I've been mistaken for a man at work

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Emailed an external 3rd party to ask for something for a project, i have spoken to him over the phone weeks prior, i sound like a woman (because i am!)

fast forward to yesterday i emailed asking for said thing, he replied and copied in some more people as they had the info and in the email referred to me as 'he' and 'his'. i have a female name but it is sometimes mispronounced as a males name, think Louise and then being called Louis. The subject matter was engineering related if that matters.

He is in west coast USA so i have woken up to a thread of emails where they all think i am a man!!! is it to late now to email them back saying "btw i am a she" when i need to set up a group call and they see i am in fact a woman, would it be awkward for them?

I would. I’d drop it in at the bottom, as in ps I’m female!

No, it's his issue to feel awkward over!

Oh dear

It could be that in the USA your name is only used for men, hence the confusion.

I think this is great. Ask your boss for your associated pay rise then spend the next week explaining really basic terms in a patronising fashion to women and saying things like “cheer up, it might never happen” and “give us a smile love”

Sue...misgendering is a hate crime...

Or just enjoy being spoken to like you know what you are doing for a bit and the free time it gives you not having to repeat yourself

I’d be tempted to ignore it to make my life easier

This has happened to me, in the finance world, and I have a very female name with no obvious male counterpart.

I dropped it in a PS at the end of an email, we had a bit of a laugh about it and everyone moved on, so it can probably be easily fixed with no awkwardness if you want it to be

@Whatwouldscullydo

Sue...misgendering is a hate crime...

Or just enjoy being spoken to like you know what you are doing for a bit and the free time it gives you not having to repeat yourself

I don’t think her name is Sue....?

Definitely have a laugh about it. Honestly! It could be a great ice breaker and gently tells the American bloke that names can be applied to both genders. Robin/ Robyn etc etc

I get it all the time I have a neutral name,..

Its hilarious when the penny drops...

She could well be ...

Ask your boss for your associated pay rise then spend the next week explaining really basic terms in a patronising fashion to women and saying things like “cheer up, it might never happen” and “give us a smile love”

I've seen similar happen to a colleague. The other person kept doing it even after repeated phone calls (and she definitely sounds female) so I don't know if they just weren't engaging brain when writing!

I'd leave them to feel awkward. Although I suppose if you joined the planned call and they think you're some random replacement instead of realising the man they thought they were talking about is a woman that would be awkward for you too.

@Whatwouldscullydo at the misgendering point, it was likely an honest mistake so no need to get your knickers in a twist! I'm already spoken to like i know what i'm doing because i do!

@haircutsRus there are a few american characters called my name so no chance!

Can you draw a beard on your face with Sharpie for the group call?

@satnighttakeaway

@Sparklfairy thinking about putting my dp in front of the camera and me speaking from behind it while he mimics!

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Used to happen to me all the time (doesn’t now as I’ve retired). I have a name that is female in the UK and male in the US.

I just ignored the pronouns, it didn’t bother me. I did have to carefully introduce myself on calls so everyone knew that I was me in case they were expecting a man. After a call most would use ‘she’ but some still stuck to ‘he’.

I worked internationally and not knowing someone’s sex based on their name in an email was really common. Some of us would use a neutral pronoun if we weren’t sure but it never seemed a big deal if someone used the wrong pronoun - it was either laughed off or not mentioned and moved on from

I would face it straight on and just say in your response, I see there had been some misunderstanding and you are under the impression I am male, when I am infact female.
And then just move on.
Its more embarrassing for them i reckon!

I have a name lots of people never heard before unless you are French and had this problem most of my life. I had to return a passport as they managed to get the wrong sex on it. I blame my mum for trying to be creative.

I just shrug it off especially if it comes from someone I may never talk/email to again.

In some cases, especially with colleagues in other locations, the "wrong-doer" gets a hint from someone else and then profoundly apolgieses. I just move along after we all had a laugh about it.

Hence my DD having a name where there is absolutely no doubt that she is a girl.

I would definitely just add a PS into the email chain to say you're a woman!

There isn't even any embarrassment really, it's not like he's actually seen you and mistaken you for a man, although a bit weird that you've spoken on the phone obviously. He probably just thinks you have a really feminine voice for a man lol.

I had a strange one, the persons name was ‘Freddie’ so I assumed make until I calked and very posh lady answered and confirmed she was ‘Freddie’ I am so glad I had the call before referring to them in the 3rd person.

I was once emailing a company about training for one of my colleagues. The name is a slightly uncommon man's name but it sounds female. The training provider sent me joining instructions to pass on and said "Remember to tell colleague to bring her bathing costume as some of the training will be conducted in the swimming pool". I had to point out that my colleague was, in fact, a man! I think the guy was a bit embarrassed but better me telling him then than him getting a shock when my bearded colleague arrived for the training

Neptuneia

Sacha?

Nope.

God, I just caught a glimpse of what it might be like to be treated as a man at work. In your position I wouldn't bother correcting him!