To dob in husband for having a mate over to stay (t4)?

[pissedoffcovidiotwife]

My DH told me today that he's having a mate over next week to play a hobby game they have in common. Mate is other side of London and apparently will stay the night because it's too far a drive. plus they will drink so he won't be able to drive.

Backstory is, this hobby is killing me. The games take place in our open plan kitchen so whenever they happen our toddler and I have to go about our normal bedtime routine around them. Last time this happened (which was still during a lower tier!) this mate insuinuated I let my toddler watch too much tv, they managed to eat all of the dinner I'd prepared before I got a chance to eat ( I was doing toddler bed time), and the worst of all, the drunker they get, the more piss ends up around the toilet. I hate the invasion of my privacy and end up spending the night in bed.

I've told DH in no uncertain terms that I don't want this game to happen but he's adamant it will happen. I'm so mad especially given we are in tier 4- there's not much I can do with my toddler even if the game happens in the day, and if it's at night then I am literally trapped with an irritable toddler and two drunk men taking over the house.

If he decides to go ahead with the game AIBU to report to local police? They have fined quite a few households apparently, so they're pretty quick on it, but surely DH would just suspect me?

“Can you afford a fine.”
This.
Because even though it won’t be actually coming out of your pocket. You’ll still be in effectively paying for it.

@pissedoffcovidiotwife

Tell your husband that he is

1. Breaking the law.
2. Risking all your health.
3. That his friend should not visit.
4. Call the friends wife?
5. Get even more drunk than them.

Period. Or has he not seeing the news.

Printout the rules and leave all over this house for a few days.
C

My husband has a similar hobby that involves hours of sitting around a table with shit lying about all over the place.

Do you have a garden? DH now plays outside as it takes up too much room in the house and gets in my way. He also starts his games early on so that he's finished by the time it's bed time and he can pitch in.

Sounds like your DH is disrespectful and isn't willing to compromise at all. I personally wouldn't phone the police but I would be reconsidering the relationship.

Tell him to play online. Warhammer subreddit has lots of different setups of how to do it. Dh has played regularly online for a couple of years with an online group. It's good to continue hobby during this crazy time but not by breaking the covid rules or taking over the entire Kitchen, that's just selfish.

Sounds like you've got 2 kids not one. Do you really want this life?

This isn't about covid it's about you not wanting his friend round and hating the stupid hobby. That's fine, you're perfectly entitled to feel that way. But deal with that issue, not the covid issue.

@CodenameVillanelle

If tier 4 it’s also against the law to stay. Period