This is a strange one I'll grant you

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This is fully lighthearted! But can any parents with newborns or little ones remind me why I don't want to be broody.

Okay, so here goes, if this is in the wrong spot to post this let me know. Basically I have 2 children, 10 and 5, I have been pregnant 5 times, have had a stillbirth of twins and 2 miscarriages. My partner has had a vasectomy and I have a coil, the problem is my mirena is due to be replaced in early december and I keep thinking, maybe, just maybe, if I dont get it replaced and just get it removed I could fall pregnant, 1million to 1 but a chance lol. Hubby obv wouldnt be happy and nor would i really. I genuinely hate being pregnant -it makes me super anxious, I get hyperemesis everytime too. but I am so damn broody at the moment. I wake up in the morning, baby. I go to bed at night, baby. I'm thinking of babies more than christmas. 2 of my friends are pregnant at the moment as well so I blame them.

Remind me why not to have another child. Make me not broody please

OP, the thing is, we all forget the first few FUCKING AWFUL years of young kids/pregnancy. I think it's nature's way of ensuring we do go on to have other kids.

But kerrrist. It does come back to you in a flood when other people remind you. A personal favourite of mine was when DD had nappy rash. ExP changed her nappy and 'left her to air'. I was on the phone for a big, serious, important work call and she started wailing for me. I waved at Exp to say 'can you deal with her?' He ignored me. I picked her up, jiggling her on my hip, phone in my other hand. And she shat down my leg, across the floor, wriggled a bit to really grind it into my nicely expensive work clothes, and then I skidded on her poo and said 'FUCK!' really loudly down the phone to my bank manager, as I tried to convince him I was totally on top of things as I windmilled across the kitchen floor, covered in yellow poo with a screaming baby in one arm.

I genuinely do look at parents of young kids these days and think 'christ. I don't know how I survived those years.'

Having a baby makes it so much harder to do things with your older children that they enjoy.

Holidays become less relaxed.

You are back to having to keep your eyes glued to your child. For a few years there is no more just enjoying a chat with your friends and family while being able to shoo your child out to play lol

You are back to having to feel worried about your babies safety once they start crawling and your visiting friends houses or your older kids want to play with lego or other small toys.

Hope that helps a little lol.

47 years old, menopausal, mother of 6.

I dream of another baby.

BUT.....thankfully, its not going to happen because the reality of being the mother of a teenager at 60 (after my eldest became ateen when I was 30) is enough to put me off. I suspect DC5 being an utter arsehole 15 yr old at the moment is helping with that POV.

I do think it is ithe ovaries screaming at us shortly before they give it up, the last hormonal hurrah as a PP beautifully put it!

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OP, the thing is, we all forget the first few FUCKING AWFUL years of young kids/pregnancy. I think it's nature's way of ensuring we do go on to have other kids.

But kerrrist. It does come back to you in a flood when other people remind you. A personal favourite of mine was when DD had nappy rash. ExP changed her nappy and 'left her to air'. I was on the phone for a big, serious, important work call and she started wailing for me. I waved at Exp to say 'can you deal with her?' He ignored me. I picked her up, jiggling her on my hip, phone in my other hand. And she shat down my leg, across the floor, wriggled a bit to really grind it into my nicely expensive work clothes, and then I skidded on her poo and said 'FUCK!' really loudly down the phone to my bank manager, as I tried to convince him I was totally on top of things as I windmilled across the kitchen floor, covered in yellow poo with a screaming baby in one arm.

I genuinely do look at parents of young kids these days and think 'christ. I don't know how I survived those years.'

I can see why he is an ex!!

I mean why are you on mirena when your hubby has had the snip? Unnecessary implements and chemicals in the body.

I can't put you off wanting another one, I loved newborn phase. Saying that's only have one and she's only ten months.

Sorry about your mum being poorly

I have a baby and toddler. Right now it's back to back colds, bugs, random rashes, more colds, vomiting, sickness.....there's a lot of snot, spit, poo and vom going on. Also not much sleep. And in the current pandemic, we need to keep isolating / testing every time one of them gets a cough or temp which is a royal pain in the arse with work (I mean, hopefully this won't go on forever but it's a pain right now!). Oh, also a huge separation anxiety phase going on for the baby so I can't put him down for 2 seconds without full on screaming/crying. And the toddler responds to everything with "No. Why?" So I basically say the same thing on the repeat from dawn til dusk!

Get a dog?

My brother wont ever have any children so it looks like shes only ever going to have 2, which makes me sad for her. I am awfully awfully broody though too.

I have two grandchildren and won’t have more. I adore them so much I don’t feel I need any more in order to be happy. Spending time with them is when I truly feel life is good. Maybe your mum is happy with her wonderful 2 also? Having babies to make someone else happy is not a good reason to have them.

They only stay babies for such a short time then you have a lifetime of worry ahead - the fretting about their health, happiness, schooling, relationships etc never ends. The teenage years can be wild and woolly. Like having a toddler but one that tells you you can’t ground them because their over 16 and adults.

I still worry if DD is really happy, ok, coping with work/life Balance, coping with her medical conditions etc.

You will have all the dreadful nights, the screaming ad-dabs of the terrible twos, the picking the best nursery/school issues, the relentless school runs, the juggling of finding appropriate things 3 kids of different ages can do together happily. You will have to work your way through another dire reading scheme - it will likely be the same dire one you’ve yawned through twice already. Can you really face Biff, Chip and sodding Kipper for a third time without cracking up completely?

10 and 5 year old here
I am so, so glad we can have a full night's sleep again, switch to Ninjago instead of sodding Paw Patrol and the kids will put plates in the dishwasher instead of on the floor.