How were you proposed to?

[NoEffingWay]

Hit me with your proposal stories. I know dp is planning on asking me, but is keeping all plans under his hat!
Daydreaming about him getting down on one knee, and wondering how other mn-ers were asked.
I love a bit of romance or absurdity! ❤️

Weirdly I was taken by surprise when DH proposed to me, given that we’d bought a house together and made wills expressly stated to be in contemplation of marriage. We were in Italy with all my family and we’d gone to Florence for the day. My family kept popping up everywhere we went (even more weirdly he’d told them he was planning it and so they kept waiting for it). DH was behaving like a loon and was driving me mad and eventually I said to him “are you ill? If you don’t tell me what’s the matter I’m going to clock you one”. “Oh” he said “I was trying to work out how to ask you to marry me”. I’d ruined the moment but we had a laugh. And it was romantic and special and lovely - although I do tell both my DSs now that the idea of waiting for a man to propose is not the way to go about it really.

Belated Valentine's trip to Venice as OH was working away at the time. Did a quiz in my card:-

1. A shortened name for William (Will - I said Bill though as my Uncle was a Bill!)
2. The opposite of me (you)
3. Something his parents did the year before (marry)
4. The opposite of you (me)

During our flight transfer in Amsterdam airport I dragged him round all the jewellers though! He has always said he was planning on asking me just not on that trip!

He's now my DH of a year and a half and we have 2 DD's

Never really had a proposal!

We had been seeing each other for 6 weeks and I was due to move to the USA for several months the next day. We sat up all night so we could spend as much time together as possible. DH then mumbled something about our possibly setting up a nest together. I was mortified - we'll it was 1977 - and stating I most definitely was not moving in with him to which he said he didn't mean that. When I asked what he did mean his reply was, "You know."

Took several minutes to work out what he did mean. Ended up flying home from the States after only 2 weeks. We married 10 months later and still blissfully happy.

Still waiting for a proper proposal though.

and stated 🙄

When we first started dating 7 years ago we went to Alton Towers for the day. I've always told him it was one of my favourite dates and memories.
We planned to go to Alton Towers when it re-opened after lockdown and booked in to a nearby hotel for the night to have a kid free night in July this year.
He asked me at Alton Towers.....
Said he knew how I loved one of our first dates there and thought it would be a lovely memory. We had a wonderful night out in a nearby little town and a lovely stay in a beautiful hotel.
It was perfect 😍

We were going away for a romantic weekend. He tried to take me to a look out spot we often went to on the way to the station, but I grumbled that we were going to miss our train, so he missed his chance there.

Then when we got to our hotel, we went for a walk around the grounds and he found a sweet little log seat that he tried to get me to sit down on, but I told him I wasn't going to as it was too dirty.

Finally he covered the seat with his coat and got down on one knee and popped the question before I could whinge about anything else. God love him for persisting
In my defence I was just out of a spell in hospital and feeling a bit grotty, but still. I didnt make it easy for him,

Then we tried to call our families but couldn't get any signal. The only signal we could find was at the top of a nearby quarry (?) So we sat in the car in the pouring rain, in the dark, trying to make these phone calls.

The rest of the weekend picked up remarkably however! And the marriage has been worth the dodgy proposal from day one!

In front of the Alice in Wonderland statue in Central Park, NY, on a snowy day in February.
We went back to New York as part of our honeymoon the following year. Love DH so much ❤️

We'd saved hard for 3 years, living with family, for a deposit to buy a small flat above a shop. We were so excited to have something that was ours. We picked up the keys late afternoon and were moving in properly the next day but decided to just take our mattress and some boxes and stay the first night in the flat. We had nothing much with us so we just got fish and chips for dinner. As I was plating it up in the kitchen, dh called me into the living room. When I walked in he was down on one knee with a ring box in his hand. He always said he didn't want to propose until we had somewhere of our own, I thought it was really romantic it was the very first night.

@ShirleyPhallus 😂😂😂 so true

In a Cafe Rouge after a screening of Macbeth. I was hugely irritated with him that day because he hadn't proposed and it was on my mind more and more, and I couldn't concentrate on the film because DH is Russian, never studied Shakespeare and the combination of Shakespearean English and Scottish accents meant that he didn't understand a word and kept leaning over to ask things like "Are those witches?" and "Didn't that guy die a few scenes back?"

Got the element of surprise at least .

We got engaged in lockdown, had spoken about marriage afew times, but we watched a nice movie cuddled up on the sofa, then he said do you fancy it then...I must have looked confused and he said let's get married...I thought hw was joking until my birthday when I got given three bags of presents...the first one had a take a break and electric tin opener in...the second had 15 pairs of black socks (because I always steal his) the third had my ring in 🙈 he didn't think I would get to the third one without having a paddy about the shite presents he had bought me the funny fucker he is! I wouldn't change it one little bit 🥰🥰🥰

Sat on a bench next to the library sharing a sandwich. He said should we get married. I said OK then. We went and chose a ring and 9 years later we had a ridiculously extravagant church doooo.

