So you know how good your spouse is at their job?

[GroundAlmonds]

A bit dark but I was reading about the Air France Flight 447 Disaster. The Co-pilot who was at the controls had his wife on board. She was a teacher so probably didn’t know much about aviation but it suddenly dawned on me that she probably felt extra safe with her DH flying. Like you do.

How accurately can you judge how good your OH is at their job?

DH does a completely different job role to me, albeit in the same industry. I don’t understand how his job is done. I couldn’t do it in a million years. It’s creative & technical. People say he is good at it so I assume they’re right but I don’t actually know that myself.

How about you?

Plus I knew someone would say lol at you lot. But if you answer the question you do have to back it up with why you think that otherwise it’s just subjective.

Working from home with DH has made me realise he's shit at his job. He's completely disorganised and I constantly overhear conversations where he's getting into trouble for stuff he's not done. It's causing me massive anxiety, cause I realise how close he is to losing his job. It's making me lose respect for him too. ☹️

Well mine is good at his job. I understand it coz I used to work in the same field. His colleagues tell me he is too whenever I see them. However... I think he’s at a lower level than his potential. He has no interest in being promoted further so he’s prob doing a job that’s under his skill level.

To be fair, I did work with him in an office job when we were backpacking. He was very good at that too.

Dh set up his own company three years ago. I don’t understand a word of what he does (a very niche bit of IT) but he has been so successful with it that he plans to retire in a few years, in his early fifties, set up for life.

His employees (male and female) like working for him so much they clubbed together to buy him a really thoughtful gift last year, out of the blue, with a card in which they all wrote about how much they like working for him and thanking him for creating their ‘dream jobs’. He was so surprised and touched by this I saw him well up! 😆 He’s a big softy and it means a huge amount to him to be a good employer.

Well groundalmonds I cannot tell you what his thing is....otherwise you might want him to do his thing 😉😂
The thing, although totally above board and respectable, is very outing. I find the thing very boring, although it did leave me mortgage free at a very early age. Sometimes, he goes places to show people his thing and receives much acclaim, even awards and such. I never go with him. It's all boring.

I've stood in an audience and watch him do his job in front of thousands of people so I know he's good!

I hope that he thinks the same of me, I share the nice things I hear about me with him :)

I've been proofing my husband's cv for applications, and there's apparently true stuff in there about managing billion pound funds.

I just have it down as "accountant". But apparently he's an accountant for lots of money.

(For what it's worth, I out earn him, but in a VERY different field!)

Well, he set up his own business at 21, which is a real success story now, 7 years later, and I now work with him so I have a good overview on it... he’s shit hot at what he does, so talented. He also seems to have no ‘off’ switch (infinitely useful in our line of work) and he is never afraid to take (calculated) risks. I’m ridiculously proud of him.

dh is a health care professional and his work place have a (lighthearted) scale named after him. Its not to do with clinical excellence but to do with how pleasant they are to patients. Think 'The Joe Mendoza Scale'. You can score up to 10. Only DH has a 10. So the thoroughly impatient and arsey practitioners would score one on the scale. Your average generally polite, but sometimes impatient might score 6/7. But DH alone has NEVER become, sarcastic, short tempered or curt with any of the sometimes drunk/drugged/violent/abusive etc clients they deal with. I am very proud of him!

thecatsthecats that's what my husbands CV says, I always thought he didn't have much responsibility then he dropped billions in and I was 😮

DH and I work in very different industries.

He has patents in his name so he can't be that bad at it. He thrives in the design cycle and gets bored during implementation

My role is mostly implementation. He has been listening to me WFH and is amazed by how much I enjoy the part that bores him. He seems to think I'm not bad at it.

A fun side effect of lockdown WFH.

@Chamberlai

Lolling at all the loyal wifies on this thread.

If you really want to know what your husbands are like at work - ask their female colleagues.

I've worked with sooo many over-promoted, over-paid men over the years. Getting bonuses and awards just means they're full of shit, normally.

We work together, I know exactly what he’s like

I feel so sorry for you and your poor outlook on men though; you must have been hurt badly and still be very upset about it to be so bitter about other peoples happiness.

Isn't anybody's husband "just okay"...?

@LionLily

Well groundalmonds I cannot tell you what his thing is....otherwise you might want him to do his thing 😉😂 The thing, although totally above board and respectable, is very outing. I find the thing very boring, although it did leave me mortgage free at a very early age. Sometimes, he goes places to show people his thing and receives much acclaim, even awards and such. I never go with him. It's all boring.

I’m trying not to guess, but I’m guessing.

@WhatSheDoesInTheShadows, how would you feel if your husband saw you struggling, and then posted on the internet that he was "losing respect" for you?

Most people try their best and if they can't cope, they are probably just in the wrong job. Not everyone can be the high flying superstars listed here.

DP never talks about work. I have to prise information out of him and can only assume he is good at what he does as he is now near the top position in his company.

I’m not working at the moment but when I was working creatively I was fucking brilliant at what I did and regularly created work that’s sitting in the houses of very rich people.

livefornaps - it's really not that simple. I have been so supportive *
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how would you feel if your husband saw you struggling, and then posted on the internet that he was "losing respect" for you?

Most people try their best and if they can't cope, they are probably just in the wrong job. Not everyone can be the high flying superstars listed here.

I have no real idea what my DH's job involves (he works in IT, I know nothing about IT). I overhear most of his job though, as he now works from home right next to the kitchen so I can't help but overhear his zoom meetings. He seems to get things done, achieve many projects at once, deal with difficult colleagues. I have no idea how good he is at his job compared to other people doing the same job, but he seems to be doing well as far as I can tell.

Mine works for Pfizer managing pharmaceutical manufacturing. Imagine the conversations in this house this week.😂

Good week for them.

It is. I've asked him lots about his view on the safety of it. He seems convinced and throws the biology at me. (I work in finance). He would be happy for us all to have it. But then he's not always right 😂

I've worked with sooo many over-promoted, over-paid men over the years. Getting bonuses and awards just means they're full of shit, normally

Yes!

He's obviously good enough at his job. He's never been sacked or ever caused bother, and he's had promotions when you'd expect someone who's never had a career change to. I don't think he's an overachiever by any stretch, more like a reliable, experienced, safe pair of hands.

I don't understand my DHs job at all but because he designs things there's an output that I can see and I can see that it's good.

The things he designs are useful and beautiful. He has won some big awards and some of the things he has designed I see in the shops and people's homes all the time.

However he doesn't get paid an awful lot for it and on a business strategy level he sucks.

Amazing designer. Bit of a shit businessman. I'm proud of him and love him anyway.