£10 wedding ring

[MollyJAb]

My husband bough his own wedding ring for £10 (He earns a good salary and spent £4K on my engagement ring).
I'm unhappy with him because I feel as though by spending so little on his ring, he doesn't value the relationship. He says the value of the ring doesn't make a difference it's what the ring signifies that matters.

How would you feel if your husband had done the same?

It wouldn’t bother me in the slightest.

It wouldn't bother me. But I think that things are just things.
Thoughts count more.

Actually, thinking about it DH’s ring was much less than mine. He’s just not that bothered by jewellery and wanted something plain. It was in no way related to how much he valued our relationship.

Maybe we do it differently but in my culture, I would buy a wedding ring for my husband- and it's generally cheaper than an engagement ring anyway

I'd laugh. I really wouldn't care. The marriage is the important part. The ring is a symbol of the marriage and it doesn't matter what it cost. Some people don't even bother with a ring.

Wouldn't bother me. I agree with your husband that it's about what it symbolises.

I think you’ve put this in the wrong section, OP.

Neither DH nor I have wedding rings, and we got married on our lunch break, in street clothes, with two witnesses. It has no bearing on the significance either of us places on our marriage.

I'm sorry, but why do you care?

My wedding ring cost £30 39 years ago. DH had his signet ring altered to fit his ring finger.

My wedding ring cost £11, 34 years ago. We bought it at an antiques fair. My husband's was from a high St. Jeweller's and cost a lot more. Nothing to do with not valuing the relationship. Try to move away from placing monetary value above all else, that's a truly sad way to live.

My husbands ring was more expensive than my wedding ring. But it wouldnt bother me in the slightest if his cost £1. The main thing for me is that he was comfortable with the choice of ring. Something to wonder about... Does your OH work with his hands a lot perhaps he didn't want to spend a lot as he is worried about damaging an expensive ring?

My DH doesn't wear one and I'm ok with that. I wear my grandmother's ring - so it cost my husband nothing and I treasure it because it has sentimental value.

I spent £18 on my wedding dress of Ebay, btw. Money doesn't mean anything.

His ring his choice

I wouldn’t care at all.
My husband’s wedding ring wasn’t that expensive, my engagement ring wasn’t really either (few hundred)
I had to stop wearing it as I turned out to be allergic and replaced it with a very cheap (around £40) ring.
He didn’t care.

I don’t wear my rings at all these days as my fingers are tapered so I’m always stressed they are going to slide off.
DH never takes his off.
I think it’s a bit of non issue personally

It wouldn't bother me at all. I think mine and my husband's rings were about £35/£40 each. They've lasted over twenty years and are no reflection on our life together or how much we love each other.

What's it made from? Are we talking a decent but second hand ring or Claire's Accessories costume jewelry that might not last?

I don't think it matters unless it's something that won't last (plastic!)
If it's silver or something then that's fine! Though I love silver rings and can never find them that cheap - where did he buy it?!

I'd me more embarrassed at spending £4000 on a ring! They're a symbol of your commitment not your bank balance.

My engagement ring was £££ but DH wedding ring cost £40 from Amazon because he wanted something plain that wouldn't stay shiny. I've never really thought about the price difference really.

I would feel the exact opposite. DP can’t wear a ring at work so I suggested that if he wanted to buy one for a tenner he could and we could use any ring budget on buying me a nice wedding band (wouldn’t want an engagement ring). He was super happy with that. Obviously all hypothetical as there’s no marriage on the horizon

My dh's ring cost way less then mine, doesn't bother me in the slightest. He wanted something really hard wearing, so not gold. Thinks its titanium or something, it can't be altered and is solid. Was the right choice for him.

Let it go OP, you sound high maintenance. Who cares how much his ring cost? Are things more important than the sentiment?

My parents have been very happy married for almost 50 years now. To my surprise they have recently stopped wearing their rings regularly - my mum's gets in the way when she paints and my dad just got out if the habit. Neither seems in the slightest bit bothered. I think if the relationship is good then those things matter very little.

He says the value of the ring doesn't make a difference it's what the ring signifies that matters.
He's right. How does a more expensive ring mean he cares more about the marriage? He could be the most devoted husband in the world and not even have a ring.

Lots of people also wear expensive wedding jewellery while having affairs so cost doesn't equal commitment. I'd think less of my partner if they said this to me tbh.

My DH's ring cost £25. We both earn good salaries but he couldn't see the point in spending hundreds on a small piece of platinum. He wears it every day and still looks fine.

You are being utterly ridiculous