£10 wedding ring

[MollyJAb]

My husband bough his own wedding ring for £10 (He earns a good salary and spent £4K on my engagement ring).
I'm unhappy with him because I feel as though by spending so little on his ring, he doesn't value the relationship. He says the value of the ring doesn't make a difference it's what the ring signifies that matters.

How would you feel if your husband had done the same?

It wouldn't bother me in the slightest how much the ring cost, but I'd want it to be made of a durable metal that will last.

Tell us more about the ring - is it silver? Second-hand?

I think you're being a bit dramatic to equate the cost of his ring with how much he values the relationship . . .

My husband's ring cost £7, he wanted it made out of some super strong metal that doesn't scratch. He wears it every day & has it in a couple of different sizes for summer/winter. Mine is platinum but I can't wear it at the moment because I've put on weight. His is in better condition than mine. More expensive doesn't equal better. (Married 5 years, together 18)

If it’s the one he wants then who care if it cost £10 or £1000?

I think mine was 15 quid, several decades ago. I haven't seen it in years.

How would you feel if he didn’t wear one at all ?

My ex husband’s was £20. The cost of his ring wasn’t why we got divorced. Who cares? He chose, he liked it. Why didn’t you pay for it?

I wouldn't even think anything. My DGPs were married until death with very cheap wartime rings. I don't think my DGFs had one but they were both faithful men who adored their wives and family. My DF never had one because of the military but he was faithful and hardworking. It's only a symbol

I wouldn't think anything of it at all.
I don't wear a ring, my dh has never taken his off. It doesn't mean I'm less invested in our marriage.

Ours are 1980s Argos specials, cheap as chips, which reflects our financial position at the time. Mine is a 4mm, his a 6mm.
As far as we may have come in life and as different as our lifestyle may be, the Argos rings are about to enter their fifth decade and as they ain't broke, I see no need to fix 'em.

It wouldn't matter one bit to me if its the ring he wanted.

To be honest I think your dh approach to marriage is right.

It depends, it might mean something it might not.

Xh used his dead grandfather’s ring as a wedding ring. It had nothing to do with me. Now there’s a red flag.

Oh and I bought my own engagement ring! (he did come with me to the shop). I was in such deep denial throughout that relationship.

Anyway. Do you have any doubts about his commitment to you?

Just reread, and due to the situation with your ring I doubt need to worry

I'm unhappy with him because I feel as though by spending so little on his ring, he doesn't value the relationship.

I don't even wear a ring. Been married almost 20 years with several D.C. and have never once not valued my relationship. If you think your OH doesn't value your relationship you are picking that up from somewhere other than choice and cost of a ring.

I wear an £8 ring from a market stall as I like it better than the one we bought for the wedding, in fact I don't actually know where it is. Though I haven't worn a wedding ring, or any jewelry since the beginning of COVID. I doubt I'll put my rings on again.

I don't wear mine either, I don't like wearing jewellery. It doesn't make husband insecure though.

It wouldn't bother me. My (ex)Hs ring was about £50 because he's a builder and knew that in taking it on and off regularly he'd likely loose it, which he did.

(And then after we'd split up I found it and sold it along with mine and my engagement ring)

That'a strange thought - to set a price on a relationship.

It’s not really that though is it, it’s what it might represent (or not, as probably in this case from the info we’ve got)

Though I guess some people are shallow that way, but probably for most it’s about fears over commitment

My husband doesn't even wear one 😳 doesn't affect the legal contract we have 🤷‍♀️

Well we have tattoos because we don't wear ours all the time.

I know they are not everyone's cup of tea.

My rings cost £££££'s snd I'm scared of wearing them. His is silver and was £20. He picked it. I got it engraved as a surprise.

It doesn't matter to me. It's his ring not mine. He's just not arsed about it.

My DH lost his. All we know is it’s probably somewhere in the house. He lost a bit of weight after the wedding and had to take it off for work every day anyway - it was inevitable. We haven’t bothered replacing it, maybe we’ll get round to it one day but neither of us are too bothered. We’re still married!

Wouldn't bother me in the slightest. My wedding ring was not expensive, and neither was DH's. My engagement ring was second hand.
I don't wear either since the start of Covid.

My DH lost his about 2 months after we got married anyway 🤦🤦

My DH lost his in the pool the day after we got married my DSS grassed him
Right up lol

I really loathe this thought that the cost of rings is so important. You can be married for 5 mins and essentially have wasted money spending hundreds or thousands on a ring. The ring is now meaningless. The fact that your DH is talking about what it represents suggests he’s not materialistic and perhaps more bothered about the actual relationship rather than a ring and the cash.