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I have a dilemma and would like some opinions please

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theoldtrout01876 · 28/11/2020 23:40

This may be long but I am soooo torn about what to do. The mother in me is fighting with the greedy cow in me.

i have 2 sons, both moved out years ago. They both literally abandoned everything they didnt want and buggered off to their new apartments leaving me to sort the mess. Im talking clothes, books, furniture, electronics etc. They are 26 and 28 now incase its relevant. My oldest boy did ask if I would hold onto his pokemon cards as he had nowhere to store them etc. Its the only thing I was asked to hold on to.As I was clearing the stuff they left, I came across the pokemon cards DS1 asked me to hold on to for him, also a folder that belonged to DS2, also full of pokemon cards. He was never into pokemon like the older one was and I reckon he hadnt even remembered he had it. They have sat in my basement for about 5 years now.
I have literally just discovered that some of the cards in Ds2 folder are worth money, like a lot of money. My Dd2 is looking through them and has only got 1/4 of the way through Ds2 folder and so far we are at $12000 Shock .
My dilemma is, do I tell him? I could do with 12 grand right now, but then so could he. If he knows about this he wouldnt even consider splitting the money, it would be all his. He abandoned them, I saved them, to be honest as I didnt know which book was Ds1 and was ready to throw them out.
The mum in me wants to make his day and tell him, the greedy cow in me says bugger him, they are mine now.
What would you do

These are cards from the early to late 90s btw, neither son is still into pokemon

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16purplecolour16 · 28/11/2020 23:43

Your legacy would be that you defrauded your son. As my grandmother would say, “you’ll have no luck with the money.”

Pipandmum · 28/11/2020 23:47

I might be tempted to sell them and then tell him that you were decluttering, found the cards and this is his share of the money (half).

DM1209 · 28/11/2020 23:47

Don't do this. You will destroy your relationship with your sons when it comes out, and it WILL come out.

I get the practical aspect about the money but that does not make this ok.

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Nackajory · 28/11/2020 23:48

Hmmm, I can see why you're tempted, they sound like ungrateful sods however I think purple is right. The money wouldn't bring you any joy. You sound like you need to find your own fulfilment now that they are grown.

tenlittlecygnets · 29/11/2020 00:01

Of course you tell them! Why steal from your dc??

Hopespring · 29/11/2020 00:08

Don't do it. At some point they will remember about them or realise their worth. You will never be forgiven. What about offering to sell the cards for them and splitting the proceeds?

ClearingSpaceOnTheTrophyShelf · 29/11/2020 00:08

You would even contemplate this for a second?

I REALLY hope you're a troll because I can't imagine an actual parent thinking this way

Quickchangesj · 29/11/2020 00:10

Seriously? I’m 40 and still have stuff at my mums! I remember my mum looking up some old toy i had an feeling me it was worth money if I sold it - I told her to go ahead and we went on holiday with it.

Finfintytint · 29/11/2020 00:11

I doubt they are worth what you think they are. Just sell them and offer your DS the majority of the proceeds.

TimeToCloseTheDoor · 29/11/2020 00:13

Oh, not yours to get valued or sold...

DifficultPifcultLemonDifficult · 29/11/2020 00:13

If that's the price you put on your relationship with your dc, go right ahead.

I can't get my head around any parent wanting to steal from their child though.

StrippedFridge · 29/11/2020 00:14

Ask him if he minds if you try to sell the Pokemon cards. Chances are he will say yes go ahead. If he can't be bothered to think about the potential value then that's his look out.

WitchesBritchesPumpkinPants · 29/11/2020 00:15

You must be on a wind up? I can't imagine any half decent parent even considering this.

YOU should have put your foot down if storing their stuff was annoying you.

Not steal from him.

Jesus

Dutypaid · 29/11/2020 00:16

It's clear that you have put a financial price on your relationship with your children.

Lightsontbut · 29/11/2020 00:16

They're not yours and keeping the money would be theft. I really don't think there's any other way to look at it.

Thehogfatherstolemycurry · 29/11/2020 00:17

My mother sold my stuff she was supposed to be storing for me, it was symptomatic of what a shit parent she was. In the end we were estranged for over 20 years before she died.
Therefore I can't even contemplate the thought of doing something mean or underhand to my kids.

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Smallsteps88 · 29/11/2020 00:19
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Ideasplease322 · 29/11/2020 00:20

Your dilemma is honestly whether it’s okay to steal from your child?

Shocking

Sparklesocks · 29/11/2020 00:28

Oh come on. Really?

Also are they actually worth that much? Just because some chancer on eBay is selling them for a silly amount doesn’t mean they’re actually being bought for that. Sadly I don’t think my beanie babies are the retirement fund I was hoping they’d be...

helloxhristmas · 29/11/2020 00:30

Really? Come on op.

WorraLiberty · 29/11/2020 00:33

🙄🙄🙄

WorraLiberty · 29/11/2020 00:35

Never mind what the mum in you says, listen to the thief in you.

What's she saying?

MalingeringMary · 29/11/2020 00:36

Who paid for them in the first place?