Would you break the rules of 6' for one last Christmas with dying relative?

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Before anyone jumps on me, we have followed all the rules to the letter all the way through Covid. Without question.

We've already planned to have Christmas at home, just us 4 (DH, me and 2 dd's).

Mum and dad, Nan and Auntie will be at Mums. We were going to see them separately over Christmas at some point.

My Nan has been told today she has bowel cancer and a scan has shown it has spread to her bones. The dr wouldn't give her a time frame exactly, but realistically this will probably be her last Christmas.

Would you break the rules and have Christmas all together? We would be together for around 4 hours in total. And there will be 8 of us during that 4 hour period.

This is also assuming she is well enough to participate, it may be that she doesn't want to go anywhere or do anything.

Without hesitation, I’d probably self isolate for a fortnight before seeing her though.

Yes, I would. Take other precautions though, isolating beforehand etc.

Wouldn’t think twice about it. Do it.

No question about it but definitely would self isolate beforehand to protect her

Totally. Absolutely. 100%.

Absolutely, but like others, I'd self isolate as much as possible beforehand (I wouldn't take DC out of school but would not have any social contact with any other household).

Yes.

Yes, absolutely.

I definitely would.

Yes, 100% definitely.

We're in a similar situation with FIL and yes we would, although he possibly wouldn't.

Absolutely. I'd maybe even bring Christmas forward too. I'm so sorry for your news

Yes undoubtably. When my family member was dying, we went on a last family holiday together. Work tried to change their mind about the time off I had booked and said I couldn’t take it anymore. I told them I was going regardless, whether I had a job to come back to or not! (They didn’t fire me.)

Yes but isolating first to avoid potentially infecting her

Absolutely, no doubt at all. So sorry you’ve had this sad news

Absolutely, as pp isolate as much as possible in the days before hand to protect her.

Yes,

Only if you can quarantine effectively before meeting her. She may only have months left, but she is now extremely vulnerable to covid and deserves protection

Of course.

Yes, without hesitation (provided I isolated first etc)

Yes I would and I’m a rule follower. I’d also isolate beforehand and encourage everyone else to do the same

Absolutely.

And I'm a stickler for the rules. This is different.

M god, yes.

Yep it would be cruel to deprive her on the basis of some nonsense rules. Can you see her before then just in case?

Yes, absolutely .