I've just had a panic attack

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And I'm feeling very lost and alone. Is anyone there just to say hello.

Thank you all. I'm sitting here in floods of tears.

The baby is in a sling all the time. I mean literally. She has her first feed and change, then sleeps in the sling, then wakes up a couple of.hours later and we repeat the whole process. I cant put her down and when she is ok down the toddler tries to hit her. She had her jabs today so she is hugely out of sorts.

I just want a bath. I want to sit underwater and not here anything.

*hear

Let her cry, it's not the end of the world, she'll be fine. Try and switch off from it and look after yourself.
Is your DH there so you can have a bath?

Yes he is but I popped her in the sling where she has promptly fallen asleep again.

I feel like in doing it all wrong. People on here are always saying 'with mine I put them down at 7pm and they got used to it pretty quickly'. People have 3, 4, 5 children because they are better at it than I am.

That's not true and I wouldn't believe all the things you read on here!!
One of my twins spent the first few months of his life in the car seat- it was the only place he would sleep He's 15 now and don't think it affected him
You have to do what works for you, it's early days yet, you are all still getting used to the new little one. Don't try and be perfect, just try and get through each day. You are not failing your toddler, they will not remember any of this.

@JollyJingleJemima

That's not true and I wouldn't believe all the things you read on here!! One of my twins spent the first few months of his life in the car seat- it was the only place he would sleep He's 15 now and don't think it affected him You have to do what works for you, it's early days yet, you are all still getting used to the new little one. Don't try and be perfect, just try and get through each day. You are not failing your toddler, they will not remember any of this.

So VERY true. Mine we’re taken for drives and popped in cots in car seats far too many times for Gina Ford to like

Op, be kind to yourself, they don’t stay little for too long thankfully. Do you need to give your partner some baby time ie he put the sling on for you to have a nice swift walk alone around the block and straight in to a Nice warm bath?

Yes I absolutely do. I feel guilty because he is doing so much but yes, I need some time sans baby

I've got my feet up and am watching The Crown. She has slept a lot today so I'm a bit nervous about when she is going to wake up!

Don't worry about when she'll wake up, enjoy the moment while she's asleep!
Tomorrow's another day....chin up x

And that’s absolutely fine to feel that way and it’s also good you are acknowledging it. Keep talking to your friends and family and take things one day at a time

Of course you need a break. Of course it is exceptionally difficult.

And yet you are doing it. You are providing a newborn with what she needs. You are parenting a toddler to the best of your ability with a husband who can and does help. You are exactly where you are needed. There will be easier days ahead. Trust that.