People that are unsympathetic when someone dies😰

[Lardlizard]

A family friend suddenly died, she was only 49 with young kids.
My mum seemed upset n shocked at after a week and a half she started saying her dh should get back to work
😰😰I’ve explained that maybe he’s just not upto it atm and he just can’t do it
And she just replies well everyone of that age has to work 😰😰😰and doenst listen and carried on saying how he should be going back to work
Which is further complicated by the fact he was due to start a new job, so he’s not even returning to his old job as he got made redundant from that before his wife passed away

But seriously a week and a half later to be saying This when there’s young kids involved is upsetting me so much

Sorry if this has upset anyone as I know when someone does it stirs up all the feelings of other bereavements😰😰
Unfortunately
She is in direct contact with him
And yes she will say these types of things to him

My auntie died, we have quite specific funeral rites and I had to do a lot of them as she didn't have a dd, dil didn't want to and granddaughters are only little. We were not especially close but I felt emotionally and physically tired. I took two days off this week and am back to work on Saturday. My time off is unpaid. With my fil I had two days off and had annual leave booked as was supposed to be going to see my family. I then went back to work but my dh had 6 weeks off paid. I got on with it when dad (fil) died because I felt I had to be strong for my babies and dh. I lost it later on when it hit me like a ton of bricks.

Everyone is different, different peoples deaths can hit you harder, sometimes having a routine helps, some people get paid leave others don't etc.

I think in the situation you described your mum is behaving coldly op. The emotional wellbeing of the dad and his kids would take precedent.