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Sister in Law breaking Covid rules and spending a week in Wales.

43 replies

pinkgiraffe · 22/12/2020 17:28

My sister-in-law has taken my niece and nephew to stay with her mum for a week over Christmas with her sister. Her mum lives in Wales, a tier 4 area so she shouldn't be staying there and having contact with her mum. She will be back on the 27th December when the children will be staying at my brother's house (their dad). I have so many issues with this. Firstly I feel she shouldn't have taken them as she is putting them at risk. She will also be putting my brother and my parents at risk as the children will be around them when they return. The children will be returning to school when they could be contagious. My sister-in-law is a teacher so she will be putting her class and the staff in her school at increased risk and her sister is a hairdresser who has appointments 2 days after she returns. Should I let the schools and her sisters clients know about this? They are being very selfish putting others lives at risk.

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ArosGartref · 22/12/2020 17:32

If either her or her mum are a "single adult household" then that's within the rules. Of course it doesn't make it safe.

I don't think the school would be interested and it seems very extreme to target her business.

FestiveChristmasLights · 22/12/2020 17:34

Support bubbles are still permitted. Schools are unlikely to be open in January. You sound really spiteful.

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pinkgiraffe · 22/12/2020 17:39

Not spiteful just concerned about the people they are putting at risk.

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pinkgiraffe · 22/12/2020 17:44

Neither of them are from single households and she has travelled across the country from a tier 2 area to get there. Nobody who lives in England should be staying in Wales - they are allowed in for Xmas day only. I would like to know if my hairdresser had been in a high risk area but...

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Elephantshoe · 22/12/2020 17:48

School can't or won't do anything unless they're on the NHS tracking app, because they can't prove it. I'm in Scotland and our schools go back on 18th January Shirley England deal.for would be doing the same which means she's in the two-week (almost) quarantine period.
Also, it's Christmas. If SIL mother is ok with this then it's none of your business.
If your brother is ok with this then it's none of your business.
If your parents are ok with this then it's none of your business.

It's your business when they come see you. Which they won't.

Let your niece and nephew see their grandparent for Christmas. Let their grandmother have some company. It's been a long, hard, lonely year for many people especially pensioners.

Besides, in Tier 4 it's not like they're going out shopping or being around loads of people everyday. And you don't know what precautions they will (or won't) be taking

Why don't you enjoy your Christmas and let others enjoy their Christmas?

nosswith · 22/12/2020 17:50

I think the first question should be whether or not going to your DBs house on the 27th can stop/not happen.

I don't think it is spiteful.

ArosGartref · 22/12/2020 17:51

Single adult households, not single households.

Elephantshoe · 22/12/2020 17:52

No one is getting their hair cut for at least 3 weeks if we're in Tier 4, do you have an appointment for the first week of January?
Even if you did, your hairdresser could easily pick up Covid after a quick trip to Tesco, or the bank or whatever...

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pinkgiraffe · 22/12/2020 17:54

Neither of them are single adult households.

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pinkgiraffe · 22/12/2020 17:56

Ok, thank you all. Seems like I am overreacting. I will just make sure we keep away from them as my husband is high risk.

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ArosGartref · 22/12/2020 17:56

@pinkgiraffe

Neither of them are single adult households.
No worries, just wanted to check they were definitely breaking the law. Otherwise you contacting her clients would seem crazy.
buffyp · 22/12/2020 17:59

@pinkgiraffe

My sister-in-law has taken my niece and nephew to stay with her mum for a week over Christmas with her sister. Her mum lives in Wales, a tier 4 area so she shouldn't be staying there and having contact with her mum. She will be back on the 27th December when the children will be staying at my brother's house (their dad). I have so many issues with this. Firstly I feel she shouldn't have taken them as she is putting them at risk. She will also be putting my brother and my parents at risk as the children will be around them when they return. The children will be returning to school when they could be contagious. My sister-in-law is a teacher so she will be putting her class and the staff in her school at increased risk and her sister is a hairdresser who has appointments 2 days after she returns. Should I let the schools and her sisters clients know about this? They are being very selfish putting others lives at risk.
It’s nothing to do with you. She is responsible for her children not you and your brother is a grown adult. Keep away from them when they come back if your so concerned
mamaoffourdc · 22/12/2020 18:00

Well I would report her!

TheFairyCaravan · 22/12/2020 18:02

@mamaoffourdc

Well I would report her!
So would I.

Everyone saying it’s nothing to do with the OP, it absolutely is. The army are being called in to drive ambulances in Wales because it’s that bad. No one should be going there from a Tier 2 area.

Muchtoomuchtodo · 22/12/2020 18:04

I think she’s nuts - rates of the virus are hideous in lots of areas of Wales.

DecemberSun · 22/12/2020 18:09

It's because people ignore this situation that we are in the mess we are in now.

This is exactly how it's spread. It is everyone's business.

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ArosGartref · 22/12/2020 18:17

@DecemberSun

It's because people ignore this situation that we are in the mess we are in now.

This is exactly how it's spread. It is everyone's business.

I completely agree with you but from the OP I, and perhaps others, assumed the motivation was beyond public health.

It is serious in Wales though and I don't want to minise that.

Sapphire387 · 22/12/2020 18:30

I think you should avoid contact with her and protect yourselves, but not report her. That's just spiteful.

GintyMcGinty · 22/12/2020 18:30

I think you are overreacting - particularly in thinking of contacting school and clients.

It's up to your parents and brother to decide whether they are happy to mix with them or not. As adults they can all decide for themselves what levels of risk they are willing to accept.

Lollyneenah · 22/12/2020 18:33

¹it would depend on where in wales to me. South wales I would think she was made but mid and north west wales are essentially tier 2

Lollyneenah · 22/12/2020 18:33

Was mad*

Popgoesthebubble · 22/12/2020 18:34

I'm not sure some people have seen just goes bad it is in Wales at the moment. It's a lot worse than London. Some areas have Covid cases of 1300 p100,000 + (and rising rapidly).

Whether technically legal or not (which I doubt) it's neither in the spirit of a support bubble, or sensible to go.

RedMarauder · 22/12/2020 18:35

@mamaoffourdc

Well I would report her!
The English police don't do anything as she isn't a large group.

The Welsh police will only do something if they stop her on her way in or she is out and about.

Illstartexercisingtomorrow · 22/12/2020 18:36

I’m just bloody fed up and pissed off because so many people don’t want to follow the rules we keep ending up in further and further lockdowns. It’s not because if schools it’s because of people who are selfish. I’m tired of all of it too but I’m not gallavanting around the country.

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