Please help before i kill him

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Does anyone know of any over the counter snoring prevention thingies that actually work? My husband is getting worse as he gets older and i actually cried in the middle of the night yesterday because i hadn't slept for more than 20min... He's always been a snorer after drinking or on his back, but now it happens when he's stone cold sober, no matter how he's lying.

I love the man, and don't want to murder him in a fit of rage at 2am. Nose strips? Some sort of spray? Can't use earplugs because i need to be able to hear the baby.

Separate rooms, that's all I've got. Sorry.

I feel your pain. They lie there snoring while you lie awake seething.
Separate bedrooms is the way to go if you can, or there is a mouth guard you can buy that people on here have had success with.

My dad used to snore something chronic and I'd always be woken up from the other side of the house - you have my sympathies! Is he overweight? I don't ask this to be cruel but this can be the issue sometimes (as with my dad). If not, I've found nose straps quite useful for my DP and a pillow to prop up the head. Failing all of that, a sharp elbow to the ribs 😅

Has he put on weight OP? If so then losing it again may help but I know it’s not that easy.
Does he ever stop breathing in his sleep? Just with that much snoring I’d be worried that he’s at risk of sleep apnoea, in which case he should contact his GP and ask for a referral to the sleep clinic.

Otherwise as @Puddinger said I’m not sure there’s much that will work other than separate rooms. Much sympathy to you - one source of sleep deprivation is bad enough

Separate rooms not an option, and tbh that would make us both pretty miserable even if it was - bedtime is the best time.

He's not overweight, far from it, but he does have an enormous nose. Elbow to the ribs used to work really well but this week the snoring has been nonstop

Sympathy from me too. I frequently go and sleep on the sofa.

My husband sleeps on the sofabed as it's the furthest place he can sleep from the bed. He snores like a train.

Have tried nasal sprays, losing weight, quitting smoking, strips nose plugs etc.
He still puts the nose strips in and sleeps on side on sofa bed.

Not getting any sleep contributed to me having a mental health crisis about 6years ago so 100% sleeping apart saves our marriage

Weve invested in a good sofabed with a nice mattress and the next time we move we will ensure theres an extra bedroom. Cant afford that at the moment

Can you wear earplugs? DH snores like a bear no matter how he lies. I can usually sleep through it if I'm wearing earplugs

We found a good website that looked at the different types of snoring, once we found out from that why dh was snoring it made finding the cure much easier. We worked out he was snoring because of his tongue so we then bought a snoring mouth guard and now there's no more snoring

Separate rooms doesn’t mean no sex ! You just slip off to your own little sanctuary afterwards.
Alcohol ? That seems to cause snoring.
My DH even has the ability to snore on his side - infuriating.

My DH who is very slim, was referred to hospital for his snoring. He has very mild sleep apnea and was given a custom made mouth guard to pull his lower jaw forward at night.
Honestly it’s saved my sleep! Occasional low level snore but usually none at all

I'm sorry to hear this. SNORING is very common but most people don't know that it is, in fact, unhealthy and not normal.
I suspect he suffers from sleep apnoea. Go and see the GP. Insist on it. make the appointment if you have to. Bribe and bargain if necessary.
Sleep in a different room yourself. YOU MUST look after your own health, even if husband isn't. Your wellbeing, body, mind and soul depend on it. I'm in my own bedroom again as my husband is a sufferer of mild sleep apnoea and he tosses 20 times a night - I know this because I filmed him 3 times. Then I fillmed myself to compare, 3 times I changed positions and didn't wake up. He wakes up 5 times on average. He stops breathing, his brain shoots adrenaline to his heart
and he wakes up to gasp. He may be aware or not. Adrenaline can take an hour to subside.
Our ENT specialist doesn't know what is the cause so he is currently being treated with a sleep psychologist, exercise and weightloss. The snore guard did not achieve anything as it is far too uncomfortable, this was custom-made by the dentist.
GPs don't study much at all about sleep and sleep disorders, so don't expect immediate relief. However, there are steps you can take and you don't have to put up with this forever.
He will suffer one or more of the following and he won't do anything about it until he suffers something awful, like a car accident.
Sleep apnoea is associated with
cardiovascular disease, stroke, heart failure, arrhythmia, death
diabetes, obesity,
memory lapses and losses, increased risk of motor vehicle accidents and general injuries
impaired judgments, hallucinations,
sleep deprivation, insomnia,
attention and concentration issues, frequent headaches, and poor performance,
mood swings, depression,
fatigue, restlessness, snoring, etc.

