How to talk to DH when he’s sulking

[CurtainARama]

I have thrown a strop about housework, DH has been sulking for 2 1/2 days. Will speak to me but only when really needed.
I tried yesterday to suggest we talk. He said there was no point.
Everything I can think of sounds really confrontational and will end in more sulking, but at the same time I can’t live like this.

@willowmelangell

The quickest way to get a sulker out of their hump, is to not be an audience for it. Certainly leave their laundry and meals. You couldn't ask them what they wanted for dinner, or did they need those shirts being washed because they were not talking to you. My experience tells me they stop sulking when they want something. Sex, food, clean clothes etc. They also want an apology from you for your not letting them get their own way in the first place. Sulkers are horrible. Selfish egotistical point scorers. Is his behaviour a game changer for you OP? A line in the sand, hill to die on sort of thing?

Good post

@NewYearNewTwatName

I just can't ignore sulking but I dont beg for conversation. I'd just keep talking at him, every huff every sloping past without eye contacted or acknowledgment. I'd be pointing it out, telling him what a childish fuck he was, I'd remind him by impersonating him in mocking way of the petty thing he was sulking about. "Oo I let you do all the work even when you had covid, then you pointed it out to me" dramatic sigh "lifes so unfair you were so mean to me" " boohoo" " I'm gonna sulk now" "boohoo"

if it ends in an argument so be it, atleast you can lay all your cards on the table and about being an utter man child and the sulking only adds to it.

But I dont shy from confrontation though.

Yes, I’d also be going for that option as well Thankfully I don’t have to

Some excellent suggestions op
Which ones will you be going for I wonder?

I thought "dh" was mistake, it's meant to be ds or dd. Sulking dh, I would just ignore, he isn't a child.

Bet he’s an amazing dad though..,,.

So you want him to stop sulking but can't tell him because he'll argue and then sulk?

He may deny he is sulking but he knows damm well what he is doing. I would make a simple statement of fact. 'I am no longer willing to accept you sulking, either grow up and communicate like an adult or else.....' whatever action you deem necessary.