WWYD - childminder heavy handed

[1lumpor3]

As I picked my son up from a childminder, I noticed that she was changing another child through the window (she didn't know I was there).

Childminder was heavy handed with the LO, almost what looked like slapping/pushing their legs into position for changing the nappy.

Son also claims he spend a lot of time upstairs with childminders 12 yo son playing video games.

WWYD?

Contrary to the opinions of a couple of pp, changing a child's nappy in front of a window where random passers-by can see in is definitely a safeguarding issue. If we did that with any of our charges at nursery, we'd be hauled over the coals and rightly so.

Thank you, @HunkyPunk. I think there are clearly a number of things that need addressed. I can't help but feel any reports will be futile though. Nonetheless, I will persevere.

I would also be unhappy about a child’s nappy being changed in front of a window. This added to the 4 year old being upstairs unsupervised with a 12 year old would ring alarm bells for me. There’s no way the CM is genuinely running up and down the stairs every 5 minutes to check on what’s happening.

I’d talk to her about it, I’m not saying I’d keep my child with her but if I had concerns enough to remove my child I’d be very clear about why.

I’d be unhappy about a child being changed in the living room because it undermines the dignity of the child - even small babies have a right to privacy and a good changing routine lessens the likelihood of the child getting fussy or distressed so less temptation to manhandle the child.

I’d be concerned about what my four year old was being exposed to gaming with a 12 year old. It wouldn’t cross my mind that the 12 year old might be sexually assaulting the 4 year old - not because I think it doesn’t happen but because if I thought it was a remote possibility I’d not have placed my child there in the first place. The presence of an older child in itself isn’t a risk in itself, abd I don’t think most 12 year olds are just waiting to abuse small children. I monitor my kids screen time and I wouldn’t be happy with video games at the childminders much less ones suitable for a 12 year old.