How much time completely alone at home do you have?

[ExpectTheWorst]

Is it enough / too much / just right? And do you think it's important?

I noticed last lockdown (we are not in UK btw) that with the children home all the time I never had a minute where I was alone in the house any more. I usually have every morning (kids in nursery/school, husband at work), and I missed it so much. I hadn't realised it was so important to me to have this quiet time.

Almost none any more.

1. I really need time alone. Lock down was too much, I was really stressed being with someone all the time.

I try to avoid it tbh, I get depressed quite quickly if I’m home alone.

At the minute, none. DH is shielding and we have 2 young DC.

Usually I sometimes have an afternoon here and there at the weekend. But not since well before lockdown.

I leave early on a morning and get home after 5.30pm. Once the kids activities start back up I might get an hour or so in the evening if DH can take them.

It's hard, I feel like there is constant noise/questions when I just want to be silent for a while. I don't underestimate how lucky I am though, I know I'd hate to be totally alone so I'll take this situation.

None. I would like just a few hours a week.

I've had a 2 or 3 weeks over the last few months where DP has worked at the office (they rotate because someone has to be there) so I had that time but I was looking for a new job after being made redundant which sucked and then have a new job which is stressful atm. I took one day off job hunting for my birthday that coincided with DP working in the office and I was still talking to recruiters and waiting for calls

Really struggling with only being mum to a toddler or working, I was furloughed from March to October and it was a lot easier to deal with 3 of us in a 3 room flat (not including bathrooms) when weather was good and I didn't have the stress of work. DP hasn't really just taken DD out in a while, he'll even before covid I'd take her out for the day on my own which is better than staying home but he didn't really do that because we must all go out together. I just want to quietly potter.

Now instead of trying to chill while DP works in the corner I need to catch up on work I couldn't during my "working hours"

None -
DD studies full time online.
DH has always worked from home.
DS is home from school, when I am back from work.
All three have a room with a door they can close behind themselves.
I've got a work desk (when WFH) in the living / dining space - no door.

Zero complete time alone in the house, but every other night from 7.30 ish downstairs (with the dog) when dp does bedtime with Dd (2,4 years) and falls asleep up there. I end up staying up far too late and being exhausted in the morning (all day with Dd) just to get some time alone.

Zilch for me and I hate it! Just be nice to sit down for 5 mins without someone wanting something or making mess when I've just tidied 😢

Another one asking dh when his office will be reopening!

Pre Covid, I was wfh and dh office based, kids in school so I have most days 9-3 working but alone...I could eat lunch when I wanted, choose the room to work in that day, eat chocolate if I wanted, watch neighbours at lunch time...

Kids are back at school bar the odd day off. Dh is home wfh all the time and its basically meant an entire shift in my working pattern to accommodate his so I get no alone time whatsoever now. I'm looking at returning to my office aspect of the job a few days a week so I can go into the office (which will be empty!)

Too much. Dd boards at school and I miss her.

I had a full 24 hours to myself one weekend in August. It was lovely. DD was with GP's and DH was on a longer than normal night shift.

I did bugger all except drink tea, and lounge about watching rubbish on the TV. I remember getting into bed and thinking that I couldn't remember the last time I'd spent a night alone in my own home.

I felt like I'd had a weeks holiday the next day.

One full day a week, i work 4 10 hr days with a day off in the week. There was talk of changing to 5 shorterdays and we were like no way jose thats our sanity break

Not enough. One child home schooling, wfh. I need some head space.

I’ve done the waking at 5 for a calm hour before but now I’m just exhausted.

Maybe 30 mins each morning. DH does school drop off.

It doesn't feel like enough but after lockdown part one - I'll take what I can get!

Not enough. Only when DH goes out on site which has just started happening one every week or two for variable amounts of time.

Children taught me how much I need on my own because I naturally used to get enough.

DH is using a bedroom as an office, and is mostly out of the way, but he's still there, especially as he spends large chunks of the day on speaker phone or conference call and I can hear him and have to be careful about things like radio, vacuuming and singing. Especially singing.

And with less activities (and none at the moment) there's just so much more of us all flopping around the house.

None for the last two years.

Daily 15 min tea break during ds' nap time.
An hour or so in the evenings if my fiancé is at work. Tv or book with peppermint tea.
Twice a week I go running for half an hour.

This is enough for me.

The very occasional half hour when dh drives our son to work.
(Should add that dh, who is mildly vulnerable, does this to protect himself against ds' exposure to infection on public transport, not that son is helpless).

Not enough by any stretch. But it is what it is.

all of it.

disabled, shielding, massively depressed and struggling. it’s only the cat that’s keeping me going.

Between March and October, none and I went mad! It was too much. The last month has been better and I get 6 hours two days a week. It's essential for my mental health.

i’m literally invisible. i keep telling people i’m struggling, nobody cares.

None. Would kill for some

Now, lots as wfh on my own whilst they’re in work/school/nursery but ordinarily none as a regular part of my day. I do drop off so start late, Dh does pick up and they’re all home before i finish.

Me time is my commute