The morning of Princess Diana’s funeral 🙄 I lived in London and he’d stayed over. I just woke up. We’d been together for six or seven years so I assume the whole collective hysteria thing gave him a bit of a ‘better get on with it’. It wasn’t romantic. He didn’t have a ring. He was also living in a different country at the time so I went and bought my own. (Actually I didn’t. I went and chose it and then sent him the phone number of the jeweller so he could call and pay for it.)
He was then given notice of an operational tour so we got married within six months and he left three days after the wedding. We didn’t bother moving in together - no point really 😂
We’ve been married for 22 years and have three kids though. But no glitzy proposal story. And no bin bags. (The dry cleaner did destroy my dress though.)

He picked up the ring and decided he couldnt wait so he met me after work and I was starving so wanted to get lunch at a cafe but he insisted we eat outside so there I was taking a bite out of my favourite pasty and there he was down on one knee in the park asking me to marry him.
It was a suprise (we d discussed getting engaged soon and rings but I didn't think it was coming for a couple of months at least) and somewhere quiet and that was all I wanted out of a proposal.

Sat in the car talking about marriage then we decided I'd make an appointment with the marriages department at the local town hall. I had to give 30 days notice of marriage at the town hall so I did and we were married a month later with just me, DH, and two witnesses.

A classic proposal on a Mediterranean beach complete with a ring that actually fitted my finger. A complete surprise.

We went to Florence on our anniversary of the day we met (Valentines Day when we were 16) it was our 10 years together anniversary.
We went to lots of the sights and then stopped for a large G&T at a little bar and he got down on one knee and asked me with the ring.
I had not thought he would I was just enjoying the holiday. He said he was going to do it at the top of the Duomo that we had gone up to look at the city but as I was petrified up there he changed his mind.

DH came home over Christmas holidays from RnR when on tour. He had his auntie buy the ring whilst he was away and had arranged a staycation in Wales in a log cabin. He asked my parents permission before we left. He proposed in a hot tub. DH nearly drowned himself as his head was nearly underwater getting down on one knee. Still laugh about it now 😂

On the beach one night under a palm tree in Mauritius with my DM's engagement ring. Twenty years ago this year.
I still have a piece of the tree

The first Christmas we were together - so 8 months after meeting - DP and I went for a lovely romantic walk in the palm on Christmas Eve. When we got to the deer enclosure, he shouted ‘look, there’s one there!’ and pointed. As I turned to look for the deer, he went down on one knee, asked me, and opened the ring box.
Of course, I said yes, then we went for cocktails and called our parents.
It was totally perfect. Hope yours is too, OP!

I had absolutely no idea it was going to happen.

On the day of my 30th birthday he told me he’d accidentally left my present at work but he’d give it me the next day. (I’m fact it was that the ring hadn’t arrived in the store).

The following day I was in the house and I heard him come home from work. I hollered our to him that he’d best not have forgotten my present and he said he was just searching his bag for it but would bring my card up.

He came into the living room, handed me a card which, when I opened said, “Happy birthday to my fiancé” on the front. I opened it and he’d written, “So what do you say?” inside.

I looked up at him because I was confused and saw he was on one knee with a ring box, and then he asked me to marry him.

I screamed at the top of my voice in surprise because I had absolutely no idea at all that he was going to do it.

So yes, the proposal may have just been done on my living room floor but it was so romantic, and unexpected and just wonderful.

We had been to see the film The Way We Were, and were sat in the car outside our house. I said that I wouldn't want to be pregnant and unmarried, and DH said "well, we had better get married then"

TBH I really don't unserstand "performance proposals". In the grand scheme of things it doesn't matter if it is a low key proposal like mine was. Anyone who places too much importance on the whole bells and whistles proposal needs to take a long hard look at themselves and decide what is really important to them.

DH and I will be celebratimg our ruby wedding anniversary next year.

Similar story to you @NoEffingWay wrt how long I've loved him and how long before we got married.

There was no real proposal. We talked about it after I nearly died at 40 from meningitis. He said book it and I'll turn up (very romantic 🤣) and I did so and then 'proposed' at his Mums anniversary dinner. Gave him an invite to his own wedding 🤣

Finally getting an engagement ring after 2 years of marriage 🤣

@ShirleyPhallus

Careful, mumsnet hates proposals and you’ll get lots of “we discussed getting married, that meant we were engaged then we booked the registry office two weeks later. I wore a bin bag and we fashioned a ring from an old coat hanger and didn’t have any guests as we have no friends. Anything more than that is a frivolous waste and means you’ll be divorced within a year”.

In real life, everyone I know discussed getting married so knew it was on the cards then the men did a nice proposal as well.

Ahhhhhh i love you Shirley

My DH hired a yacht for the evening in Tenerife when we were on holiday. We had dinner and then he proposed