Wwyd in this situation?

[justleavemebe]

Cleaning my DD's bedroom today and in her toybox I find that she's not only found one of her Xmas presents, but she's opened it got the dolls out and painted the whole front of them in black nail varnish! Dolls were shoved under the toy box.
That's £50 down the drain.
I've told her off and sent her to her room, she hasn't even apologised she just cried when I confronted her about it and couldn't give me an answer to why she would do that.
Her sister thinks I'm being soft and that isn't a good enough punishment.
I'm so pissed off

[Sleazeyjet]

She’s 6.

My DD cut her own hair up like a monk age 6. She still doesn’t know why she did it.

My DS coloured himself in with indelible marker he looked like a yellow and blue smurf. Willy and all. He was 5.

Find a better hiding place for presents and get your older dd a lock for her door. And buy her some nail polish for Christmas.

[MustardMitt]

Get a bolt for outside the bedroom door. We had to do this when my twins were little, they couldn’t be left to their own devices without havoc ensuing! A bolt means no key to lose and no risk of anyone getting trapped.

[gettingfedupagain]

The punishment is that she has ruined dolls and she gets less to open on Christmas Day, it's the natural consequence

[Bufferingkisses]

She's 6, she lacks impulse control - like most 6yos.

Get a bolt or hook and eye for the rooms she can't go in and let your older dds learn there are consequences if they don't shut their own bedroom doors.

Your older dds will not remember what it is like to be 6 so use your parental judgement around behaviour and punishment, don't enter into "you're being soft" conversations with them.

[mam0918]

Honestly not trying to be a bitch (kids do occasionally get into things, no parent is perfect) but the fact that you say that this is recurrent and the act itself shows me shes crying out for attention which she blatently isnt getting.

Obviously no one is watching her because these acts are not quick little things (like a toddler tipping out a cup) they took a fair bit of time to break into the room, find the hidden item, steal them, paint them, allow them to dry and then hide the dolls and NO ONE noticed.

The fact that her bias and angry older sister is also having a say in punishments also backs up the lack of secure parenting.

[RosieLemonade]

I think the fact she hid it showed that she is remorseful and maybe a bit worried about what happens next.