Anyone else having a crap Christmas so far?

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I've had a severe dose of the hiccups for 2 hours, cannot see friends nor family because of COVID. And can't stop hicupping so can't go to sleep!

@Sinuhe that is seriously crap. I'm very sorry for you. Is your husband usually so thoughtless? And your children are old enough to know better too. I hope your day improves.

I agreed my ex could pick my son up this morning to go to his house to open presents and I would get him after an hour. For context he had our son for Christmas the past few years in a row and refused to let me see him at all that day (it was fine we just celebrated another day). I wanted to be a better person, and it would mean my son got to open his other presents, so agreed. As they got him in the car my ex said "we wont be back by X time, and by the way Im cooking food for us too." I tried to say "hang on a minute" and he said "dont make a scene on christmas day" And he was right - I couldnt do anything except physically drag my son out of the car at that point so had to wave them off. But it basically means the whole christmas lunch and day I had planned is wasted. And I know it probably seems really petty when Christmas is about the kids but I was really looing forward to having christmas day with my son this year. Also, the whole time we were together he made a big thing out of not really liking Christmas and it was all on me to make christmas fun for our child. So this is pure spite on his part. I HATE him.

@NotSoFlatStanley as others have said, no teenager wants to be the one who says "actually I have a very healthy relationship with my mum." They need something to have angst about/rebel against. You are obviously failing her massively by not being unreasonable enough.

A shit day for me too, though in small ways compared to what some of you are dealing with. Having lunch with DD later is the only highlight. No cards or presents from anyone. (I have 3 adult DC and 2 sisters) My father shoved £20 in a card, which I'll have to use to top up my electric as my flat is fucking freezing. My universal credit ran out a couple of days ago and I don't get any more money until the 4th Jan. Sick of all the media reinforcement of wonderful Christmases filled with loving happy families. My family is shit. Dysfunctional, selfish, uncaring. I'm starting the new year by going NC with several members. Solidarity and hugs to all of you coping with such difficult and sad situations.

@SkintHippy - I share my with you!
My day is a bit better, I had a lovely Brunch - cooked by me, for ONE and my lovely DC watched me eat it! (I made a bit extra for youngest DC... so he isn't starving).
DH is going out of his way, the penny finally dropped that I am serious about my Strike and promised he will cook Christmas Dinner later. (Only issue is, he isn't a very good cook, so I probably end up doing the chicken & potatoes myself. )

@Thelonewanderer - how are you doing? I hope you have some Christmas Spirit wherever you are. 🎄

My daughter is at her dad's until NYE as she wants to be with other half siblings and step family. She is old enough to make her own choice now but I found it hard she was so eager to go.

Sorry to hear of everyone who is having a real shit at the moment,
Hope ones who are ill, their health improves..
Take care
Hopefully better new year2021
xxx

Sorry ment to say
Sorry to hear of anyone out there who is having a shit time at this time of year 😢

@Sinuhe we've been very lucky. Our neighbours on the other side of the bridge not so lucky. I'm just tired now. Hope your day got/gets better

Thank you for the thoughts on this thread.

Mum sadly passed away at 1pm xx

wlv I'm so sorry 💐

Is there someone with you in real life wlv?

Yes, my husband and children are here.
It’s very surreal and I’m haunted with thoughts of not being able to be with her

That must be so hard wlv. Be gentle with yourself.

I'm so sorry for your loss wiv.

My 18 yr old DS and I had Christmas dinner on a tray in the hospice with my DH trying to smile whilst all I wanted to do was cry. Got a lovely photo of DH and son together. DH could only cope with 2 hours and needed to rest.

@wlv12 sorry for your loss x

I’m sorry for all the people who have suffered a loss or who have poorly family
My DH has had a face on him all day, barely spoken to me - he’s stressed apparently ( always says that when I call him out in being withdrawn/rude) but says he’s fine and done nothing to help while I ran myself ragged organising everything before and during today
DS has autism and SLD and is totally over whelmed by Christmas even though we keep it low key
He’s not slept properly for a week- 2-3 hours per night, he’s developed awful grunting tics and has had violent melt downs ( he’s a large teenager) most days, can hear him building up for another one now
😢

A thought for those lorry drivers sleeping on the airfield at Manston.

50/50 here, OH in bed all day yesterday and today and went off for a covid test. So juggling kids and cooking and a 3 month old, bloody exhausted and done with this year. Feel utterly exhausted and can't wait for bed

My dd got a positive lateral flow test today so we have done an emergency dash to the local test centre. I've got a bit of a cough so thought it wise to check myself too. Waiting for results so we cancelled family which upset my younger children.

We did have a two hour video chat though and opened gifts from family so everyone could be there in some way to see the children open them so that was nice.

Massive argument here between DH and DCs. He behaves like the biggest kid, gets very aggressive and just strops around. End result the DCs are scared and upset and he’s stormed out. Merry Christmas!

wlv12 I’m so sorry for your loss. 💐

Worst Christmas of my life. My Dad is dying in hospital with Covid related illness. My mum and I tested positive and I am isolating with her. My husband who is negative stayed at home to be safe. My adult children and grandchild have stayed at their own homes.
My mother has several health issues and now covid on top and we obviously can't be with him until quarantine ends in four days by which he will probably have already died. I am trying to keep it together but I feel very panicky and overwhelmed.

Have some kind of stomach upset and so far today spent most of it in bed sleeping.