Opinions please to settle a dispute

[Ninjamomma]

OK so opinions needed either way so I can see other people views, DH aware I'm posting as we both feel others wouldn't agree with our views

DH in DDs bedroom - she is 8 just incase people think age is relevant. DD sat on DH - she trumps. DH isn't impressed and I agree with this. DD apologises, DH walks out of the room and says "that's pissed me off". DD heard this

I told DH I wasn't happy with him say he was pissed off in front of her. I agreed it would have annoyed me too but she shouldn't have to hear that.

I've been to speak to DD and explained she shouldn't be going that, I've asked her to try to move away from people at the very least, she says she didn't mean to and did apologise.

DH doesn't think he has done anything wrong was saying it "pissed him off" and feels that she should have been able to move away and should have had some form of punishment (removing ipad for example) for trumping on him

I've said I feel having a word is enough and that occasionally even as an adult it happens before you've realised and that I don't want him swearing like that especially when she knows it's aimed at her.

So 1. Should there have been more punishment? and 2. Is he wrong to have phrased what he said in the way he did?

On the upside OP you don’t need to be in dispute with each other because both of you are unreasonable.

My two are 7 and 9, fart jokes abound in our house. In fact the first words our daughter said to us were “I’ve farted”, she was 6 and we were meeting her for the first time.

Nothing to be disgusted about, nothing needing punishment - our two know how to behave outside the home but at home I’d not get in a twist over it.

I’m guessing you’ve never farted during sex...

Oh your poor daughter

Not much else I can say that's not already been said tbh. I just can't imagine giving a child a hard time for farting. Farts are hilarious to kids. If you can't find it in you to join in and have a laugh, fine, but don't shame her.

Oh FGS it's a bodily function, my dad and stepmom made me feel embarrassed if I ever passed wind as a child in their presence and it was awful, it's really cruel to treat a child like this especially when she's in her own bedroom.

@Twinkie01

Oh FGS it's a bodily function, my dad and stepmom made me feel embarrassed if I ever passed wind as a child in their presence and it was awful, it's really cruel to treat a child like this especially when she's in her own bedroom.

Yes, good point about the poor soul being in her own bedroom

twinkie I think you’ve put your finger on why I too was particularly upset for her

I think people are forgetting the part where she farted ON him.

Yes, farting is natural, but farting on someone isn't. I wouldn't be bothered by it personally but I can understand why others would.

That said, he overreacted and she apologised.

Bloody hell you'll turn your child into a nervous wreck who is scared to do natural things!

Explain we don't do that as a joke or in front of people if we can help it, but she's your child - teach her, don't punish for ridiculous things!

Children have less control over farting too, so just bear this in mind whilst she's small, snd chose battles, don't make everything a punishment

All rather crude.

But by accident on her part, deliberately on his.

Accepting apologies is an important skill to learn and to model. He is modelling moodiness as a revenge / punishment to her instead.