So you know how good your spouse is at their job?

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A bit dark but I was reading about the Air France Flight 447 Disaster. The Co-pilot who was at the controls had his wife on board. She was a teacher so probably didn’t know much about aviation but it suddenly dawned on me that she probably felt extra safe with her DH flying. Like you do.

How accurately can you judge how good your OH is at their job?

DH does a completely different job role to me, albeit in the same industry. I don’t understand how his job is done. I couldn’t do it in a million years. It’s creative & technical. People say he is good at it so I assume they’re right but I don’t actually know that myself.

How about you?

I always wondered if he was good at his job or not. He’s worked for a huge company for a long time but he’s exceptionally quiet and shy and didn’t really fit the mould for the industry and I often wondered if he was just floating along. He’d been promoted and did very well in performance reviews and got bonuses , but generally didn’t ever give me the idea that he was particularly shit hot or anything.

I’d met his colleagues (male and female!) including people he managed and they told me he’s lovely to work with/for and the go-to for what he does.

Then a few years ago he had a breakdown. He ended up taking over a year off of work, and was on the verge of packing it all in. He was hospitalised for quite a while. It was very difficult. He loosely job-hunted while he was off as he was convinced he’d be managed out or paid off to go quietly.

Instead, his MD contacted him to say there was a director-level role coming up and they’d wait until he was back and feeling up to it before advertising the role as they really wanted him to apply.

He got it and moved into his new role about three months after returning to work.

So, on that basis, I think he’s good and also well-liked.

DH explained his job to someone in about 5 mins, then got furloughed so that says it all really

Mine is exceptionally good at spending money.

He's spent over $1bn over the last decade.

Somehow he still has a job

I know exactly how good Dh is at his job. He's excellent, beyond superb. We talk about it a lot and the way he deals with things is brilliant.

Plus I've met many of his colleagues over the years and 4 of them have said he was the most amazing manager they've ever met.

He works for a mega bank and his bonus is linked to performance, so...easy enough to tell when bonus season comes up whether he's been knocking it out of the park or not

He's spent over $1bn over the last decade.

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It's Rishi Sunak, isn't it?

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He's spent over $1bn over the last decade.

@HoldMyLobster
It's Rishi Sunak, isn't it?

Close but no

I know DH is excellent at his job because he was appointed a professor at the age of 31. He regularly gets job offers just on the offchance that he might like to leave his current job.

DH knows I'm good at my job because I'm a teacher who lives in catchment and often, when I'm out shopping or for a walk I get parents telling me how much their kid enjoys my lessons.

To be fair, his is very much more impressive 🤣 But I'd be a terrible professor and I think he'd be a fairly awful secondary school teacher, so it's all good.

I’m assuming DH is good as he gets paid a massive amount of money. In reality, I don’t really know much about the details!

Mine tells me he’s great and that most of his colleagues think he’s great .

Because he was in the top position in the UK branch and doubled the turnover during his time there, won several awards and was really passionate about his job.

Dh writes software for transport infrastructure. Some of what he's worked on is everyday stuff you barely notice but I tend to know how well he's doing on his current project by how much he swears, given that he's wfh indefinitely.

My DH is so good at his job he has had a building named in his honour and a medal from the Queen.

(He’s also the best human being thats ever walked on this earth but I will concede that is my slightly biased opinion)

Because he always gets great feedback. He has a huge expanding customer base.
He's always in demand.

I used to be DH's boss, that was 20 years ago. When the pictured him at work I'd think if the daft young lad I knew then. Since lockdown he's been wfh and I've seen a much different side to him, he's really focussed and talks proper big words (some wanky, some not, lol). I find him all sexy and masterful but he refuses to be distracted, grumpy git!

My husband really is naturally brilliant-very logical,calm and cool a distinct foil to myself!

I think my DH is decent at his job but I wouldn't say he's over achieving in the way that the husbands mentioned in this thread so far are!

He's passionate about the area he works in but I can tell he's not enjoying his current role much due to the pandemic as its slowed down so much and I can see his motivation slipping as time goes on.

I'm immensely proud of him though, he had a weird upbringing and looking back I think his childhood kind of set him up to fail so the fact he's working in a niche field that he worked for years to get into makes my heart swell.

My DP is shit hot, but he’s near retirement and probably could have gone to the next level but didn’t have the confidence to go fir it. He’s a civil engineer and actually has kept his company going in recent times, making millions.

My DH would tell you he's competent at his job & he insists that any pay rises/promotions he gets are just par for the course & nothing to do with his actual ability. However, he's not had to actually look for a job since uni & has been head-hunted several times. The only time he found himself without a job was when lockdown hit his company hard earlier in the year but he had numerous offers right from when redundancies were just rumours.

He'll tell you that people were just being "helpful" by informing him of opportunities... But he had the people in charge of recruitment, who he'd never met, calling/emailing him & pestering him on LinkedIn... He eventually did accept an offer but still won't admit that he's really good at his job despite the fact that his newest boss emailed him when he joined to tell him how thrilled he was to be working with him!

He has been there quite a long time and survived several rounds of redundancies, but never been promoted, so I assume he is competent and dependable but not outstanding.

DH research means he has been on the tv, radio and I have opened national papers and seen him quoted. In his dept at one point he was the most cited academic, not sure if he is now. I know he did some work that has helped potentially save thousands but really millions of lives.

That's lovely @Valkadin. What a brilliant thing to be able to look back on in retirement :)

After a year of turbulence and a serious bully of a manager, I know his new employers, line manager and team think he does a very good job. We've had 2 bonuses, internal "thank you and vouchers" and last week he was told by one his team that he was the best manager he'd ever had there.

DH is regularly headhunted because he is known to be the one of the best in his field. He has even been headhunted throughout the pandemic. When I meet his colleagues they always bang on about how amazing he is at his job. His boss and the CEO clearly love him.

I have also heard him on Zoom calls from his home office as we as both working from home and he sounds so knowledgeable as well as well respected. Makes me feel proud

Mine was asked to act up for 6 months and survived a major restructure, so I'm confident they value him and he is good at what he does. Also since he's been wfh I can sometimes hear him on calls and whatnot and he sounds really on it.