Are you not able look back at videos/photos of your DC because you find it too upsetting?

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Are you not able look back at videos/photos of your DC because you find it too upsetting?

Do your DC look at them or do you think they will when they grow up because if not, then what’s the point?

Why would it be upsetting?

Yes, why would it be ‘upsetting’?

Eh?

*here for the explanation.

Explain why you find it upsetting.

Upsetting because they have grown up? Or because you don’t like how you look in them?
Add me to the confused list.

I dont understand. We love looking at old photos and videos together

I don’t get why it would be upsetting either. My kids are 8 and 11 and love watching videos of themselves as babies.

Grown up

I'm lost.

Once my 2 turned teens, it was very hard to get a photo of them. Now as adults they still don't like their photo taken, not heart breaking at all for me.

No I don't find it upsetting
I take the videos for me, not for my child
But she might like looking at them too of course

Do you mean it's upsetting because they've grown up??
It's a bit sad that I don't have that time anymore and it makes me long for that time but no not upsetting

No - I love looking at the baby videos - have made DVDs out of all the clips and photos on the phone and we watch them a fair bit, particularly the holiday ones. I took a load of old cone films and photos from when my brother and I were small and made a DVD for mum. Ok, she cried, but that was just emotion, she wasn’t upset. She said I’d ‘given her back her babies’.
Why does the thought of your children growing up upset you?

I don’t find it at all upsetting. It’s lovely to look back at old pictures.
Why would I be upset that my children are growing up? It’s kind of inevitable (and far far better than the alternative).

Yes, I find it difficult. Because, much as I love my 10 year old, I used to have a baby, and now I dont, and I miss that baby.

No I love looking at old photos of DS as a baby, I love seeing his chubby cheeks and how he has changed but stayed the same. My DSS is now soldier but I still love looking at pics of him in his army outfits and remembering the 6 year old I met.

What I find hard is looking at photos of people who have died, or old photos of my parents who are now in different stages of dementia and are no longer the vibrant independent people that they used to be.

Mockney- that’s what I mean

No, I like to look at the old photos. It’s amazing how much DGS looks like his dad.

I understand what you mean OP. It's just so sad that it's all gone. Time whizzes by and there's no getting their childhoods back. I often worry if I did a good enough job and were they happy enough. I still love the photos and videos though and the kids love them too.

Three- I’m yes that’s what I mean

I understand Im the same i find it really hard because I feel sad its gone so fast and I miss them being babies 😢

I get a bit upset looking at dd’s baby photos, I guess it’s a mixture of how fast the years have gone and that she’s now an adult and (obviously) won’t be little again. People do sometimes get upset at nostalgia, my elderly dad welled up when I found pictures online of the old dance halls he used to go to .

I do of my daughter. I had a ridiculously high stress job with horribly long hours and this put me in a bad place mentally when she was between one and three. I also could go a week without seeing her as I'd leave before she woke and was home after she was in bed. I sometimes find looking back at pictures of her at that age hard as I barely remember her at that age and feel like I missed out on so much. Thankfully I went part-time when she was three and things got much better.

I loved my dc being babies and I loved them being toddlers too. And when they started school and started doing all different activities.

I loved them finding out about different things and learning things and getting better at stuff. I loved them meeting new people and making new friends.

Now they are teenagers and I like having actual interesting conversations about things and hearing their opinions.

I love them helping me empty the dishwasher in the morning and cooking together. I like seeing their personal style develop and their interests. Pretty sure one of them thinks her generation invented manga comics.

I've enjoyed them getting older and becoming real people with their own personalities.