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Would you attend a peaceful protest if a convicted paedophile moved into your street?

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thefourgp · 11/11/2020 21:04

I’ve never attended anything similar before and I’m in two minds about going. He was convicted (I’ve read the newspaper articles which show his photo) and has been released after serving half his sentence. I don’t know if he owns the property but he’s moved in with his wife who stood by him. There’s a peaceful protest being arranged. Would you go?

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supportivemyarse · 12/11/2020 18:54

Going on a protest can seriously affect your house price WTF. don't risk doing anything because of a bit of money?

I'd think having a convicted child rapist living across the street will devalue a house and ability to sell much more than standing outside waving a banner for a few hours.

knittingaddict · 12/11/2020 19:01

Sorry I haven't read the whole thread, but this sort of thing always amazes me. I'm sure others have already said that it's the ones you don't know about that should worry you.

I think the same about the checks they do for certain jobs. Obviously the checks are needed ,but they aren't a catch all. People still need to be aware of the possibility of child abusers being amongst us. Not in a paranoid way though.

Puzzledandpissedoff · 12/11/2020 19:28

Going on a protest can seriously affect your house price

Considering the type of behaviour some of them descend into I wouldn't be surprised

As said, I'm sure they're a lot of fun for those who like to "be seen doing something" rather than actually doing it, but I honestly believe there are better ways ... or maybe I've attended too many meetings infested with shouters, who are nowhere to be seen when something less exciting is needed

mbosnz · 12/11/2020 19:41

No. They have to live somewhere, and recidivism risks are a lot lower if they are not isolated and less able to access effective treatment and supervision and support.

Also, you know that they are a convicted paedophile. They're the easy ones to protect your children from, ensure appropriate supervision, keep an inconspicuous eye on. The ones you've really got to worry about are the unconvicted ones in your street, your friendship cirles, and your family.

thebiggestmoose · 12/11/2020 19:42

@Puzzledandpissedoff

Going on a protest can seriously affect your house price

Considering the type of behaviour some of them descend into I wouldn't be surprised

As said, I'm sure they're a lot of fun for those who like to "be seen doing something" rather than actually doing it, but I honestly believe there are better ways ... or maybe I've attended too many meetings infested with shouters, who are nowhere to be seen when something less exciting is needed

Could you expand on what those better ways are?

Sorry if you have already described them, I read the first part of this thread and had to go to work

This morning a lot of posters were of the opinion that he had "served his time" and deserved to live in peace, which I very strongly disagree with. A man who has raped a five year will never serve enough time in prison to pay for his crime, it's not possible

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mbosnz · 12/11/2020 19:47

And actually from the perspective of the victim, someone who's been sexually assaulted isn't necessarily more traumatised than someone who's been burgled.

I've been burgled and I was also sexually abused by a paedophile. I realise that it's hugely individual, but for myself, I found the latter a hell of a lot more traumatic and life altering (for the worse) than the former.

LilacPebbles · 12/11/2020 19:53

This morning a lot of posters were of the opinion that he had 'served his time' and deserved to live in peace.

Really?

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mbosnz · 12/11/2020 19:57

Part of his sentence is being known as a convicted paedophile. This kind of community disgust and resentment at his presence are a fairly logical consequence of his actions.

However, pragmatically, I prioritise most of all, the minimising of the chances of recidivism, rather than enjoying a nice rousing round of community outrage, burning brands and pitchforks.

Puzzledandpissedoff · 12/11/2020 19:57

thebiggestmoose the obvious "ways" are to approach those responsible for making the decisions. A street protest might be a quickly forgotten irritation, but becoming a thorn in the side of those with the power can frequently be more effective in the end

Or so I've often found ...

thebiggestmoose · 12/11/2020 19:59

@LilacPebbles

This morning a lot of posters were of the opinion that he had 'served his time' and deserved to live in peace.

Really?

I think so yes, although I was busy and not reading that carefully but I remember being extremely surprised at how some posters were so concerned about his human rights while being not so concerned about the human rights of the community he was being released to live in
DifficultPifcultLemonDifficult · 12/11/2020 20:21

I think so yes, although I was busy and not reading that carefully but I remember being extremely surprised at how some posters were so concerned about his human rights while being not so concerned about the human rights of the community he was being released to live in

I think you had better read the thread again.

canigooutyet · 12/11/2020 20:37

Why do they have to be housed in prisons?

We are led to believe it’s a mental illness ergo rehabilitation is a possibility. Then surely they should be locked up in secure mh facilities?

For other inmates their rehabilitation can start in prison and often does. Why should paedophiles have the luxury of this in society? Why are they released when clearly they don’t get it that they’ve done wrong?

JonasKahnwald · 12/11/2020 20:49

There's a website where you can check convicted paedophiles in your area

@HotPenguin which website is this please?

FamilyOfAliens · 12/11/2020 20:51

@LilacPebbles

This morning a lot of posters were of the opinion that he had 'served his time' and deserved to live in peace.

Really?

No, that’s not the case.

Read the earlier posts yourself if you want to know how the conversation went.

MrsJunglelow · 12/11/2020 20:51

I would also like to know this!
Because I’ve googled and googled and can’t find no way whatsoever of finding out how many are in your area

canigooutyet · 12/11/2020 20:53

Jonas - I don’t know a specific website. However if you search your area figures are listed.
Many local newspapers do yearly freedom of info request and print it.

canigooutyet · 12/11/2020 20:56

If we are allowed I’m bored and don’t mind searching specific areas.
I mentioned the figures for Leeds this morning - here is the source
www.google.co.uk/amp/s/www.leeds-live.co.uk/news/leeds-news/almost-1000-sex-offenders-live-18957554.amp

LilacPebbles · 12/11/2020 21:01

FamilyofAliens

I know. I've been on the thread since the beginning. I was showing surprise at PP

FamilyOfAliens · 12/11/2020 21:09

@LilacPebbles

FamilyofAliens

I know. I've been on the thread since the beginning. I was showing surprise at PP

Sorry, I thought you were implying you believed this to be the case.
mathanxiety · 12/11/2020 21:28

@PutBabyInTheCorner I agree with every word you posted.

The poster who mentioned that her 7 yo son doesn't go anywhere alone apparently doesn't see the irony of a child's freedom being so curtailed while rapists are released after serving half of their pitifully short sentences.

They have to live somewhere. I'd just avoid him. My 7 year old doesn't go anywhere alone anyway.
What's wrong with this picture?

howaboutholly · 12/11/2020 21:37

The problem is math that in order for someone to be sentenced, they have to have harmed a child. It isn’t that we have it the wrong way around, it’s simply that children are vulnerable.

BenoneBeauty · 12/11/2020 22:07

@mathanxiety is totally right though @howaboutholly - society is totally fucked up that innocent children have their freedom curtailed whilst child rapists walk around wherever they like.

Tararararara · 12/11/2020 22:17

BenoneBeauty what's the alternative? thought police?

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