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DH wants to drop gifts off in tier 4area

75 replies

Joditaylorfan · 21/12/2020 14:00

We are fortunate enough to be in tier 2.

He claims it will be a doorstop, well distanced visit (with 4 households).

He also claims that it will be safer than me visiting a supermarket, here.

He's pretty determined. Fairly sure he will silk if I absolutely insist he doesn't go, he's grumpy enough and I don't need that.

Posting for a handhold really!

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Joditaylorfan · 21/12/2020 14:00

*sulk not silk.

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mildlymiffed · 21/12/2020 14:03

I think he's probably right! Just because somewhere is now in tier 4 doesn't mean that the virus is suddenly way worse then it was 2 days ago! As long as he's precautious and stays well back from his friends.

As long as he doesn't go inside, doesn't kiss/hug/shake hands...

He shouldn't really given the restrictions, but at long as he uses common sense, then he isn't putting himself of you at too great a risk.

Scarby9 · 21/12/2020 14:07

I think that's fine. No more risky than a postman or DHL delivery person.

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Joditaylorfan · 21/12/2020 14:07

Yes he is sensible, and will keep his distance.

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Joditaylorfan · 21/12/2020 14:08

You are both right. I am probably just grumpy!

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gurglebelly · 21/12/2020 14:10

A lot of us in tier 4 were in tier 2 on Friday. Would you have had an issue with him doing it on Friday?

KitKatastrophe · 21/12/2020 14:13

I don't think it's that risky. Plenty of posties and delivery drivers will be visiting more than 4 houses in tier 4 and we arent all worried for their safety. Covid isn't flying around tier 4 waiting to pounce, you still have to come into contact with an infected person to catch it.

PawPawNoodle · 21/12/2020 14:20

I as a tier 4 resident must not leave my home without a lawful excuse, but your husband wants to do a Santa run or he'll sulk like a baby? Cool.

CoffeeRunner · 21/12/2020 14:28

Legally he can’t though can he?

sofiaaaaaa · 21/12/2020 14:31

I mean, I just think it’s an unnecessary visit to a Tier 4 area. Royal Mail exists - you shouldn’t have left it so late to send the gifts in time for Christmas delivery. Tell him that Christmas or being in a mood doesn’t mean you can do what you like in Tier 4.

Omeara · 21/12/2020 14:32

You can’t go into a tier 4 area. I posted all our presents this morning, the vast majority of my family are in tier 4.

Clymene · 21/12/2020 14:32

No, he can't drive to tier 4 to drop off gifts. It's not work or an essential journey

Omeara · 21/12/2020 14:32

There is still time to post things, use next day delivery!

NeedWineNow · 21/12/2020 14:33

My relative has done exactly the same. No worries her. As people have said, what about the postmen, couriers, delivery drivers eye who are delivering all the time.

sofiaaaaaa · 21/12/2020 14:36

As long as he doesn't go inside, doesn't kiss/hug/shake hands...

I think it’s a slippery slope to trust people to do something like this and NOT get closer to their loved ones in the heat of the moment. Some people haven’t seen their close ones all year, and here is a situation where they can essentially reunite as there’s a only a front door between them. If everyone did this, some people would succumb to emotion and go inside/for a hug and numbers will rise.

Whereas DPD etc couriers doesn’t care about you and would just dump the parcel and go

Bluesheep8 · 21/12/2020 14:47

No, he can't drive to tier 4 to drop off gifts. It's not work or an essential journey

It's that simple. Yet another person who thinks the rules/laws don't apply to them. And then sulking when this is pointed out. What a delightful individual.

Chloemol · 21/12/2020 14:49

@sofiaaaaaa

You do know we went into T4 on Friday, with no notice and none aware that such a tier existed?

So your comment about leaving it so late for Christmas post is just out of order

It’s stressful enough being told to stay at home and go into lockdown without stupid comments

InvisibleToEveryone · 21/12/2020 15:09

I'm driving to my dads to take his Christmas presents to him, he is 70+ and I want him to have his presents.

We are both tier 4.

Bluesheep8 · 21/12/2020 15:10

*I'm driving to my dads to take his Christmas presents to him, he is 70+ and I want him to have his presents.

We are both tier 4.*

Post them?

MedusasBadHairDay · 21/12/2020 15:18

Technically you are allowed to meet one other person outside, just got this from the government website;

"Meeting others safely
In general, you must not meet with another person socially or undertake any activities with another person. However, you can exercise or meet in a public outdoor place with people you live with, your support bubble (or as part of a childcare bubble), or with one other person."

So he could drop the presents off to one person from that household.

It's annoying that we were told so late, most people IME were arranging for presents to be delivered directly to the recipients, but for those who thought they were going to get to hand the presents over in person, they suddenly need to find alternative methods. Not sure going into a post office to send them is any safer than an outdoors one on one hand over with social distancing?

rollinggreenhills · 21/12/2020 15:23

@Bluesheep8

*I'm driving to my dads to take his Christmas presents to him, he is 70+ and I want him to have his presents.

We are both tier 4.*

Post them?

They're both in Tier4 and this is allowed. If they are a support bubble, she can go inside the house, if not then she can meet him outside in a public place (ie the footpath outside his house).
InvisibleToEveryone · 21/12/2020 15:25

@Bluesheep8
Can't too much and too heavy, thought I was going to be seeing them and now not.

At the very least he and SM can have their presents on the day, it'll be the first Christmas at home alone for them for 20 years.

sofiaaaaaa · 21/12/2020 15:26

@Chloemol You weren’t born yesterday - it’s not like Christmas was a spontaneous surprise as it happens every year, and you know full well that this Christmas would be weird with the impact of the pandemic.

You did leave it late by not taking the pandemic into account and sorting gifts earlier than a mere 7 days before. We only just came out of full lockdown so we were on shaky ground. Ironic that you mention “stupid” 🤥

Megan2018 · 21/12/2020 15:28

I’ve just done a tier 4 present drop (we are in 3). I didn’t get out of the car apart from to deposit presents on doorstep. We just spoke through window. I can’t see harm (I didn’t stop at all otherwise or journey-no fuel etc).

We had a car full of gifts unsuitable for posting due to weight.

MedusasBadHairDay · 21/12/2020 15:30

not like Christmas was a spontaneous surprise as it happens every year

Yes, and every other year we've been able to hand presents over in person, something we were assured would be possible right up until 4pm Saturday.

We've had fuck all notice, and are now scrambling to find solutions.

I'm glad you haven't been inconvenienced, but don't try to pretend that makes you superior.

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