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You win tonight's Lotto. Your best friend gets...

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SeasonallySnowyPeasant · 30/12/2020 17:42

Her mortgage paid off and £10k to do whatever she wants with, on the condition that she and her DH don't tell anyone.

It's a £5.2m jackpot last time I looked.

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TerrifiedandWorried · 30/12/2020 18:28

Pay her mortgage off, get her bariatric surgery done privately so she doesn't have to wait any longer on the NHS, £100k to support the finishing of her MSc and PhD.

Other one - I have no idea. Pay for more round the clock care for her mum, mortgage etc.

I think I would like to unburden the people I love so that they can reach their potential, basically.

I'd also make a gift to the school I work in and set up some music and sports funds

Lolly34h · 30/12/2020 18:38

A farm in the middle of nowhere so he can stop moaning about how he wants a solitary life

WhenPidgeonsCry · 30/12/2020 18:43

It'd tough when you have a close-knit friendship group but everyone in different financial situations. I hope my rich friend would understand if I give more to my barely-scraping-by friend, but who knows. It'd definitely be a sensitive subject!

GreeboIsMySpiritAnimal · 30/12/2020 19:02

I'm buying her a house! She's a single mum managing on universal credit. And taking her on holiday - up to her whether she wants to take the kids with us, or have me pay for childcare whilst we let our hair down for a bit.

God, I'd love to be able to do that.

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SeasonallySnowyPeasant · 30/12/2020 19:05

I really don't see how people manage to keep huge wins a secret. Surely you would have to stop yourself buying the things you wanted and doing the things you wanted to do, otherwise it would raise questions? How miserable!

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froggydoggy · 30/12/2020 19:07

If help her out with a deposit for a house and get her on the property ladder. I would give more but I'd have lots of family queuing up for help too!

DifficultPifcultLemonDifficult · 30/12/2020 19:09

I would gift my loved ones anonymously, and tell them I was gifted too.

I'd start a business with my 'gifted money' and tell people that was doing amazingly well.

I have thought about this, at length 🤣

Thedarknightsaredrawingin · 30/12/2020 19:11

We have three sets of close friends. I would pay off each mortgage and car finance and gift each £50k cash.

purplecorkheart · 30/12/2020 19:11

Mortgage paid off. A trust fund opened for both of her daughters.

AdditionalCharacter · 30/12/2020 19:13

New house, new car, money towards specialist therapy for her DC with SN, and a holiday wherever she wanted.

mrsbyers · 30/12/2020 19:14

My best friend won
£101k plus change the night before her wedding a few years ago - she gave me the ‘odd’ £1k and I bought a MacBook which I still treasure

TheThingWithFeathers · 30/12/2020 19:15

A new house and her own zoo!

BettyCrockaShit · 30/12/2020 19:20

Another cat to keep hers company. Its something she really wants!

MrsRogerLima · 30/12/2020 19:25

@Bunchup

Nothing. Giving people money doesn't make them grateful. It makes them wonder why you don't give them more.

A lot of people have a very shaky grasp of human psychology.

I completely agree with this.

I wouldn't tell a soul if I had won the lottery. I know at least one friend (who is a friend genuinely) who would expect to have a share of the winnings and she wouldn't be content with what I gave as she would feel entitled to a 'fair share' as she would see it as free money.

I'd pay off my mortgage and put money into trust for my children and my nephews for when I died. Nothing for my family especially my brother who would piss it away.

I only have one friend who I think deserves any of it and wouldn't 'expect' anything but I don't think she would accept it.

cyclingmad · 30/12/2020 19:31

On only 5.2m then unlikely to give anything.

I worked out id need 2.5m just for myself to live comfortably e.g. giving up work and essentially retire at my age of 38 and live a modest life until the end.

The rest split between my sisters to help them have easier lives.

Crowsandshivers · 30/12/2020 19:31

I have too many siblings to have money left over for a friend. To be honest, I wouldn't tell anyone apart from my immediate family. I would finish my parents mortgage and buy my sister and brother a place each and dh's parents and sister. That would probably be it!

justanotherneighinparadise · 30/12/2020 19:32

Definitely mortgage paid off. I’d need to see who
else I wanted to help before I started giving away away cash to one person.

IncyWincyGrownUp · 30/12/2020 19:34

There are two. One I’d pay off her mortgage and overhaul her heating system and insulation/glazing etc. The other I would buy her a house of her choosing, with similar provision for essential overhauling.

IncyWincyGrownUp · 30/12/2020 19:36

In my area, that would come to 750,000 max. The rest would be invested for living.

TanglinOrchards · 30/12/2020 19:37

@TheLightSideOfTheMoon

She'd get a house, driving lessons and a sausage dog puppy.
Oh i want a sausage dog puppy!

I would give mine ... mortgage paid off and a trip to Antarctica.

ShinyGreenElephant · 30/12/2020 19:38

I would buy her a house in her name only, massive shopping spree, trust fund for each of her kids, and offer her a 100k "escape fund" to leave her horrible, abusive partner. I would also book an amazing holiday for me, her and all the kids as weve never been away together since our teens because I won't allow my kids to be around her partner. I wouldnt give her any money directly as he would take it. Can you tell I've fantasised about having the money to do this 😂😂

anguauberwaldironfoundersson · 30/12/2020 19:42

Buy her and her sister a nice flat or house each and pay off her sisters debts so my best friend doesn't have that to worry about (it's a long story that I won't go into but it would mean my friend gets peace of mind). I wouldn't get much change from about £750k to be fair after all that!

I've always promised myself that if I win a reasonable amount I'd do my current house up to an amazing standard and sell it to another friend of mine for £10 (for formality reasons) Her husband has a chronic illness and can't work and unfortunately a lot of the day to day stuff falls to her too. They have a lovely little terrace but their kids are getting older and need more space and she's having to work from home now. She would definitely be deserving of something like that and her husband is a nice guy, just unfortunate with his health.

So... I've got about £4.2m left... we'd gift £1.2m to immediate family to buy houses etc and then we'd retire to the lakes!

Franticbutterfly · 30/12/2020 20:03

Enough to buy the other share of the house she owns 50% of.

PicsInRed · 30/12/2020 20:05

@SeasonallySnowyPeasant

I really don't see how people manage to keep huge wins a secret. Surely you would have to stop yourself buying the things you wanted and doing the things you wanted to do, otherwise it would raise questions? How miserable!
You "inherit" enough to be believable and to buy a comfortable home, put the rest in pension and investments and have some bangin holidays.

And this way you keep all your friends and family - and your happiness. No amount of money can salve loneliness - people and community are everything.

Deadringer · 30/12/2020 20:20

Not sure i wiould give her anything to be honest. She is much better off than me and i have a truly massive family, most of whom are struggling, so i would be helping them first. I would want to invest some of it for my 5 dc too.