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If a child has a “fear” of apples would it be cured if he was made to touch one every day (using bribery as the method)

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Ninbus · 17/12/2020 10:48

My child hates apples. Particularly cut ones where you can see the juice. He is 8. He won’t go anywhere near someone eating one. He refuses to eat something if it’s chopped with the same knife etc. This has gone on for many years. Although I have a feeling that at school he must put up with people eating apples near him at break time etc. But at home he makes a big drama out of it. We take the ignoring it approach as much as possible. We still eat apples. They sit in the fruit bowl which he walks past. but we do meet his requests not to sit next to him on the sofa for instance if we are eating apples.
Interestingly he will drink apple juice - and likes it.
Anyway. I was wondering about telling him if he touches an apple or perhaps eats a small part every day he can have a bit of chocolate after. I am thinking after a few weeks he would be over it. Does anyone think this is a good idea ??

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Gilead · 18/12/2020 23:31

A phobia of any description in a child is a serious mental health issue.

Love51 · 19/12/2020 10:29

@Bloodybridget there are 2 factors at play here. One is where you live. CAHMH in different areas have different pressures, thresholds, and waiting lists.
The other is who you need to deal with the problem. Lots of CAMHS issues require mental health nurses, psychiatrists, clinical psychologists with doctorates. These are expensive and have massive waiting lists. Phobias can be treated by a low intensity therapist (that's the job title in some areas!) or someone who has had specific CBT training.
I was so used to working with young people who needed CAMHS and couldn't get it / were on a waiting list that felt eternal in one area, that I would not have asked for support for my child (we live in the next area across) had a colleague not done the same thing for her son (she lives the same side of the border as me). It makes sense that my child's dog phobia was fixed in 8 30 minute phone calls with a trainee, and the children I work with would need a lot more for a lot longer. It felt a bit shit, to be honest, because if I had to choose I wouldn't have chosen to give the support to my child over the other children. But it isn't a choice, the support my child got wouldn't have been suitable for the children I work with, who need a whole different level of support.
Most CAMHS areas are overstretched, but they still do offer some support for children not in absolute crisis!

Bloodybridget · 19/12/2020 12:12

OK thanks for explaining @Love51

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