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This is all a bit crap, isn't it? Or is it just me?!

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lookatgiraffenow · 24/12/2020 16:08

I haven't seen my parents and family since last Christmas and, due to the various tiers and rules, I won't see them this year.

I'm lucky in that we have food in the fridge, presents for the kids and a comfortable house...but Christmas feels so flat this year. I've cried in bathroom twice today. Getting on with the prep for tomorrow and trying to be smiley for the kids but it's all shit and I can't wait to get back to work on 27th. If DH tells me to stop being grumpy one more time I will explode.

Bah frickin' humbug.

OP posts:
PickAChew · 24/12/2020 19:34

It's extremely crap and autistic Ds2 is growling non stop which just makes it even crapper. Can't even immerse myself in online sales for distraction because they're pretty crap, too.

Camphillgirl · 24/12/2020 19:34

@Purplethrow

It’s my Mum’s birthday tomorrow and it’ll be the first time ever that I won’t see her , she’s so lovely and said we’ll just do it all another day and we will for sure. I’m determined to make the best of it, a friend has just been diagnosed with inoperable cancer and a family member is in hospital with life changing brain injury. Those of us who are fit and well must count our blessings, it is shit there’s no doubt about it but try to find something to be happy about. Now dry those eyes , have a drink and let’s hope for a better 2021 xx
Yes girls it’s shit but we all have to pull up our big girl pants, dry our eyes, paint a big smile on our faces and big it up.

When my mum was a little girl she couldn’t understand how Father Christmas brought dollies for other girls but not her and her five sisters, but her dad was stuck in a trench and the Germans were trying to kill him, let alone the weather was bad and the food worse.

We know this will end one day and we will have the biggest celebration. Stay cool girls otherwise in twenty years your little ones will be writing on sites like this that Christmas was spoiled cos their Mum was such a misery and they didn’t know why as there was food in their lovely warm house and presents under the tree.

ALL things shall pass. Cheer up girls even if you don’t feel like it. Xx

Jellycatspyjamas · 24/12/2020 19:45

Stay cool girls otherwise in twenty years your little ones will be writing on sites like this that Christmas was spoiled cos their Mum was such a misery and they didn’t know why as there was food in their lovely warm house and presents under the tree.

I’d be banned if I responded to this the ways I’d like to. It’s ok to feel sad, fed up abs a bit broken - of course others have it worse, but we can take a time to acknowledge our own sadness. I’ve not seen extended family since this time last year, my kids haven’t seen aunts, uncles and grandparents.

My kids will remember this year as being one where we were safe and well and remarkably fortunate. They’ll also remember this year as one where they couldn’t see much less hug their loved ones. And they’ll remember mum having a bit of a cry, and then getting on with having a good time together. And most of all I hope they remember it’s ok to show how you feel, for better or worse.

IAmAMalenkyBitPoogly · 24/12/2020 19:45

"your little ones will be writing on sites like this that Christmas was spoiled cos their Mum was such a misery"

Well I'm sure everyone feels so much better now you've said that. It's always very helpful to add some guilt to people's sadness Hmm

(I'm not a girl btw, I'm an adult woman)

Jellycatspyjamas · 24/12/2020 19:46

And I’m not a “girl”, I’m a grown ass woman who’s allowed to be a bit down from time to time.

IAmAMalenkyBitPoogly · 24/12/2020 19:47

Oooh fist bump @Jellycatspyjamas

Xmas Wink
Daydreamsinglorioustechnicolor · 24/12/2020 19:47

Personally I think it helps to moan a bit on here, before we paint on our big smiley faces for our kids or whoever else we need to cheer up for.

covidaintacrime · 24/12/2020 19:50

Quit with the whole "you're ruining things for your kids" spiel that is getting paraded on here by insensitive posters. When has anyone ever been told to suck it up and thought, "Aw yeah, hadn't thought of that!"?

Purplethrow · 24/12/2020 19:51

I think Camphillgirl is being sarcastic

covidaintacrime · 24/12/2020 19:51

I think Camphillgirl is being sarcastic

Potentially ( / hopefully).
Some other PPs weren't though.

PickAChew · 24/12/2020 19:55

And my little one won't be writing on any medium.

