Is there anything you feel smug about?

[Sway19]

Hi all,

Is there anything you feel smug about? Perhaps something you wouldn’t admit to in real life?

Gloat away

I don't feel smug about anything tbh. What I am pleased about in my life, though, is my career - I have worked long and hard at it and earn decent money in a job I truly love with people I also love who make me laugh.

I don't feel smug though.

I feel smug because I made two perfect dippy eggs and soldiers for my tea last night! Often one is slightly over cooked. I'm grateful for a lot but smug about my eggs.

I am really shit at relationships but very good at dogs, about to rehome a Romanian street dog.

I've finished marking 250+ exams. That's it until January. Last exam was yesterday morning and I'd finished by 6pm.

Unfortunately late on the bills.... must crack that today. Around my last lesson.

After a bad uni experience where my student building wrongly passed charges to myself, I have finally fought this debt and won in pre court discussions and legalities, these charges included electricity and council tax (of which they were the worst and wrongly tried to claim the money nearly 2 years on). But yeah finally free of the burden

Yes, very. In fact, unashamedly smug.

I started a part time integrated masters degree (8 years, managed to do it in less tho) working in a minimum wage call centre job, colleague who had been working at said call centre for 18 years in the same job said “ that’s a long time, that’s going to take you ages, I wouldn’t bother there’s people with degrees working here anyway, waste of money and time”

LOL I’m in a nice new job I love and will finish degree 3 years earlier than planned. She’s still there.. on minimum wage, despising her job/life but taking no action to change it.

I'm not smug, I have a lot of really horrible things going on in my life right now.

But I do have amazing children and a partner who is the most incredible man I've ever known. Friends and family often comment on how lucky I am to have him.

That even after nearly 20 years of marriage I'm still head over heels in love with DH, and the sex is still fantastic. And, that our teen DCs are absolutely no trouble and are genuinely a pleasure to be with.

Finally, I'm having a tummy tuck next year, so will have a flat stomach for the first time in 20 years

Ohh, wait. I have one. I posted all my Christmas presents in plenty of time this year and haven't had to buy any presents at all in December.

I have bilingual dc.

I'm smug that my daughter has started drinking black coffee. I made myself like black coffee in my teens because I thought it was more sophisticated and a tiny, pathetic part of 40-something me still does!

I'm smug that my kids, while pretty fussy eaters in an many ways, are great seafood lovers. (see above sophistication comment - I am a pathetic human being!)

I'm a teeny bit smug that I've been exercising very regularly since lockdown 1 and have actual muscle definition.

Obviously I would not say any of this in real life, ever, to anyone.

I have a degree in psychology but work as a financial analyst. At first a lot of people told me that I wasted time going to university as I’m not working in my degree field so it was pointless etc. Even my best friend, which stung a bit.

I am fairly smug now as I am being paid very highly for my age, much more than if I was NHS staff and I’m nowhere near as stressed as my friends working within mental health/medical field (inc bestie!) I am valued at work & have a great team. I have been able relax during this pandemic with financial security, even if I don’t go to sleep feeling like a superhero.

I'm smug because I have defined muscles, like proper six pack, quads, toned butt, defined arms and legs, even back muscles, but it took a lot of hard work.

Also because my children are amazing, my eldest has had a difficult few years but managed to get an offer from Warwick for maths and an interview at Cambridge - his secondary school tried to expel him in year 8, mainly because they failed to meet the requirements of his EHCP. I'm immensely proud

I’ve actually got 90% of presents already, a lovely tree, pyjamas arrived today (despite being sold out almost everywhere) and feeling very festive

That I got diagnosed with a rare skin condition years after one dermatologist told me it was all in my head and I was subconsciously causing it myself because I was stressed after having miscarriages.

No I wasn’t which has been proved now, how I wish I could see him again and say ‘I told you so’!

Not really smug but very happy and thankful that I have a lovely DH and we have been married for 40 years and are still very much in love.

We got married 5 months after meeting and so many people thought we were mad and lovely MIL said (as we walked into the register office) "I'll give it a year if you're lucky".

I am also happy that we chose to remain childfree. Seeing so many posts on here about how difficult it can be with children and having so many friends who say if they could go back in time they would not have any, I know we made the right decision.

I also think remaining childfree has been one of the reasons we are still so happily married

I'm disgustingly smug that I'm beautiful, with a good body, good hair and personality. I would never mention in real life though.

I’m also smug at the state of my ex’s life. Immediately after we split up in January he was in a full blown relationship and made a massive show on social media of being extremely happy with his new girlfriend. It did slightly hurt my feelings at the time as made me feel like a throwaway, but got over it. Anyway they had a messy break up on socials and he’s already come crawling back, professing his undying love and how apparently awful she was I just had to laugh. I’m glad to be rid, everything happens for a reason!

I can speak 4 languages and have an Oxbridge degree. I have a happy marriage and intelligent, articulate, well-behaved children.

I’m smug because I’m the slimmest, fittest and most toned I’ve been in 25 years despite menopause, hypothyroidism and disc degeneration in my back. I am a smug McSmuggins gym bunny, and can lift 130kg on the leg press, and 55kg on my back. I love the feeling of sweat running down my face and how amazing I feel afterwards. I log some of the highest moves in my gym and I could hardly walk a few years ago!

I see a school mum from my oldest DCs school days about sometimes. I weighed over 18 stone then. My DTSs used to be friendly with her DS but she never let him come to DTs birthday parties, always said they were ‘busy’ and never let him invite DTs to his. She was a skinny minny and very much a queen bee. DS2 had behaviour issues due to SN and she used to constantly bitch about him with her cliche which caused me a lot of stress at pick up and drop off time. She loudly said she didn’t realise I was pregnant with a theatrical laugh in front of everybody waiting at pick up time (I was days away from giving birth and massive!). Anyway she has put so much weight on, struggles to walk and looks like shit now.

I’m also smug that my DH is very fit too, and still very sexy, and we are having better sex than ever at a time when a lot of our peers are not having any! I really don’t envy any of the women I know of my age of how their DH’s look now - pot bellies, bald, grey, pasty craggy faces < not.

< I would also never voice this in RL>

Love that my daughter can speak 3 languages (plus very good at Latin, not so much spoken 😀) but chose the maths and science options at school when the language track would have been much easier. She's much better as a teenager than I was too. No vodka drinking in the park! She goes to the gym (at least when open), does Yoga and saves her money to travel the world.

Good for you @BaublesToIt!