Who is on their own today?

[PilatesPeach]

I am but hey I am going to have a good day! Tier 4 here and live alone.

I have done a run and taken dog for a short walk and just had some porridge.

I shall have a leisurely bath & then a lovely long dog walk in the sun at lunchtime.

I have an M&S ready meal for my dinner which I am looking forward to with lots of veg and some lovely wine.

A good book on the go so might sit up in bed to read that and will finish the day with a stroll early evening with dog and some chocolates and TV.

Happy Christmas to you all

There lots of us this year
I glad it nice and sunny I had a walk too and bumped into couple of friends so at least I see someone today
Wish I had a dog but I work long hours so cannot have a dog
I pretending it not xmas and just trying to relax now
I call my mum I normally spend xmas with her in nursing home since we lost dad but have hardly seen her this year I hope next year is better for us all

Me too, just sad, been ostracised from oh family long time ago and no family of my own apart from a disabled dc.

Not enjoying the day at all but at least not crying which o used to do in the past.

Me, first time. I'm trying to ignore that it's Christmas day. Just left Christmas cards in a pile, never done that before!
Alternate between not caring and feeling sad.
Merry Christmas to all trying to be Christmassy.

up until13.00 hours I was. I am now in work. I had a good morning though. I watched The Nutcracker Suite, then 3 tenors, then Kylie. Opened presents, then made a quick lunch of Blinis, Creme fraiche and smoked salmon then got my cab. Nut roast on menu when I get home.

@madroid, thank you for your kindness.
@WitchesBritchesPumpkinPants - good question! It was so good in the beginning, but his health began to change and with it his temperament. When you have the realisation that you spend a lot of your time pacifying them, or dealing with behaviour akin to a toddler strop, you know the relationship is done.
So, I've had a good 5 mile walk, then jumped in the car and drove to see one of the properties I've seen that's for rent. Got home and he's still in bed.
When he first started this behaviour, I would spend ages coaxing him out of bed, making cups of tea, apologising etc, but now, thanks to the glorious collective of MN I know better. Last week after his worst verbal assault on me he stayed in bed for 3 days - no food, drink, whatever. He won't seek help for his problem, and as he won't do so, I'm taking action instead. I've got to or I'll go mad.

Never, ever again will I live with anyone. I had a good life before. Own place, single life for 20+years and loved it. Had adventures whenever I could. Now I struggle with life daily.

Good for you @EarthWanderer onwards and upwards, i’m glad you have an escape plan x

Hugs to everyone struggling today, it can be so hard when you're on your own. I couldn't go stay with my sister as she's 5 hours away, but the chicken and roasties are in the oven and I've just cracked open the Prosecco so all is good!

I need to put my dinner on soon too, now it dark etc I feeling like I really cannot be bothered! But I only had a sandwich today so I should make an effort really, it is just putting a few bits in the oven

I am. My DS is with his dad. I spent 4 hours delivering food to emergency service workers, the homeless and the elderly.

What's wrong with me? I was doing fine and then someone who I don't even know, posted this pic on a FB thread and suddenly I'm in floods of tears!

Just checking in again - am doing my dinner and having a glass of wine.

Hugs to all on their own who don't want to be.

Strength to those with tossers and hope 2021 brings happier times for you- I was in your position last year and if I can it, anyone can.

And best wishes to all those, who like me, are doing ok today. I am treating it like a Sunday.

First year without a traditional Christmas dinner 😔

@Destinysdaughter big hugs for you. It's probably the shock of seeing an image of how christmas is 'supposed' to be.....and it is a lovely pic.

@sanityisamyth - thank you on behalf of someone who was homeless 35 years ago thanks to an ExH. The kindness of strangers kept me going. That's why I'm angry at my so called DP, and determined its not going to happen to me again.

Well stuff the traditional dinner I was going to make - my revised edition is a bowl of roasted veggies with gravy, followed by xmas pud with cream.......and I bloody hope the aroma is getting right up his nose!!

[quote EarthWonderer]@Destinysdaughter big hugs for you. It's probably the shock of seeing an image of how christmas is 'supposed' to be.....and it is a lovely pic.

@sanityisamyth - thank you on behalf of someone who was homeless 35 years ago thanks to an ExH. The kindness of strangers kept me going. That's why I'm angry at my so called DP, and determined its not going to happen to me again.[/quote]

No worries! There was a team of 20 or so of us getting out 850 boxes of fish/sausage/pasty and chips out. Was lovely to do something kind and helpful to make a difference.

I have spent the day alone, was absolutely dreading it but actually it really hasn't been so bad... watching lots of good TV, a bottle of prosecco and texting friends throughout the day has kept my spirits up

DH is ill so I feel like I’ve spent Xmas alone as he’s been in bed most of the day. It’s been a very dull one.

