Conceived when? I’m going crazy

[Mandyfox90]

Hi

I’d like some peoples advice or opinions

Going off my last period.9/11/20 I should be 7 weeks 2 days.
I’ve had excruciating pain in one side which I ended up being checked for. I was scanned and there was nothing there. Which meant I was quite early. Hcg levels were 400 but have since progressed well.

I went for a scan today as following that initial scan it’s sent me into a panic. I assumed this would be my ex husbands who I’ve agreed to take back and give it another go. I did sleep with someone else 30th November. I agreed to give it another go after this incident.
I slept with my ex husband 19-23rd November.

The scan today said 5 weeks 6 days so I’d be 6 weeks tomorrow. Could someone please tell me when I’d likely conceived as that gestation is the actual growth and not of the last period. (The last period would make me further along which I’m not)
I’m panicking now as I don’t want this to hinder us being back together.

How could I be so stupid. :-(

I took the pill 14th and 15th November so i may have delayed ovulation 🤷🏼‍♀️ I duno

@Respectabitch
That sounds like it may have been delayed. I’m usually 28day cycle. I duno what to bloody do now. Got myself in a real mess

If you simplify it down, you’re going to have to do a test to determine the father, either before or after you give birth.

So put the fathers aside for a minute. Do you end the baby? Do you want the baby regardless of who you the feather is?

Do they know about each other? Are you safe?

Oh god I’m sorry, I meant want the baby. My autocorrect is on a mission today 🙈🙈

@HopeAndDriftWood it’s ok I knew what you meant. the other bloke won’t want the baby. It’s that simple. I wanted it to be my ex husbands which I thought it was. If it’s not then I can’t continue with the pregnancy because the other doesn’t want. I won’t bring a baby up alone I have two kids as it is without doing it solo and my finance can’t stretch for another alone. :-(

If you want to keep the baby be honest with your husband. Might be painful now but will save a lot of heartache down the line, for you and the baby. Hope things work out for you x

In fairness I’ve not done anything wrong we wasn’t in a relationship because he strayed 3 times and neither was the other bloke. I only agreed to give it another go with Ex husband 2 weeks ago. I just don’t need the grief. I don’t have the money to have a child on my own. I’m in the middle of nurse straining too so I’m on student income.

I can assure you my ex husband will not stick around if it’s someone else’s.

Thank you to you all for your advice :-) it’s been helpful and I appreciate it :-)

Nobody can tell you without a DNA test. Why do people do this and cause all this angst for themselves.

All due respect and it's your decision, but I think you need to be really clear on what you want for yourself. Your ex doesn't sound like much of a prize and I would be very very slow to keep a baby, even if I did know it was his, with the goal of patching things up between us, because a) it probably won't and b) it doesn't sound like he is worth the effort.

I think you probably have to decide if you want this baby as a single parent, with who the father is completely irrelevant.

Embryos measured very early between 6-8 weeks are usually quite accurate and are usually off by 2-3 days max.

Later on on the pregnancy it gets off by about 1-2 weeks the older your pregnancy is

So if you are 6 weeks tomorrow as confirmed by the scan, you conceived just after 30th Nov so you most likely ovulated late

But still to close not to be ruled out without DNA

As lots of others have said there is no way of knowing who the father is without a DNA test.
Do you actually want a baby?? I am guessing you do as you weren't using contraception.

Ovulation is usually (but not always) around 14days after your 1st day of period. You can get pregnant from 5 days before ovulation and 1 day after. If your cycle fits this sort of thing the person you slept with on 30th technically shouldn't be the one you got pregnant with. It's more likely the first person earlier in november. Unless you ovulated late

@Screwcorona

Ovulation is usually (but not always) around 14days after your 1st day of period. You can get pregnant from 5 days before ovulation and 1 day after. If your cycle fits this sort of thing the person you slept with on 30th technically shouldn't be the one you got pregnant with. It's more likely the first person earlier in november. Unless you ovulated late

Hannsmum is right. You almost certainly did ovulate late (not surprising if you took the pill for a few days) and the dates then put the one night stand as the more likely father. But you would still need a DNA test either way.

If the embryo measures 5+6 today then the likely date of conception is early December making it most likely this baby is the other man’s child but not totally impossible for it to be your ex as sperm can last a week inside your body.

The likelihood is high it’s the other guy though as the dates add up.

Get a termination. Don’t get back with your husband. This has disaster written all over it.

You can't tell someone to get a termination.

A scan is dated as any pregnancy is. It doesn’t take off 2 weeks. But the size measurements account for the fact the baby was conceived roughly mid cycle.

So a baby measuring 5+6 would have been conceived 3+6 weeks ago, give or take a bit for measurement error.

A baby conceived on the 30th of November would measure 6+2 today. A baby conceived around the 19th would be closer to 8 weeks by now. My assumption would be purely by dates that it could be likely to be the other guy’s or not developing properly. Sorry probably not what you want to here.

You can date by conception date (obviously you don’t always conceive the day you have sex but will be close): www.whattoexpect.com/due-date-calculator/

Sorry if I've missed it but when did you get a positive pregnancy test? By my dodgy calculations a 28 day cycle would have made your period due around the 7th Dec, if you tested as soon as your period was late or just before then that would be too early (generally) for conception on the 30th I'd have thought.

Tbh i dont think it matters whose baby it is, your going at it alone as the final outcome anyway. XH cheated on you 3 times with 2dc at home, why is having a 3rd going to stop him cheating again? What if you get full term and find out he cheated AGAIN, you say you cant do it as a single parent so what will you do? Refuse to take the baby home from hospital?

@danadas hi yeah I was due on from the 7the I did a test week before being due in it was negative. I then waited until the 14th which was 7 days late bang on that was positive straight away.

The thing I don’t understand is if it was early dec then I would be less weeks by actual gestational age.

I’m 6 weeks today

To those who think they can comment on my relationship status, please don’t.
Also to the one who assumed I’d leave a baby in the hospital once born, don’t be so absurd. If it is this other guys he does not want this so I will terminate. I am a student nurse with low income o cannot afford all the things for a baby ALONE. I did not ask for a bashing I simply asked for advice on the likely conception dates so that I can make a proper decision.

[quote Mandyfox90]@danadas hi yeah I was due on from the 7the I did a test week before being due in it was negative. I then waited until the 14th which was 7 days late bang on that was positive straight away.

The thing I don’t understand is if it was early dec then I would be less weeks by actual gestational age.

I’m 6 weeks today

To those who think they can comment on my relationship status, please don’t.
Also to the one who assumed I’d leave a baby in the hospital once born, don’t be so absurd. If it is this other guys he does not want this so I will terminate. I am a student nurse with low income o cannot afford all the things for a baby ALONE. I did not ask for a bashing I simply asked for advice on the likely conception dates so that I can make a proper decision.[/quote]
It wouldn't be a lower GA as the GA is based on conception date plus two weeks, meaning your LMP. However if you ovulated late, which you appear to have done, the LMP will be later than it really was.

Please believe the posters. Your GA is not from conception, minus two weeks from that and you get conception.

But again, as everyone is saying, it's not an exact science. Ovulation changes, sperm hangs around and implantation can be earlier or later. There is no way to be definitive.

If you are six weeks today you likely conceived 4 weeks ago today would be around 3 December assuming you usually have a fairly regular cycle close to 28 days but you can ovulate earlier or later some months

There is no way to know even with scans. I had IVF so knew the moment of conception down to the hour but the scans were always 4/5 days off the actual date