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Wardrobes DH ICU

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Wardrobes123 · 19/01/2021 20:30

Just thought I’d create a new thread. To help us to keep track of what’s happened.

My DH was ventilated last week. We’ve had two calls to see him due to him being very close to death. He isn’t stable but he is still alive at the moment. All we can do is wait.

I’m not going to lie, I’m not coping at all. My mum has moved in to help me cope with daily life. We’ve spoken with the children and they know how serious it is. They are also struggling now with the youngest stepping back from schooling when she needs to.

I can’t think ahead. Just usually about the hour or two that we’re living in. It’s very surreal. And incredibly difficult. Doctors are very realistic about prognosis and survival, which is really hard to hear.

I am incredibly grateful for all the support we’ve had as a family. MN is a remarkable place at times.

@groovinpeanut - Flowers my heart goes out to you and your family and I’m so sorry for the loss of your DH, message me anytime X

@intheshadowofthemushroomcloud - Flowers for all your support and messages.

I have had several messages from other mnetters who don’t have their own threads but who are also experiencing this living hell Flowers it’s a horrible journey and we don’t know how it will end but all we can do is hope/pray for a better outcome.

I haven’t always had the energy to post, too fearful of jinxing things and generally the last few days have been very raw and intense. But I’ve read every message and I’m so grateful of the support.

OP posts:
thinkingaboutLangCleg · 04/02/2021 09:30

No need for a response, I’m just sending love and comfort, as are so many others who are thinking of you and wishing you and DH and family the best of luck xx

merryhollybright · 04/02/2021 09:31

Have been checking on this thread and was so hoping for good news. I'm so sorry to hear the latest, life can be so cruel.
Keeping you and your family in my thoughts today Flowers

GU24Mum · 04/02/2021 09:32

I've been following your threads too and keeping everything crossed for you and Mr W. My thoughts are with you all. x

vivariumvivariumsvivaria · 04/02/2021 09:46

Another stranger who has been lurking and hoping for better news stepping out to say how sorry I am.

I've had family in ITU and I know Mr W will be very well looked after and kept comfortable. The staff really do care.

I wish you and your family the very best.

cantmakealifeofit · 04/02/2021 09:46

Don’t feel sorry for stepping back from the thread, believe me nobody faults you for it and you don’t owe anybody updates. However everybody is here to support you if you need it or to vent Flowers

Will be thinking of you, your lovely DH and DC today and I hope so hard he manages to pull through. Covid is such a cruel illness the way people can appear to improve only to deteriorate suddenly.

Remember also there are lots and lots of great charities that specifically support DC in these situations as well x

Bumblefeet · 04/02/2021 09:50

Fingers crossed wardrobes, and sending you huge hugs. You've coped marvellously, sending you strength and love. Flowers

Sallycinnamum · 04/02/2021 09:52

Thinking of you @Wardrobes123.

BarnacleB · 04/02/2021 09:54

I'll be keeping you all in my thoughts xx

Backwards31 · 04/02/2021 09:58

My dad is exactly the same. He is ventilated and now he has two infections in his lungs, a yeast infection and is on dialysis as his kidneys stoped working. He also has clots in his legs and lungs and his blood pressure is shocking. We have been told to expect the worst. It is utterly heartbreaking. His lungs are destroyed now. Praying for you your husband and family. The best thing to do now is just keep that glimmer of hope. It's extremely cruel. If you need anyone to chat to I will always be here. My dad is in his 60s so he is not exactly old and has always been very active. Prayers for you all 🙏 xxx

LIZS · 04/02/2021 10:00
Thanks
Floralnomad · 04/02/2021 10:01

💐

longtompot · 04/02/2021 10:11
Flowers
Bettydot · 04/02/2021 10:13

Oh I’m so sorry to hear this. Sending you all so much love. Thinking of you all.

4Mongrels · 04/02/2021 10:15

Still thinking of you and hoping for positive news. I’m sorry you are still going through this.

IDontLikeZombies · 04/02/2021 10:21

So sorry to hear your update. I've been lurking here, hoping for good news like so many PPs. We're all here if you need us but you owe us nothing, take care of yourself and your family. Hoping for better days for all of you Flowers

IthinkIm · 04/02/2021 10:22

Oh sweetheart, I'm so sorry to read that.

Step back as much as you need to, you don't have to update us. Just know that we are all sending our love to you.

plominoagain · 04/02/2021 10:23

I’m so sorry. Two of my colleagues are currently in ITU , and one is looking particularly bleak. It’s so unfair. Will be thinking of you and your family xx

spiderlight · 04/02/2021 10:50

Still thinking of you all xxx

Scbchl · 04/02/2021 10:56

Thinking of you ❤

BlackeyedSusan · 04/02/2021 10:58

so sorry.

GiraffeWithSwag · 04/02/2021 11:03

Much love and strength to you all 💐❤️

mrbensbaker · 04/02/2021 11:10

@Wardrobes123

Things aren’t good here. For various reasons the op wasn’t successful and other issues have arisen which makes his prognosis very bleak.

I’m taking each hour as it happens. That’s what we’ve been advised to do. They don’t expect him to recover, for many reasons, but not just his chest anymore.

I might step back a bit from this thread. I’ve had some lovely messages that I haven’t felt strong enough to respond to. I’m very sorry.

You owe use nothing. This thread is only for you to be supported and we don't matter at all. No apology is necessary.

Keeping you in my thoughts regardless of whether you update the thread or not - do what you need for you.

Flowers
AdditionalCharacter · 04/02/2021 11:15

Thinking of you and your family Thanks

MadameBlobby · 04/02/2021 11:18

This is awful 😞 I am so sorry x

AdoraBell · 04/02/2021 11:27

There’s no need to apologise for not responding here.

Much love to you and your family.

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