[quote EarthWonderer]@madroid, thank you for your kindness.
@WitchesBritchesPumpkinPants - good question! It was so good in the beginning, but his health began to change and with it his temperament. When you have the realisation that you spend a lot of your time pacifying them, or dealing with behaviour akin to a toddler strop, you know the relationship is done.
So, I've had a good 5 mile walk, then jumped in the car and drove to see one of the properties I've seen that's for rent. Got home and he's still in bed.
When he first started this behaviour, I would spend ages coaxing him out of bed, making cups of tea, apologising etc, but now, thanks to the glorious collective of MN I know better. Last week after his worst verbal assault on me he stayed in bed for 3 days - no food, drink, whatever. He won't seek help for his problem, and as he won't do so, I'm taking action instead. I've got to or I'll go mad.

Never, ever again will I live with anyone. I had a good life before. Own place, single life for 20+years and loved it. Had adventures whenever I could. Now I struggle with life daily.[/quote]
I'm so sorry it's become like this. It's sad.

But I am SO pleased you're taking action to change it!! People slate MN & it has changed, but it is still great for support & seeing your issues & support to change them!!

What did you think of the place you saw today?

Living alone is certainly better than living unhappily with someone. Never say never though, living with someone wonderful is pretty damn good too, but for now don't think that far ahead!

Did you own a property before you met him?

How was the property you went to see today? I'm astounded you could see somewhere today! (Or did you just look at the outside?) but the sooner the better.

I hope you've had a nice afternoon planning all the lovely things about living alone- there are plenty aren't there!! X🍷

How old are you? ( I'm 51)

@WitchesBritchesPumpkinPants - I'm sorry it's like this too - but out of the 5 years we've been together, 2 were good, one up and down, and the last 2 utter ly awful in terms of his behaviour. I've asked him to seek help, offered to help him do so, but he - in his own words - can't be bothered!
Sorry, I didn't fully explain - the place I mentioned I saw online earlier this week, and I bookmarked it, JUST in case he kicked off again after last weeks carry on, though no, I haven't yet seen inside it - really would have been fab if I could have seen it today - the pics look good though..
So today, after he went off to sulk in bed I decided to have a drive over to have a scout around the outside. It's in a lovely area I know well, is nearer to some friends of mine, and ticks all the boxes.

I did have a mortgage on a property, but he persuaded me to move here - darn bad move. I loathe this town it's so weird, he hasn't made any attempt to familiarise me with places/meet people he knows socially - and there's a lot, and I'm now homesick. The new place is on home territory, so positivity is in the air.

....and I'm 60! Seeing as I plan to live at leat to 100 I'm not living it like this.

I must admit, this isn't the first time I've spoken about him on here - have had 2-3 threads under other names. But I'm a sucker for giving chances - lots of them.
However, after having to say to him last week that his behaviour was classed as common assault, and that if he EVER did it again, I would be calling the police as there were to be no more chances.
He managed to behave until today - guess the excitement of Christmas was too much for him.

I'm alone! Daughter went to her dad's a few hours ago. I don't normally mind my own company but Christmas is usually the one day of the year the whole extended family gets together and it's wonderful. So feeling a little sorry for myself today. Was planning to look at the sales and treat myself to something but no idea what!

Merry Christmas all 🎅

Deathray l think you've been watching channel 11, sky arts? I love it, and watch.it a lot. So glad it came on Freeview.

This is my twentieth Christmas by myself, but then I have lived alone since I bought my home so it's no surprise. I don't celebrate Christmas so the day itself is something of a waste for me; I quickly run out of things to do. It could be worse though.

@EarthWonderer

Me, my partner has just had yet another one of his infamous - only ever does it at me - strops and gone back to bed, simply because I asked him to stop his bloody awful throat clearing that sounds like he's vomiting - he does it 100's of times a day. I hate it, living with him has made me ill and miserable. . A week ago he was so verbally abusive to me that my heart didn't stop hammering for 4 days. I can't do this anymore, I don't want to do this anymore.I truly wish I'd never moved here. I've found 2 houses to rent in my price range. I'm going to check them out on monday, but for now I'm off for a walk.

for everyone happy or sad.

So sorry to hear this EarthWonderer

Wish you all the luck in the world in finding a place of your own, where you can live in peace away from that abusive prick. Hearing you describe how your heart was hammering for four days after he was vile to you almost made me cry. I’ve been there, as have a lot of women on MN.
You will never look back. Maybe start a thread of your own on the Relationships board if you could do with some support.
Write off Christmas 2020 and look forward to the next one, and the rest of 2021, when you will be happy and away from him. All the best.

@EarthWonderer

I'm glad the place is looking hopeful!! Hopefully you can see both places on Monday (if not before) and with a bit of luck one of them will be suitable! It'll be great to be on 'home ground' near friends again.

Woukd you like to buy again? Do you think you'll be able to?

I'm sure you've given him more than enough chances!! No one wants to be living with a grown man who acts like stroppy toddler- it's bad enough with actual toddlers!

What are your plans for tomorrow? (Today now really). How are you sorted in regards to paperwork you might need & mentally packing?