADHD traits and is a dolly daydream.

He's fine now but I'll sometimes still have to shout ' use the soap please!' as I know he will just be stood there!

DD with long wavy thick hair needed a decent amount of help with hair washing until she was 10-ish.

I think we left her alone apart from hair washing when she was 8/9 and would just come in and do the rest. She would then dry/dress herself.

It improved when she finally decided to get rid of some length and it became more manageable. And the fact that she was alone for a week on a riding holiday and needed to shower daily to get rid of horse smell/stable dirt.

DD is 7, I make sure the temperature is ok, as it can be a bit temperamental, then leave her to it. I check her hair is rinsed at the end
Baths, ditto, I run them then let her get on with it

7 or 8 with my NT DSes. A bit later for the one with ASD.

Dd9 has been showering herself for a good 18 months or so but hair washing is still my job whilst she is in the bath - no way she could do that yet

4 or 5 I think. They like to be independent.

Ds is 5.5 & has been doing it himself a few months now, usually after Ive just taken his sister out (3)

6 or 7.

I suppose about 6 but my dd is autistic and it can take serious persuasion to get her into the bathroom, as she also has seizures I did tend to be outside until quite old, 11 or 12. Since growing up both myself and her dsis have rescued her out of the the shower only semi coherent, but it's pretty rare for her to need help now (and she's still a reluctant water user!)