Would you break the rules of 6' for one last Christmas with dying relative?

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Before anyone jumps on me, we have followed all the rules to the letter all the way through Covid. Without question.

We've already planned to have Christmas at home, just us 4 (DH, me and 2 dd's).

Mum and dad, Nan and Auntie will be at Mums. We were going to see them separately over Christmas at some point.

My Nan has been told today she has bowel cancer and a scan has shown it has spread to her bones. The dr wouldn't give her a time frame exactly, but realistically this will probably be her last Christmas.

Would you break the rules and have Christmas all together? We would be together for around 4 hours in total. And there will be 8 of us during that 4 hour period.

This is also assuming she is well enough to participate, it may be that she doesn't want to go anywhere or do anything.

I would, I wouldn't even consider not doing this

Without a doubt- yes.

I had my last Christmas with my lovely dad last year. I had no idea it would be at the time, but I cherish that memory.

I would too, I would isolate for a week beforehand though (assuming its 7 days by then) just so I didn't pass covid on to her.

Yes, without hesitation.

Yes.

Yes without question

As long as she was happy to take the risk then 100%

Yes.

Yes. Without hesitation.

Yes no question. What a terribly sad time for your family

Yes, without a shadow of doubt

Yes if I could do it without putting her at further risk. And that would mean self isolating first.

I’m massively pro following the rules but in this circumstance I’d say do it. For most of us there will be other years, we ought to be able to wait, but for someone dying there won’t.

Yes definitely. Or what else are they for? What’s the end goal if you can’t spend your nan’s last Christmas together. What are we striving to protect ultimately? Hope you have a lovely Christmas together.

Absolutely yes i would .

Of course I would, and I wouldn't think twice about doing so. But like others have said, you don't want to risk giving it to her and making her ill, so maybe try and stay home for the 2 weeks beforehand. I hope you all have a lovely Christmas.

Of course.

Yes, I wouldn’t hesitate. And I have followed every rule to the letter to date - and even been more cautious than the rules most of the time. You will never get the time back, make the most of it while you can. I would self isolate first though as others have suggested to make sure you don’t give to her.

Yes.

She has another appointment next week to discuss treatment options and symptom management so we might know more then. But we might do it before December anyway so she can enjoy it a bit more.

We have all decided to stop non essential contact with anyone other than our family group for the foreseeable future where possible but yes we will all need to isolate before hand too.

I'm glad that everyone else would do the same, I'm a rule follower, but I didn't even hesitate when Dmum suggested it.