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anyone else come off FB?

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PilatesPeach · 24/01/2021 10:10

I have deactivated my FB & uninstalled messenger.

Found it was just making me feel worse about everything at the moment. I have had 24 hours off now - think am feeling brighter already. Am sure will go back at some stage but no idea when. It is my birthday next week & I don't feel bothered at all that no one will wish me happy birthday. Feel so much of it is fake or look-at-me stuff.

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tatutata · 24/01/2021 10:11

Yep. I just look occasionally on my PC now. Much, much better!!

Breathmiller · 24/01/2021 10:39

I took it off my phone last year and I feel so much better. I need it for my business but I only go on when working on my laptop and check my notifications rather than scrolling.

The times when i have scrolled I have been shocked at how time is lost and how crap it makes me feel. I like a few of my friends positive posts when I'm on there and send love if having a hard time. But I love not being on it.

I also noticed a very quick change in when I am doing something that I don't think "oh, i will put a post up about this" it changed my thinking.

I do have messenger still though as I just see that as a private communication tool with my family and friends and I speak every day with my dd.

It has honestly been so freeing.

mariomadmum · 24/01/2021 10:43

Yes! I came off as a new years resolution, because I was spending too much time and energy caring about things that didn't matter! I miss it a bit, but mostly feel so much better without it

hashbrownsandwich · 24/01/2021 10:47

I deleted the app, I occasionally check it from the webpage but to be honest there's never anything on there which enriches my life.

MrsHusky · 24/01/2021 10:48

no, but i dont really use the boards any more. theres the local community page i keep an eye on as its useful, otherwise i just use messenger to keep in touch with family.

torquewench · 24/01/2021 10:53

Ive set up a new account. I havent added any friends and use it just for following pages related to my hobbies and local interest pages. Havent looked at my "proper" account in 6 months. Can't honestly say that Im wasting less time though 😂

Retys · 24/01/2021 11:48

I had it deleted for a couple of years but I got it back recently but added no friends, I just use it for page/groups

Sideorderofchips · 24/01/2021 11:51

Yep best thing I ever did

Chicchicchicchiclana · 24/01/2021 11:52

what is it about Facebook that was making you unhappy?

LindaEllen · 24/01/2021 12:15

I haven't actually deactivated it, but don't look at it very often anymore. The way some people conduct themselves online at the moment is shocking. I guess there's a lot of people who have nothing better to do. But I realised that it was just winding me up, and people who I previously liked started to do my head in.

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PilatesPeach · 24/01/2021 13:08

Lots of things were getting me down, seeing people having to have dogs put down, people going on about covid all the time, NHS adverts about covid all the time, inappropriate messages from some people that I regarded as friends just not enjoying the experience and wasting time on it everyday and feeling more and more that it is currently, not a positive experience for me. I understand many enjoy it but right now, as nothing in life is normal, it was all getting to me and didn't find it supportive or a way of keeping in touch really. My real friends can text or whatsapp me. I have 150 "friends" on most of whom are just people I used to know or whose path has crossed with mine at some stage.

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Heysiripissoff · 24/01/2021 13:10

I want to, but I've ditched a load of people.

First I got rid of anyone I'd not seen or spoken to in 20 odd years. It was all people from school - most of them wouldn't have spit on me when I was on fire when we were there. So it dawned on me that why the fuck am I sharing my holiday photos with them now.

I have 30 friends left. They are all people I was friendly with in my old area. Friends, would go for a drink sometimes but not friendly enough to swap phone numbers, so we only really communicate via Facebook. They are lovely people so I'd hate to lose touch. They are 200 miles away now so I doubt I'll see them again.

I haven't got any proper friends, so that's my only social interaction. So while I want to let it go, I'd then have nothing.

m0therofdragons · 24/01/2021 13:31

I’ve deleted the app but occasionally look via the browser. I don’t comment on anything though. I was wasting too much time on non friends so now I send pictures to family on WhatsApp. I’ve realised I’m not missing anything and can avoid the nonsense.

snowy0wl · 24/01/2021 13:47

My husband and I left about two years ago. We don't miss it ... but I have replaced my addiction with Mumsnet!

Julietisapossibility · 24/01/2021 14:55

I have deactivated mine and plan to keep it like that for a while.
Not sure if I’m ready to delete it yet.

prawncocktailpringles · 24/01/2021 15:02

Yes, mainly for mental health reasons and due to insomnia. But then I rid a few books on Silicon Valley and surveillance capitalism and now it is for ethical reasons too. The only thing I miss is info on what is going on locally but then I realised I didn't actually attend many of the things anyway. I reckon if I start attending more stuff I will be more in the loop anyway.

prawncocktailpringles · 24/01/2021 15:03

Ps. A few people I hadn't heard from in ages contacted me on my first birthday Facebook-free. I was really touched.

cheeseismydownfall · 24/01/2021 15:30

I love Facebook for community information, but have zero interest in seeing people I barely know #makingmemories. I have unfollowed almost everyone, and whenever I get a new friend request I accept it an then immediately unfollow. My feed is entirely local shops, community stuff, school stuff, posts about the children's clubs and then random videos of people baking cakes and ads which are often quite useful to me. Used this way I find Facebook really helpful and not at all depressing.

MrsSmith2021 · 24/01/2021 15:32

I hate FB. Been off it a few weeks and don’t miss it. Full of misery.

Chicchicchicchiclana · 24/01/2021 16:49

I'll agree the adverts and random things that come up on my news feed are irritating but I like seeing my friend's news. It's been great for me this year when I've not had the chance to see people in person.

Love2cycle · 24/01/2021 16:58

I asked my husband to change my password for me and not tell me what it is.
Occasionally I need to go on for business purposes and I just ask my husband to log me in and out again when I'm done.
I love it, but I am on mumsnet alot more instead.

Scbchl · 24/01/2021 16:59

Yeah I deactivated on 4th January. Was wasting too much time and energy scrolling down getting enraged. It isnt a fun app anymore.

allthegoodusernameshavegone · 24/01/2021 17:03

Yes, I deactivated in July last year, I haven’t missed it one bit.

sundaysgirls · 24/01/2021 17:05

Yes, I can't see the point in it most of the time. I don't miss it at all.

MrsHandles · 24/01/2021 17:30

Yes! I deactivated mine on 1st January and haven’t even slightly missed it. I got fed up with all the cryptic posts (“I’ll PM you, hun,” Hmm) adverts for random shit, how ‘perfect’ people’s lives are; I’d had enough. I’ve kept Messenger to stay in contact with a couple of people. Might just end up deleting my account altogether, if I figure out how to get my photos off it first...