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If school's don't return on March 8th what will you do?

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cottonwoolbrain · 11/02/2021 15:06

I am goign to be completely honest. I can't handle this anymore. I'm not sure what I'll do. I'm in tears every day now and the rest of the time just feel completely and utterly numb as if I'm doing everything on autopilot. Keep shoutinbg at the children - rate its going they'll get Stockholm Syndrome being coooped up with me as I am

DS (8) needs almost constant supervision to get him to do any work at all or even to sit in his chair. HIs school have great distance learning but I'm exhausted trying to get him to do it even with online classes. DD is 15. She's great at doing the work but is understandly stressed and lonely and worried about next years GCSEs and I feel like I'm getting the brunt of it.

I work part time and its the sort of job that requires high concentration levels. I can't just stop to answer questions about everything under the sun (including the flipping sun).

I'm breaking. Half term starts tomorrow. Hopefully a week of not home schooling will help and then I''ll be counting the days until March 8th but I'm so desperately worried they won't go back and I'm not sure what I'll do or how I'll cope.

DP helps as much as he can but most of its falling on me.

Sorry don't knwo what I'm saying except that i dont thknk I can hold out much longer and its messing up my children so badly.

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TheOrigRights · 11/02/2021 16:15

What will I do?

Fall further into my pit of despair but try and find some hope in the days getting longer and more people being vaccinated.

1/2 term will remove the remote learning issue, but it's just me and DS11 at home. I have a full time job which I am coasting in as it is (very supportive employer thank goodness). DS will be bored and lonely and if the weather is bad I'll struggle to get him outside.

BangingOn · 11/02/2021 16:16

I am considering telling school that DS will not be participating in any further home learning, but we will continue to read at home and check in with them from a welfare perspective. DS needs a lot of support which we can’t give him, he’s learning so little and we are all miserable. His school have amazing online learning but he can’t engage with it properly and it’s damaging his self esteem and mental well-being.

Other children seem to have done similarly, it’s an independent school so not sure how his non-attendance would impact them.

snowydaysandholidays · 11/02/2021 16:16

schools will reopen don't worry op

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Aroundtheworldin80moves · 11/02/2021 16:17

We are hopefully moving house in March. I really want them to return to school to say goodbye before we move, to get a bit of closure.

TheDrsDocMartens · 11/02/2021 16:17

I am not expecting mine back on 8th March, neither are key year groups and I’m starting to feel it’s too soon for whole school open .
I’m similar to Op and can’t be interrupted at all during work time so I’ve been working very few hours (freelance). Financially this is a struggle but I’m just going to carry on.

NotQuiteUsual · 11/02/2021 16:18

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minipie · 11/02/2021 16:18

I will be joining those marching outside Parliament.

ineedaholidayandwine · 11/02/2021 16:18

Cry, drink, shout then once calmed down call her old nursery and see if they can have her in an afternoon (she's 4) that way i could do school work AM and focus on work PM.

AveEldon · 11/02/2021 16:20

I will be asking school to take my younger SEN kid who has been staying home for now

Sobeyondthehills · 11/02/2021 16:21

We are stopping home learning after half term, I have already given the school a heads up. Its no longer worth mine or DS' mental health, I am meant to be the person he comes to for support and all he seems to get from me at the moment is a shouty parent.

I will check in and will continue his reading, try to do some maths with him, his teacher will also not be coming back after half term, which helped with this decision

LittleBearPad · 11/02/2021 16:21

Cry

TierFourTears · 11/02/2021 16:23

Cry.

Then really kick up a stink with school, and tell them as a 2 key worker household they need to find us a space for the 9 yr old. We can't keep juggling.

freckles20 · 11/02/2021 16:23

I'm not sure what to do. 14 to DS has gone from happy and sociable to depressed, anxious and self harming. I've cut down my work as much as I can, and I think I'll have to give it up completely if schools stay closed.

His mental health is in tatters. I don't want to put teachers at risk from Covid , but I am extremely worried about him. I no longer care about his education in terms of exams, I just want him to feel better.

Itsjustricemichael · 11/02/2021 16:25

Honestly... for me I'll carry on and be a lot happier than if he goes back with high community transmission. I would be really really happy if we could meet one other kid up the sports field at least though....

unim · 11/02/2021 16:25

We'll just get on with it.

It's not easy, but if it's necessary to keep going with the current arrangements in order to keep everyone safe and reduce transmission to safer levels, we're happy to do it for a good reason.

ChristmasinJune · 11/02/2021 16:26

My ds is going back full time after half-term and so am I (SEND) teacher.
The numbers in school are creeping up week after week. We're both very very happy about that.

Op if a parent said this:

I'd be wanting the kids back in school.
Is it worth approaching the school and explaining how tough things have got? They might be able to offer at least part time days.

EllieQ · 11/02/2021 16:28

Feel very sad for my daughter, who is lonely and misses her friends a lot (she’s in Year 1).

Wonder when DH can start looking for work (made redundant after being on furlough), as he spends all day with DD doing schoolwork and keeping her occupied while I WFH. Worry that the longer he leaves it, the less successful he will be

Ask my manager if I can work from the office in late March/ early April to deal with end of financial year stuff, as I know I’ll struggle to focus properly at home with DD around, as I don’t have a separate office to retreat to.

peak2021 · 11/02/2021 16:30

Every one of you please remember to vote out this incompetent government regardless of whether or not this happens.

whataboutbob · 11/02/2021 16:33

One way ticket to Switzerland.

Anonanon12 · 11/02/2021 16:35

I think I'll cut down on the amount of school work and lower my expectations and let the government sort out the mess they have made of my kids education tbh. We might do 2 intense days a week of school work, just Maths, English and reading and that will be that

IfNot · 11/02/2021 16:35

I'll carry on recording lessons, marking work in as close to real-time as I can manage so that feedback is meaningful and trying to make sure that the online offer matches the curriculum as much as I can. In between, I'll go in to work to support the children of KW and those who are vulnerable. I'll also keep my SEN DS on track to getting some grades at the end of his GSCE year and worry about the fact that he isn't getting access to the sport he at which he excels.
The same as I've done every day since March last year, apart from the bit where I taught in school everyday and had to tag on the online learning for those in self-isolation/ tested positive on top.
Sorry- but you did ask.

I don't think anyone was asking for details of every task your job requires? I'm sure most of us working full time (right through the Summer too in my case..) could detail all the crap we have to get done while supervising our kids learning.

OP, honestly, I told myself it was going to be after Easter right from the start, so I haven't had 8th March in my head to look forward to. For some reason that helps.
If they don't go back after Easter I really don't know. I feel extremely trapped and stressed at the prospect.

snowydaysandholidays · 11/02/2021 16:35

peak Is this the moment for party political broadcasts? No.

TheOrigRights · 11/02/2021 16:36

@Itsjustricemichael

How old is your child? You are permitted to exercise with one other person outside of your household.

DS11 plays football with one of his friends. They are old enough to be just the two of them.

Over Xmas we went for a walk - me and my friend up ahead and DS and his mate (my friend's son) goofing around behind. Could you do something like that?

Forgothowmuchlhatehomeschoolin · 11/02/2021 16:36

Can you not send him into school as vulnerable - dfe guidance states if a child is not coping with remote learning that makes them vulnerable?

MarshaBradyo · 11/02/2021 16:39

The thought of it being after Easter is ill-inducing.

How far away is that? Mid April

That would be so bad

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