My house is an absolute mess anyone else..

[Motherofmonsters]

Want to join my pity party.

Just dropped DS off to preschool walked into my house and it's an absolute mess. I really need to tidy and clean it but hiding under my duvet seems like a much better idea.

DS is a whirlwind and DD is 1 year so it's hard to keep on top of it. DH worked really late last night so where we would work together to get it reasonable he wasn't there so I just did a quick sort last night and I'm regretting it now.

Just make a start with doing something. Maybe set a timer for 15 minutes and see how much you can get done in the worst room or the one you’re going to be spending most time in today. Don’t get bogged down in detail stuff. Big picture- what will make it more liveable today?

Today I am absolutely part of the pity party. I like living in a clean house but I don’t want to clean today 😫

I’m having a cup of tea first. (But then I’ll put some music or a podcast on and get on with it.)

I have a nice advent calendar to open and I’m saving it for when I’m done.

Do not go back under that duvet. I know it’s almost impossible resist but there comes a point when you have to just get the work done.

You’ll feel so much better.

I feel the same house is clean but messy I've 3 DC youngest 7 months myself and partner work full time we do alot of house work but it's just as bad a day later we go round in circles .

Thanks everyone, I've put a load of washing on and sorted the dishwasher. Going to have a coffee and a crumpet and then get productive

It just seems never ending

Oh, gosh, yes! You know what they say "Cleaning when you have kids is like shoveling snow in a blizzard" or something like that.

It's just never-ending laundry, dishes, shopping, cooking, etc.

Yes. Mine is shocking. Worst it's ever been.
I cannot keep on top of it. What with work and never being to eat out the kitchen hasn't been tidy since February.
Whole house is a miserable mess.

My house is clean on Mondays when the cleaner comes. It's a downhill slide from there with Sunday looking very much like a bomb containing lego, cereal, odd socks, glitter, hair ties and other crap has exploded. I spend a good bit of Sunday cleaning for the cleaner and asking "what IS that?" as I pick up unknown substances from under the couch.

I've been trying to organise and tidy for a week while I have some time off, but every time I get a room reasonable the kids come back and it's a mess again. I'm at the point I just can't face it again.

They grow so fast there's tons of clothes that don't fit (dd has gone from age 5-6 to 8-9 clothes in less than a year!). They have so many toys and we have so little storage space!

Sticky hand prints on the windows, smudges on the walls, the Christmas tree and decorations were arranged by the 5yo so is, um, interesting 😬

After a crappy nights sleep following the 1yos jabs yesterday I'm very tempted to just have a bath and do some self care before school pick up (just as soon as I finish my back sandwich).

Im trying to embrace just being present, they're only little for a short time so as long as the house is clean we can live with a little mess. The toys are to be played with, I'll miss the pictures they draw and the sticky hand prints when they're grown and don't want cuddles and stories with me anymore.

It’s fucking constant. Honestly. My DC are older now and I’m still never done cleaning and tidying. Relentless.

Hide under the duvet OP- you and DP can take a power hour and tackle it later.

When my house gets out of hand I have to get a mindset of goals to achieve and this works for me.

Christmas.......

I need to clean the living room so we can put the tree up, so now I have a reason to do it and a timeline. not only do I clean it but I have to rearrange furniture to accomodate the tree.

Done

Next........

A trip to the tip with rubbish to make the garden fit for purpose - putting the light up reindeer outide on the decking means I need to clean the slime off it

Done

Next......

I'm getting there bit by bit.
I get up in the morning and look at my living room which is out of bounds to everyone and I feel better. I feel empowered :) I have now progressed to cleaning the front door and step and have lights on the
trees and a new outside mat.

Next........ you get the idea.

Ah yes - me too. Bin day tomorrow too so I usually have a huge clean today but just fed DS and there’s avocado on the walls, underneath the table, every crevice on the chair and even the dogs ear. For now I’ll have a coffee

I’m in. House a shit tip and I have a 9 week old puppy who is shitting everywhere and biting everything ( and everyone ) in sight.

I also have fibromyalgia and OCD amongst other things. Feel like giving up. Help!!

My house is clean but a mess. It’s so small and there is just stuff... everywhere... I’ve done four laundry bags of stuff to the charity shop but the house doesn’t look any emptier or tidier than before. DH works Saturday mornings and we only have DSD, no other kids so I try and use that time to Get Things Done, with loud music and regular breaks. Once I get started I always finish, it’s just getting started that’s the problem. Like others the living room is next on the hitlist so we can get the tree & decs up.

Once it’s tidy we’ll try and sell it. Hopefully we won’t make the next house full of stuff too...

’I get up in the morning and look at my living room which is out of bounds to everyone and I feel better.‘

^ banning anyone from a room after I’ve cleaned might be the answer. Including myself. In fact the whole house should be a no go zone after a clean - we’ll all live in the garden and just peer in at the tidiness through the windows.

@SockDrawer

’I get up in the morning and look at my living room which is out of bounds to everyone and I feel better.‘

^ banning anyone from a room after I’ve cleaned might be the answer. Including myself. In fact the whole house should be a no go zone after a clean - we’ll all live in the garden and just peer in at the tidiness through the windows.

But make sure you clean the windows for full effect :)

Mine is awful. I desperately need to shampoo the carpet but I can't even hoover properly as my little helpers insist on helping (they have their own toy hoover but nothing beats the real one). By the time everyone is in bed I'm in no fit state to do anything but stare into space.

It's so hard to carve out time to clean with kids, and then when you do it seems to be messy again within 5 minutes.

I'm honestly surprised by how much I can do in 20 minute increments, the house it still a mess but just getting a bit done motivates me to complete it.

Put the timer for 30 mins on your phone now on countdown.

Clear the floor, Hoover then wash up and report back in 30. I'm doing the same right now. See if you can do more than me in 30 minutes!

I get up in the morning and look at my living room which is out of bounds to everyone

This is the answer! Ban the kids from the rooms I want to keep tidy, they can live in their bedrooms and eat in garage 😂

Do you have a favorite podcast to listen to? I can bustle around for an hour that goes by in a flash if I have something interesting on. I also get more motivated if I light a favorite candle or go outside and cut roses from the garden to put in a pretty vase once I finish with a room. It entices me to go on to the next and make it look equally as nice.

When he's at nursery I spend most the day just tidying as DD is happy to play around the front room as I clean and she has a 3hour nap. He literally come through the door and there is stuff everywhere its like his special talent.

By the time I've tidied there's no time to deep clean. I manage to clean the kitchen sides and hoover and mop, anything else is a bonus.

Me.
I have no excuses as I'm on furlough but I just can't get motivated at all.
The tree has been in the corner since Saturday with not a single decoration on as no one can be bothered. The other decorations are up but not properly arranged. The gardens a mess as is the front. I'm number 5 on our villages advent window and have done bugger all for it.
I've washed up and tidied the kitchen so far today. Going for a shower now then must do the garden first and go to asda as it's to snow tomorrow.
Might buy some mince pies at asda and reward myself with one for every job done!

Good point @Anordinarymum they could definitely do with a clean! 😂

I listen to audio books which definitely helps as i want to know what happens next.

My next plan is to find the floor in the conservatory/playroom