Boob Mouse Mat 13 year old DS

[ContraryMaryIII]

I received an Amazon delivery today.

My 13 year old ds has bought himself a mouse mat with an anime cartoon female and it has a padded wrist rest which is a raised/padded pair of boobs, they are covered.

I think it's innapropriate or is it harmless teenage fun & I'm being harsh?

I think it’s fine tbh... 13 year old boys love boobs! At least it’s a cartoon one in a bra no 20 odd fhm back order

Just to clarify he has ordered It without my knowledge.

he would be returning that in my house. If he was 18 I might let it slide and make some very grumpy comments but 13

Maybe use it as an excuse to sit down and talk about respecting women.

Also if he ordered it on your card on Amazon without asking that’s another issue that should probably come with consequences

I think it's fine, a harmless bit of fun

I would be returning it and child on an internet ban. Totally inappropriate.

I think it's actually pretty tame. He'll have seen worse at the beach/pool

13 year old boys "love boobs" because they haven't learned yet about objectifying women.

Having opened up the picture it's even worse than the description.

@PinkPlantCase but it’s a cartoon? It’s not a photograph of Gemma Atkinson or similar that would’ve been photographed for the industry. It’s just a drawing of something that happens to have (covered) boobs... I don’t see how that degrades women! My daughter has a peppa pig bean bag, it gets sat on and occasionally kicked... this isn’t animal cruelty in the making

My son would be returning that and having the we respect women and don’t treat them as body parts for our convenience talk. It’s not harmless fun, it reinforces the belief that women’s bodies are there for the convenience of men.

It's less overt than I thought it was going to be, from your title. I'd go for harmless teenage fun but it kind of depends what he does with it. Is the "joke" that you rest your wrist between her breasts? It kind of depends how pronounced it is, whether he thinks it's funny to grab them etc.

Oh that's grim. Yuck. I'd be sending that back.

@TheSilentStars no. 13 year old boys love boobs because they are fascinating, different, wobbly and unusual for someone that is getting used to the difference in female and male bodies post puberty.

@TheGirlWhoLived they’re 3D boobs, he wants to rest his wrist between the boobs. He’s bought himself a set of play boobs.

I don’t see how this is remotely okay. The more he thinks ‘hmmmm boobs’ the more he’ll see women as just body parts. Especially at only 13.

@unebaguettepastropcuite you mean boobs on actual people wearing appropriate clothing for sun bathing and swimming.

Now that’s a bit different to the above.

@PinkPlantCase it’s surely a parenting thing if they think the boy in question is wanting to grope some pretend boobs or just using it as a novelty mousemat. The only part of your post I’m querying is that it is objectifying women. I don’t believe this mousemat objectifies women any more than this one objectifies men

@TheSilentStars

13 year old boys "love boobs" because they haven't learned yet about objectifying women.

Bollocks.

I guess it depends how cool he would see you using penis coat hangers in the entrance hall.

Clothed anime ones of course.

@TheGirlWhoLived I think that the mousemat the OPs son bought is far more sexualised than the novelty mouse mat you’ve found.

The boobs in the OPs mouse mat aren’t trying to be as silly as your mousemat.

Who knew it was possible to read so much into mousemats

Its fine.

It could be worse. A lot worse. Also, he's 13. You're going to see worse.

It would be sent back in my house. Micro-objectification is what leads on to full blown objectification. Comparing it to the cartoon penis mouse mat also doesn't convince me; we don't live in a world where men are constantly sexualised and objectified - social context exists and matters. Plus, I don't know of any teenage girls who would buy a penis mouse mat, girls just aren't raised to view boys like that.

He doesn't get it because a) he used your Amazon account and your payment card without permission and b) you need to teach him about objectification of women.

@PinkPlantCase agreed, the penis one is obviously meant to be a funny gag-gift whereas the one OP's son has bought is meant to simulate real boobs and is of a anime woman lying on a bed with the classic 'doe-eye' look women use in porn. Regardless, both are for adults anyway and I think it is innapropriate for a child to put something overtly sexual in an obvious place in their room that anyone who walks in will see.

I have teen daughter and, at the moment, a sweet and innocent, pre pubescent DS. I teach many teenage boys, an alarming number of whom are not on message about respecting women. It goes back and explain why.
He will almost certainly be exposed to far worse objectification of women in his social circle. You are mum and what you tolerate and don’t tolerate counts for an awful lot. You have are working against a tide of porn and popular culture.