My dad has come home to die.

[LastRoloIsMine]

Its a strange feeling. I am pleased that after 3 weeks in hospital with no visitors he is now home surrounded by his family and can die how he chooses but at the same time I have to accept he is home to die.

We will be having Christmas this week and he will spend the time enjoying his children and grandchild.

I am happy and sad.

@LastRoloIsMine your dad sounds like he has a wonderful sense of humour and how to put others at ease in awkward situations. I feel for you and the family dealing with this at this time having lost my dad at home almost 6 years ago in sudden and untimely circumstances I’ve taken solace in the fact he left us on his terms, in his home and to his timings. You are doing the most precious thing for your dad - you’re respecting his wishes and making them come true at the same time xx

@lastrolo your dad sounds like a lovely man. We managed to get my dad home from a truly horrid experience in hospital this July where he felt completely abandoned, and although we didn't realise it straight away, he came home to die. And although it was heartbreaking ( I was sitting with him when he passed and had to wake my mum to tell her), being surrounded by familiarity and having his family all there for him was as good as it could get.
Embrace every minute that you have left with your lovely dad, and treasure those times xx

I'm so sorry to read this, I can tell your Dad must be a lovely man through your posts about him. Sending you lots of strength, and I really hope you all enjoy your Christmas celebrations together.

I hope your night has gone well op. Thinking of you and your dad. He sounds fab!
Happy Christmas

Dad said he can lay on his side to make room for the sausage rolls

He sounds amazing op. And for you and your family. I was only able to see my Dad twice since March before he passed away in a care home. The last time I saw him was outside, at least 2m away on the other side of a fence. It was heart breaking.
I know it doesn't feel like it now but you are so lucky to have this precious time together.

I know from experience your mixed feelings. It must be so difficult. I know your Dad will really appreciate everything you do. I wish you and family the best at this so difficult time.

I'm so sorry OP. I've also been in your situation. Your dad sounds amazing and it will hopefully be a comfort further down the line that he was able to be at home.

It's not going to be easy so please take care of yourself.

Lastrolo I'm glad he approved. Bless him, he sounds like he has a great sense of humour. And bless you. He's getting all the love and care that he needs, love and lots of it at this time will help. Laughter too, although it's hard.

I'm so glad that you've managed to get him home where he can die on his own terms. I work for a hospice and we put a massive emphasis on honouring a person's preferred place of death - it's so important for the patient, and their loved ones.

I'm sure you're getting lots of support from the district nurses and others - but, if you're not already engaged with them, your local hospice may be able to provide further support, not just from a clinical/medical/domiciliary care perspective, but also with spiritual/family support and, when the time comes, bereavement support as well.

Wishing you, your dad and family lots of peace, love and precious moments over the time to come.