I've just had a panic attack

[OhToBeASeahorse]

And I'm feeling very lost and alone. Is anyone there just to say hello.

I'm here - hello!

Deep breaths, are you ok now?

Thank you.

I'm ok. I feel a bit wobbly

That's understandable, you're bound to be feeling exhausted.

Do you want to talk about it? Have you had them before?

@bearlyactive

I'm here - hello!

I was going to say the same!

Do you feel calmer now? Do you know what prompted it?

Hello. .I used to get them to. try lying on the floor with your legs up the wall .if that's feasible where you are!

I have had one many years ago.

I'm feeling very overwhelmed at the moment. I have a 2 year old and a newborn and I realised today how much I'm failing my toddler. Newborn has stopped sleeping and I just feel like I'm failing absolutely everything.

Also here, I’ve had them, they are horrible, are you ok now?

@OhToBeASeahorse

I have had one many years ago.

I'm feeling very overwhelmed at the moment. I have a 2 year old and a newborn and I realised today how much I'm failing my toddler. Newborn has stopped sleeping and I just feel like I'm failing absolutely everything.

Also felt like that as well! I promise you, you aren’t failing anyone. Mine are all grown up now. Do you have a partner helping you?

Yes I do, he is doing so much.
Baby is cosleeping, only way we get any sleep - but by the morning that often means she is kn my arms so unless I wake her I'm stuck. That means DS.went to childcare this morning and didnt even see me.

I should never have thought I could manage a 2nd one. It wasnt fair on anyone. My toddlers behaviour has gone to shite - I always have the baby attached to me cos she cries if she isnt.

I think you'll find a lot of people get overwhelmed at times, doesn't mean you're a failure.

Deep breaths, cup of tea, call someone

It's just a blip, it will get better.

Hello. You are doing great.

I'm here!

You're not failing anyone. You're doing a great job and coping with no sleep is awful.

Cup of tea and a biscuit for you, food or tv for DS and a cuddle for the wee one.

Can you get out for a short walk or a bath?

Thank you everyone. I just want to cry I feel like there is an enormous weight on top of me

Hello 👋 ❤

I found my toddler and her behaviour to be very tricky after I had baby #2. They are unpredictable creatures.

Coincidentally, I have had two panic attacks in my life, and both times were in the post partum weeks. It's a shit show, But you are not ruining your toddler. It sounds like you are doing well.

But your brain is overwhelmed. Can you get out for a walk around the block tonight? Just breathe. It is so hard, it is also transient.

Op this is entirely normal. It remember with the 2 small dc I couldn't believe the human race carried on and if new couples could see those early day to day, minute to minuet grinds... They wouldn't have dc!!

The best thing I ever had baby wise was a Co sleeper cot. Good luck op, it will does get better!!

Everyone with a small toddler and a new born feels like they went out for a fish super and returned with a shark feast for one anyone that tells you different is too sleep deprived to know what they are saying!

Take a tip from an old bird with 3 grown daughters, be kind to yourself and your loved ones, take all offers of help and never lose your sense of humour.

Carry your newborn about and make dens with your toddler so they can eat lunch, play, sleep, watch too much TV with you. Sleep at every opportunity during the day and early evening when you can - no one ever remembers the dirty dishes or unmade beds.

Everything is overwhelming for you at the moment, so take it slow.

How about trying to manage for 15 mins ahead each time?

If that is too much, try 5 min chunks.
Not what needs doing tomorrow,
tomorrow can piss off
just what needs doing in the next few mins

Aww just remember the clingy newborn stage will get better, it's not forever. It's just for now.

It's a huge change for the toddler! So pick your battles. Again, it won't be forever.

I'm a huge fan of baby wearing. Can you get a sling or carrier (check out baby wearing UK group on Facebook if you're not sure where to start.) then you can carry baby all day and have both hands free to play with the toddler/potter around the house.

It might help x

I hope your ok op.
I understand how you feel. I had one earlier.

Btw I don't think I know a single person who HASN'T had major mum guilt at going from one to two children, and feels like they're failing them in some way.

(Or worried that they won't love the second baby as much as the first, that seems pretty common too.)

I promise you'll be doing just fine. More than fine. The fact you even care shows you aren't failing.

If you get to midnight and can say "everybody fed, nobody dead" you're bloody well winning in my book xxx

I cut right back on cooking and prepared very easy food, muesli, fruit and cheese, bread, too many biscuits and lots of tea, also good fats so nuts and avocados etc wraps and noodles

Involve toddler as best as you can but this should be a daddy's time to step up,

Don't spend babies nap time online, put down the phone and shut your eyes even for 10 mins helps

Get out of the house with toddler to break up the days

Put CBeebies on