PickAChew · 24/12/2020 19:56

And he's taller than me.

Purplethrow · 24/12/2020 19:56

It’s a shit time , I’ve cried loads , mainly for my dd whose dad will never be the same , I miss my elderly parents, I miss seeing my friends. My mum said the words ‘dry your eyes’ to me , so that’s what I’m doing.

Mcmole · 24/12/2020 20:00

Yeah it's shite, I haven't been able to see my family for almost a year and really, really missing them. Also so stressed about the thought of returning to home learning at the start of the year and dreading breaking the news to DD. Had a couple of bathroom cries too but pretending to be happy in front of her.

Flamingolingo · 24/12/2020 20:01

I hear you OP. Not seen any of my family since May 2019 (for various boring reasons and mostly distance). Not seen PIL since February (less of an issue for me personally but sad for DH and DC, and actually I might even be starting to miss them a bit!). Lost an aunt to cancer last month, watched a livestream of her funeral this week. Surreal, depressing, bizarre. Saw Santa in the street last night (a lovely local group bringing what little cheer they can to the local community), but even that was a bit flat. I’ve been pretty positive the whole way through but this is indeed quite shit.

ivykaty44 · 24/12/2020 20:03

my dad died in June after 3 months of me caring for him at home alone during lockdown, this is my first Christmas without him and mum died years ago.

Ive lost my job and managed to get another.

Im making the most of this Christmas and am fed up to the back teeth of the fucking winging

Ive got food in the fridge, the tv and internet for company along with a zoom booked for tomorrow at 6pm

cheer up people

covidaintacrime · 24/12/2020 20:06

Im making the most of this Christmas and am fed up to the back teeth of the fucking winging
cheer up people

People are allowed to be sad.

Rockbird · 24/12/2020 20:08

Yes it's really shit. My parents are nearby and all the presents were at their house where I'd hidden them so I had to collect them today (they left them at the end of their garden path and went inside). It was all I could do not to break down in front of them.

I'm trying so hard to make a lovely day for my girls and DD1 (12) has done nothing except spoil things. I've reached the end of my tether now and gone up to bed. I feel like pulling the covers over my head and waking up in January. The last thing I want to do now is play Santa. Pissed off and depressed with it all.

ICouldHaveCheckedFirst · 24/12/2020 20:16

Even those of us who are not suffering are feeling flat this year.
So if youl are suffering, as so many are on this thread, it's absolutely fine to come on here for a moan and have a cry in real life.

If you're having the time of your life this Christmas, maybe just scroll on by?

Unsure33 · 24/12/2020 20:17

Of course it’s ok to feel sad . We had have had a crap year losing family to covid plus other illnesses and normally family support would help ,
But we don’t have it . Had to see grandchildren on the doorstep today . It’s sad and depressing.

I hate this virus ,

PufferFishGoneWrong · 24/12/2020 20:18

I was on dual carriageway last night into the City nearby to get some live food for pets.

I found it really sad, how quiet the roads. Even we never travel over Christmas.

queenofknives · 24/12/2020 20:26

It's shit. I've cried loads too.

Hard to feel the christmas spirit at the moment. It's very quiet compared to normal this time of year, the shops are dead, and even the street decorations look a bit pathetic and threadbare. But people are being pretty nice and wishing each other a happy christmas, so that's something.

Merry christmas, everyone x

Jellycatspyjamas · 24/12/2020 20:36

Right back at you @IAmAMalenkyBitPoogly Xmas Grin

ivykaty44 · 24/12/2020 20:37

Im making the most of this Christmas and am fed up to the back teeth of the fucking winging
cheer up people

People are allowed to be sad

there is a difference between people being sad and winging on and on, its not going to make it any better by winging - in fact it make it 10 x worse.

Make the most of what you have instead, smiling is infectious.

We don't know whats round the corner so be grateful for what you have now and enjoy it

covidaintacrime · 24/12/2020 20:39

there is a difference between people being sad and winging on and on, its not going to make it any better by winging - in fact it make it 10 x worse.

Speak for yourself, there are many people on here who have genuine problems and they are allowed to express their difficulties. And even if they didn't have "genuine" problems, it would still be OK to be sad.

(oh and for the record, it's *whinging)