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How would you react in this situation?

34 replies

HallFloor · 12/12/2020 18:18

6yo girl, long blonde hair.

Mum has a time consuming hobby which helps manage some mental health issues. Her DH supports this.

He has taken the little girl for a haircut today, while mum does her hobby.

Before he went he asked mum what he should ask for - just a trim.

Little girl has had a complete change of hairstyle and c. 6 inches cut off.

I'm just a bystander (online) but I was surprised by the reaction. What would have happened in your house?

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farawayplanet · 12/12/2020 18:21

We would have admired the new style and then got on with our day.

Babyroobs · 12/12/2020 18:22

If it was my daughter I would be annoyed at the husband for letting it happen, but accept that there's not much that can be done and it will grow back. Is the child upset?

worriedandannoyed · 12/12/2020 18:22

It depends, if it was the child decision I wouldn't be upset.

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InTheLongGrass · 12/12/2020 18:23

A bit shocked, a comment that it was a bit more extreme than expected, and a comment to the child that it either looked good, or would grow back quickly depending on how they had taken it.

amymel2016 · 12/12/2020 18:23

I’d be a little annoyed but if the daughter was happy with it then I wouldn’t really mind

WishingHopingThinkingPraying · 12/12/2020 18:24

Same as @farawayplanet. I can't bear how people are about little girls hair. It's the beginning of teaching a girl that her worth is in her looks.

wellthatsunusual · 12/12/2020 18:26

If the wee girl wanted her hair shorter then it's all good. If she is upset and says it was done against her will then I'd be angry.

Witchend · 12/12/2020 18:27

What percentage is 6"?

DD1 had bottom length hair at that age and 6" would have taken it from bottom length to about waist length. Making a fuss about that would be silly.
DD2 had just below shoulder length hair at that age and 6" would have changed it to a short bob, which is quite a difference, and I think I'd have been unimpressed if I'd said a trim. Wouldn't have said anything in front of dd though.

MustardMitt · 12/12/2020 18:30

I would have probably had a little cry (alone!) and then got on with it!

I say this as when one of my twins was a toddler, I trimmed his hair SO badly it had to be skinned Blush. It still looked fine, it was at number 3 length, but he just looked so different. I am aware now and was then now bloody ridiculous it was!

In this particular situation I probably would have “it’s so short! Shock” and then done nothing else.

Mylittlepony374 · 12/12/2020 18:32

If the child likes it, I'd tell her it's lovely. If she didn't, I'd tell her not to worry, it will grow back.

mbosnz · 12/12/2020 18:34

If my daughter was fine with it, I'd be fine. I'd be asking DH what the hell he was thinking, lol, that 6 inches ain't no trim, and making a mental note to self that if I wanted my daughter's hair cut the way I'd wanted, I'd better not outsource that particular chore again. . .

FourTeaFallOut · 12/12/2020 18:34

Nothing. The hair is cut, so long as the kid likes it then it's job done.

Santaisironingwrappingpaper · 12/12/2020 18:35

Off to blur a photo then will show you what my dh allowed to happen to my dc...

Santaisironingwrappingpaper · 12/12/2020 18:45

My poor dc came back with this...

How would you react in this situation?
grassisjeweled · 12/12/2020 18:47

What relevance is the fact that the mother does a hobby for her mental health?

grassisjeweled · 12/12/2020 18:47

Not that bad, Santa?

RaininSummer · 12/12/2020 18:49

That is a bit if a change isn't it. Wouldnt be thrilled but tell her it's nice and if she wants to go longer again it will soon grow. Probably did it good anyway so will feel nice.

PicsInRed · 12/12/2020 18:50

I agree with PPs. What does daughter think? Did she want and like the haircut?

Santaisironingwrappingpaper · 12/12/2020 18:59

That is a pic of my ds....
Poor kid.
I made dh take him to the barbers and have it sorted out!!

Cam2020 · 12/12/2020 19:02

A bob? Is that so bad? Is your daughter happy with it? Much easier to manage!

WeirdWomble · 12/12/2020 19:08

couldn't get worked up about it. It will grow back. DD chopped all her hair off a couple of years ago whilst in DHs care but it's all grown back now

haba · 12/12/2020 19:14

If it had been my DD she would have been distraught, so I too would have been upset- for her, and the overriding of her wishes, not for her hair, which will grow back.

Alethiometrical · 12/12/2020 19:24

Oh come on ... hair grows. Get over it (and I speak as someone with v long hair who gets annoyed when a hairdresser lops 3 inches off & calls it a "trim". But the I just think, Hey ho, it grows.

Theotherrudolph · 12/12/2020 19:42

If child was happy I’d be happy, albeit surprised. If child was overruled by Dad or the hairdresser interpreted trim as six inches I’d be cross for a few minutes, but not in front of the child. So long as it didn’t look utterly ridiculous (so it was still a proper cut/style, just not what I anticipated) I’d get over myself fairly quickly, assure child it was lovely and move on.

user1493413286 · 12/12/2020 19:47

I would be really annoyed if DH did that. What relevance does the mums hobby have? That because she has a hobby that takes her time up it’s ok for her DH to completely ignore her wishes about their DD?

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