Just found out im pregnant but have puppy on the way!

[Casejenk]

Help! Looking for advice to convince me one way or another. ! I found out I was pregnant today, i have a 4yr old and the puppy on the way - she’s 10.5weeks and due to arrive Thursday!!! 😳 Its a Boston terrier x french bulldog! I dont know what to do! I’ve only paid the deposit so far so dont really care if I lose the money but now im frightened about taking on a puppy whilst pregnant but worry if she wont be able to find a new home if I cancel.
Im assuming a newborn, a 8month old pup and a 5yr old is a bad idea? So confused. I was not expecting to be pregnant.

You have plenty of time to train your puppy before baby gets here - I think you'll be fine.

Puppies are in serious demand at the moment. Think about whether or not you will be able to handle one and if not I’m sure they will find another buyer

When ds was born premature I had a 6yo and an adult ddog and 2x year old ddogs!!
Invest in a decent sling or off road buggy for ddog walks.

It'll be fine. The worst of the puppy stage will be out of the way and you'll have plenty of time to train before baby arrives.

I was ten weeks pregnant with DTs when we got DDog. I knew if we didn't do it then we wouldn't have done for a long time, it was easier to get the dog first.

Oh and congratulations!

Congratulations!
Just make sure you properly train the pup (every day between now and then) and you'll be fine.
On the other hand, don't feel guilty if you don't want to take it on. Puppies are snapped up.

I think I’d focus on my child and my pregnancy, not on a puppy.

I found out I was pregnant the week at after we got our dog. Personally I found dealing with toilet training a puppy very difficult while I was pregnant, I was literally vomitting while cleaning up wee (sorry, tmi). I also found it hard going walking her while recovering from emcs. Worked out well in the end, she is very much part of the family but it was tough at the start so go in with your eyes open!

Think carefully! They will find another home for it. You've chosen quite a challenging breed/cross there, are you experienced?
They can be stubborn, high energy, and slow to house train. My Frenchie cross was still having accidents at 9 months, though he's totally reliable now.

How’d you go once your babe arrived? Did you find it easy enough to juggle? I think id be able to handle it whilst pregnant...its more after they’re here that I worry... Its been a long time since ive had a pup too so can only anticipate what to expect. This is shitty decision to make! 😏

puppies are a full time job for the first 12-24, months, I wouldn't do it if I was in your position.

Nope! Not experienced at all! Was willing to invest what was needed and had researched the breed/s and not having personal experience with either, it seemed a good fit. I was always conscious that I was in for some hard work... but this might be setting us all up for failure! A little too hard, you think? 🙆‍♀️

Just found out im pregnant but have puppy on the way

Have you spoken to Guinness? Suspect that might be a first 😂

I feel so bad! For the puppy, the breeders, my 4 yr old who is that excited. I also think I know the right thing to do... thanks for input!

Cancel

I was lucky that the dog was not overly interested in the baby and did not get jealous. I did find I was pulled a bit thin, she still had loads of energy and I just didn't have the energy to bring her to the woods for a long walk like before, she had to do with a 15/20 mins up and down the road. And she's not a large dog at all, she still wanted lots of interaction. It was hard, not going to lie. Also found it added to my cleaning, had to hoover constantly so the baby didn't get covered in hair once she started crawling. And you have to supervise them constantly, can't leave them alone together for a min.

I have lots of kids and dogs and we got dog 3 when I was pregnant with dc4 and whilst tiring it was ok. Dog arrived May and baby August.

But we have had dogs for 14years, had 2 already and experience of the breed, my 3 older children were 8+. It also depends how much help you'll get with walking, night wees etc.

If it's your first puppy, I think i would seriously think about cancelling and getting at another time. I love out dogs, most of the care falls to me but when they bark just as I've got DS for a nap 😭😭

I hate to say it but I would cancel if I were in your position. Mostly because we (me and my husband - both 31, no children) adopted a puppy in June and it's been very hard work. I also don't work, so I'm saying this even though I had all my time to commit.

My biggest considerations would be:

• a majority of puppies can't be left alone until they are 9 months +. Lots of people will say that you can just leave them an let them bark it out, which is true, but is also a perfect way to set dogs up for separation issues later on. Do you work? If you do can you afford to send you pup to doggy day-care on the days you do work?
• Do you have the space and ability to separate your puppy and your current child and future baby? I've never had a baby before but I hear they are hard work - you'll need to be able to completely separate your puppy and child when you aren't able to fully supervise.
• Do you want to put yourself through the stress of training a puppy while pregnant? When we first got our puppy there were times where I literally just sat on the floor and cried because she was so exhausting. When she was awake I had to watch her all the time to make sure she wasn't chewing/peeing/etc where she shouldn't. Were were also up about 3 times a night for bathroom breaks, decreasing to once a night over about 6 weeks, now we just wake up at 6am with her.

An option for you would maybe be adopting an older dog? Maybe 7 years old +? I know I sound very negative, but a puppy is such hard work but the difficult bits are always the points that need to be considered the most carefully (which it sounds like you're doing tbf!). I feel like I need to say that we now have a really lovely 7 month old puppy - even if we still can't leave her alone .

Our puppy is 10 now, sad to say she’s been neglected since our little ones came along. She doesn’t get walked as often as she used to, had the run of the house with her own room - now been demoted to the kitchen. I get upset about dog mess in the garden as even after it’s been picked up, don’t feel like the children can play on the grass without play mats down. The hygiene stresses me out, our dog is brilliant with the children and very clean but it’s still a stress, also having to know where the children and the dog are at all time’s is draining (would never leave them unattended). On the plus side, if you’re willing to put the work into dog ownership Frenchies and Boston’s are known for having an excellent temperament around children.

My french bulldog is 9 months and she’s such a lovely dog and very easy to take care of. I think you’ll be fine. Congratulations!

You'll be fine! I had a puppy and a newborn at the same time. I never once wished that it had been different.

Puppies are in high demand at the moment. If you decide to cancel the breeder will find another buyer, no problem.

Congratulations! But I'm afraid the right thing to do is to send the puppy back. You have no idea how easy the baby or the puppy will be. The puppy will be hitting its most challenging phase just as the baby is born. You'll have all the time in the world to get a puppy, when the time is right for all of you.

You had me at french bulldog. I’d have to put the baby up for adoption I’m afraid.

I've had my puppy for 3 weeks now and all I can say is I'm glad we waited until the kids were a bit older before getting her. They are 7 and 9 and are at the age where they can help out a bit, but it's still really difficult as puppy is very nippy (teething) and I often have to save them from her. We have to set alarms for toilet breaks in the middle of the night and during the day I am in and out every 30 mins for her to go toilet. You can't leave anything around or it will get turned into a chew toy. I absolutely love her to bits but I couldn't cope if any of my kids were under 6 or if I was pregnant, it's would be too much work!

Also not to forget that puppies go through a phase around 11 months old where they seem to forget everything they've ever learnt and are a complete nightmare again!