How were you proposed to?

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Hit me with your proposal stories. I know dp is planning on asking me, but is keeping all plans under his hat!
Daydreaming about him getting down on one knee, and wondering how other mn-ers were asked.
I love a bit of romance or absurdity! ❤️

We haven't got a fun proposal story I'm afraid. We went to a family party and a few people asked if we were planning to get married, so that got us talking about it and decided to do so. I got to choose my own ring a few days later which I preferred.

@KitKatastrophe We have been to a few jewellers and looked at rings so I could try a few on for size and type but I have left the choice to dp, he has good taste fortunately! X

@KitKatastrophe sorry for the 'x'! Not very mumsnetty-too much texting people this week!

We sat down together and had a grown up conversation about it

After our first night together dh said now will you marry me and I laughed but he took that as a yes. I’d always said no before.

When he picked up the ring and handed it to me he said your ass is grass now which I never really understood the meaning of but I got a carat and a quarter solitaire so I didn’t care.

@Summerstorms We have talked about it, but he wants to surprise me. We are quietly romantic with each other. I knew I loved him when I was in my twenties but we didn't get together until some twenty years later. We are the ultimate slow burn

We were on Barbados in December. My brother had sadly not long died and we booked a last minute holiday for us and the kids. We was walking home from dinner across the gardens and he got on one knee. I told him to get up as I thought he was playing silly buggers. Then he asked me and our youngest boy said say yes mummy. He had took the kids to choose the ring. It was just perfect. We went back two years later with all the family and got married.

@Summerstorms

We sat down together and had a grown up conversation about it

Yup. In my case, it involved saying 'I really don't fancy it' over a number of months until a practical reason intervened which meant it was a no-brainer, and we immediately phoned the register office for the first available notice of marriage appointment. We got a lucky cancellation with about two hour's notice and married the day after we were legally able with two friends who were free at short notice as witnesses.

It was on my 32nd birthday, we'd been out for the day and then for drinks/dinner. I'd just got changed into my PJs and we were having a glass of wine on the sofa. I hadn't opened my presents from him yet so he brought them in, and the last one turned out to be an engagement ring wrapped in 2-3 other boxes. Totally unexpected, but lovely, and was fitting that it was just us 2 at home. My H would never have done a public or overly grand gesture, it felt really personal :)

Rather drunk and after only 5 weeks together, on bended knee in the snow outside Watford irish club/centre.

We went to Iceland for a weekend. At some point in the weekend we got back to the room. I was sitting on the bed taking my boots off and he sat down beside me and very politely enquired, ‘I was wondering if you might like to marry me’. Apparently he’d been struggling to figure out how to do it (since we were together all the time in a small room).

And he was really nervous about it too. He was worried I’d turn him down on the basis that I didn’t want to join the patriarchy. 😂

We went to try to see the northern lights afterwards.

No excitiny stories here.

We had a conversation about marriage as we had agreed that living together was a test to see if our relationship would progress. We were both happy with how things were going, we hadn’t attempted to kill each other!

We ordered his ring the next day, then about a week later we booked our venue. So no exciting story, but we have had some really nice engagement pictures done and I have a cringe whiteboard with days until Mr & Mr ‘Smith’ that I update everyday.

Careful, mumsnet hates proposals and you’ll get lots of “we discussed getting married, that meant we were engaged then we booked the registry office two weeks later. I wore a bin bag and we fashioned a ring from an old coat hanger and didn’t have any guests as we have no friends. Anything more than that is a frivolous waste and means you’ll be divorced within a year”.

In real life, everyone I know discussed getting married so knew it was on the cards then the men did a nice proposal as well.

We went to a lovely park with country house hotel for a Sunday walk. We stopped at a scenic spot and he dropped to one knee with a flourish and rather loudly said my name and will you marry me.

Thankfully at that precise moment there was no one around and I think he was nervous hence the over compensating dramatics but it was very sweet.

The ring box he presented was actually an earring box with a Haribo in it.
We had talked about marriage and knew we both wanted it but we’d never done the browsing in shop windows and the only strong hint if given was that I’d like us to choose one together.

We went to the jewellery quarter a couple of weeks later and I had a ring made from a combination of a couple of styles I liked.
I love that you can’t just pick up my ring in a shop and although it’s by no means a massive rock, the quality and value is Significantly higher than what the equivalent would be (if found) on the high street. Or rather would have cost significantly more from a high street shop.

So if it’s not too late I’d say scrap plans for a shop bought one and get better value for money in the jewellery quarter.

We talked about it, knew it was going to happen, he chose and bought the ring and did it in bed one night. I came back from the toilet and he had it out (that sounds dodgy!) (I don't think he got on one knee but cant remember) not very romantic sorry but v happily married.

We'd kind of already spoke about it, as we were going to elope whilst on a cruise. However after thinking about it, we decided that we would have a proper wedding because his elderly grandparents aren't going be around forever and his younger brother wasn't anywhere near having a wedding so they could at least see one of the grandkids get married (we got married 3 and a half years ago and he's still single) we booked most things. Then one day I came home from work, and he'd run me a bath and bought my new pyjamas and my favourite bottle of wine. After the bath, id gotten dressed came into our living room and he was on knee. I wasn't expecting the full on proposal so it was such a surprised and he proposed with his late nannans ring. It was lovely, intimate and just cosy like we are.

In the middle of Argos looking at soup makers . . Honestly, the romance just radiates from him

I have a cringe whiteboard with days until Mr & Mr ‘Smith’ that I update everyday awww! Congratulations!

We talked about it and I rang and booked the ceremony. No proposal and no bin bag wearing either.

@ChunkyButFunky87 . I wouldn't put it past him tbh!

At home one Christmas while our youngest son who was only a few months old watched. We finally tied the knot this year after our first date ended up being cancelled.

In bed. We were drunk too. Proper classy!
I don't know if there is a connection but the people I know who had the dazzling, romantic Instagram worthy proposals haven't ended up with the happy ending!

DH had bought a ring, and he’d put loads of thought into it (including making sure it had a diamond mined by workers with rights). He still kept telling me I could change it if I didn’t like it.

Tbh, I would have chosen something a bit different (smaller, probably considerably cheaper 😂) but actually I like that he chose this one. It means more to me than something I chose myself. It’s a lovely ring too.

We were in the Maldives watching the sun set over the beach from our rooftop terrace. It was the first night of our holiday and I thanked him for taking me somewhere so beautiful and when I turned round he was on one knee. I had no idea but he had the ring and everything.
That might be a bit too Instagram for mn, (not that we took any photos or put anything on social media) but it was wonderful and we are still very much going strong.

On Hampstead Heath, at a spot which has become known as "our bench".