I feel for you because I've experienced it. I lasted 8 weeks, newly wed in 2020 before I said to myself 'why am I suffering when I'm not the one with the issue?' Making me feel terrible and barely able to cope with life's demands.
My husband has often kicked his toe on the furniture, and complained about 3 things before breakfast - that's when I know he's had a bad night.
Please seek treatment and don't delay, there's no need to be embarrassed. (No one will care if you're in a separate bedroom. It hasn't stopped our intimacy. We can each initiate whenever we like.)

@Choclover3

We found a good website that looked at the different types of snoring, once we found out from that why dh was snoring it made finding the cure much easier. We worked out he was snoring because of his tongue so we then bought a snoring mouth guard and now there's no more snoring

I will Google @Choclover3 for a website but a recommendation for the website you used would be gratefully received!

DH is a snorer too. When “nudged” (aka poked to stop) he then does this really sad depressed little moan .... so then I get Chibcha-snoooore—— aawwww, mmmmnhh. SNORE——awwsww, mmmnnnhhhh. Etc.

It. Is. So. Fucking. Annoying.

I started snoring quite suddenly and eventually got a ENT referral (after male GP was concerned for DPs happiness as I'd said I'd taken to sleeping in another room to save his sleep).
Rhinoscopy revealed a deviated septum, basically zigzaging like a concertina, and apparently vibrating when I slept. A really simple op under GA to straighten the septum totally sorted the snoring out. It also had the added benefit of magically 'curing' me of various presumed allergies which had been causing me chronic rhinitis for years; apparently the straight septum did not permit particles and irritants to settle in folds to cause reactions.
One of the best things I ever did.
Could your DP have a deviated septum? I had no idea it was even a thing until ENT referral.
Good luck.

@MichelleScarn britishsnoring.co.uk/itests/
This is the website xx

That’s really interesting @AdultHumanFemale. I snore and haven’t tried to do anything about it as I’m overweight and I drink too much so I assumed it was down to that. However I know it’s all my nose. And I sometimes snore even if not really asleep. And I have dreadful allergies. Mine is definitely nasal snoring whereas DH is more throat snoring.

I’m a snorer - it’s a problem I’ve had all my life but it gets exacerbated for me when I put on weight / if I’ve been drinking or during pregnancy. 9 years ago I went to see a private gp about it who stated there are two types of snoring: nose based and throat based. The nose based snoring can be helped by those nose strips and sprays but the throat snoring needs a proper mouth guard to be custom made for you by a dentist. I am the latter - a throat snorer. I now use a Silensor guard made by an orthodontist which costs about £150 and needs replacing about every two years or so (it loosens up over time). Basically the device stops my mouth dropping open preventing the back of the throat relaxing and causing the earthquake like snores.

I sleep so much better with it on best £150 ever spent without it I wake up feeling exhausted and miserable. I know it’s lock down but some dentists are still open. Maybe worth thinking about? Maybe start here to work out what type of snorer your husband is? britishsnoring.co.uk/itests/

Thanks choc!

Nasal dilators work for my husband. He's a horrific snorer so I feel your pain. He sometimes takes them out in the night in his sleep and the room practically vibrates

Nothing much has worked for us except seperate rooms. i have spent many a holiday on a tiny sofa or even a sun lounger outside once to escape his snoring.

My DH is an average weight man with no health problems and has just been diagnosed with sleep apnoea and now has CPAP overnight. I’d suggest GP.

My dh has the plastic nose plugs which really help! On bad nights I use noise cancelling wireless headphones to listen to sleep cove or sleepy podcasts, they're just lulling and quiet enough to cover the snoring and send me to sleep. Failing that, pillow over his face?

www.snorewizard.com/ This is the only thing that has even slightly helped with my DH's snoring. It doesn't work if he's on his back or if he's had wine (for some reason, he snores ten times worse after even half a bottle of wine) but as long as he's on his side it's great.