ExP has started contact proceedings with soilcitor

[Rochary]

Hi, I wasnt sure which category to post this in.

I have 1 DC with ex partner. We separated 4 months ago. He is abusive and has assaulted me since we split (logged with police). Sends me hundreds of vile messages none stop (also logged with the police). Social services aware.
He has been having regular contact with DC one day a week for a few hours. It's become unbearable for me to do handover. I dont have anybody else to do it and he refuses to ask anybody to do it.
I havent let him collect DC for the past fortnight because I've had enough of the abuse.
He has been to a solicitor and I should receive correspondence from them any day now regarding mediation.
At risk of sounding really stupid, what should I expect now?
I've never been through this before. I dont know how the process works.
I'd be really grateful if somebody could explain this to me.

Thank you for reading

@Santaisironingwrappingpaper
Highly likely he will do the same.
Hes moving house and has said I will not be informed of the address.
He will be is own undoing presenting himself like this. It's all ridiculous.
He is a grade A arse!

Do not ever, ever, ever let him in your house.

No matter what he says, no matter what he does. If he turns up with a noose round his neck saying he will kill himself, if he turns up crying, if he turns up saying he's made mistakes and wants to put it right. Don't ever, ever let him in.

Move away from The door, barricade yourself in another room and call the police.

You've lots of good advice here and you are doing really well. He sounds dangerous. Don't ever let him in,

@Trumplosttheelection he definitley would never be invited in. Hes unhinged. Hes already done the suicide threats and asking for another chance. All fruitless. I have absolutley no feelings for him. I've no reason to entertain a conversation with him.
I was caught off guard the night of assault. There was a knock on the door. I answered and was greeted with a slap in the face and dragged into the house and pushed and thrown around.
My door goes unanswered to everybody now.

That's good. Yes they have a script I'm afraid.
You're very strong, your dc is lucky to have a mum like you and you can be all they need.

Print off every text and email. Make a folder. Write a timeline. Get organised.. When you see a solicitor your mind will go blank!! Highlight important pointers.
Get a friend to check it over.

Saves time and £££...

@Santaisironingwrappingpaper
I will definitely get started on this. I have the day off tomorrow so I can make a start. There are hundreds of emails.
Had a look at some earlier, one that stood out ; I had bought tea bags for when my mum looks after DC at my house (I've never drank tea so very rarely buy them), emptied them into the tea canister, put the box in the recycling bin outside. Had an email the following night from him asking who I am buying tea bags for
It unnerved me that he was rifling through my bins. I cannot even find the words to describe the whole situation, honestly.

@trumplosttheelection thank you for the kind words. You're correct, he is the script to a tee.

There are lawyers who specialise in holding police forces to account for failing to act appropriately in cases involving DV. Sadly many of the cases they bring are brought on behalf of surviving family members of victims of domestic homicide. I am sure they would rather work with people in advance to prevent those failings. If your local police are failing to offer meaningful protection from this dangerous man then it might be worth speaking to someone about ways to try to force them to deal with this risk properly. This would be in addition to, not instead of, seeking further advice on a non-mol and other family law advice.

Please don’t feel you should accept being treated like a nuisance.